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PICKUP IS
*DEAD*
The Alpha
MANifesto
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Transform Yourself
Into the Genuine,
Confident, Successful
Man Every
Quality Woman Wants...
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This ebook is LONG overdue.
For the last 3 or 4 years, being a pickup artist has been all the rage.
Interestingly enough, Ive never considered myself a pickup artist. I
dont even have a clever call-sign to give me a false sense of
importance or coolness.
Pickup is
DEAD...
Long Live the
NEW Order of
Men Who
Know How to
BE Attractive.
Not just fake
it.
Manifesto - Noun
manifesto (plural manifestos or
manifestoes)
1.A public declaration of principles,
policies, or intentions
Famous Manifestoes:
!
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This report that youre about to read is going to blow the lid off the
secret society of pickup artists. Perhaps even more than my friend
Neil Strauss book did.
If youve been searching for a REAL answer to the question How
can I attract more women into my life? then hold on, because this
book will change the way you look at women, dating, practicing
pickup and may even change the way you look at your life.
YOUR Reality.
Define it
however you
want to.
And GET
REAL in the
process.
If youre scared of having your reality rocked, this isnt the book
youre looking for. Just close the file and move on to some other
clever list of opening lines or routines.
But if youre looking for
more than drunk makeout
sessions in a bar or club
with a woman you cant
quite see through the
smoke or hear through the
noise, then youre about to
learn the R.E.A.L. Art of
Attraction that most guys
will never hear about,
much less learn.
The first 90% of this book is hardcore content and pure gold, and the
rest is openhanded self-serving on my part. I want you to really GET
this information in a way that few others have.
And Im willing to use some unconventional methods to do it - but Ill
always be 100% honorable and authentic with you in the process.
Pardon my French, but this is no bullshit - and no hype. I dont have
time for that obnoxious sales stuff, and neither do you.
I intend to only give you the Truth in this book - straight from my
heart.
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I had a lot of guys write to me and tell me that they felt the information
Im giving away in this ebook would do one (or more) of several
things:
Infuriate the other pickup gurus out there...
Put everyone in this field out of business when they
discovered what Im about to reveal...
The things I
thought but
could not
say...
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PS: I made this book as short as it would let me. Meaning that when I
get started, its tough to stop me - especially when its a topic I know
as well as I do this one. So Im not going to waste your time or insult
your intelligence.
If you think I have, then email me or call me at the contact info Im
going to give you later in the report.
Unlike
Morpheus, I
have no Blue
Pill for you.
Im here to tell you what you need to hear, not fantasy nonsense
about women flocking to you like a rock star because youre wearing
a top hat and goggles.
Now lets get your red pill so you can unplug from this NEW matrix
called pickup and get plugged into a reality that YOU choose.
Sometimes
we dont need
a choice.
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Wait... Close this book right now.
Stop. I want you forget you saw this book. Its far too risky for you to
shake things up at this point.
Close this file and delete it. Please. Just throw it in your trash now
and forget you even saw it.
No, really. Get rid of it.
Huh?
Youre still here?
Hmmm. Well, I guess Ill continue, but I really hope youll see the light
and stay like everyone else. Please. I dont want to start a revolution.
Cmon, really man. Just close this book and let this silly notion go. Its
easier to not change. Its easier to just stay the same old person and
live your life in ignorant bliss.
Close this document and trash it. Ill refund you the money.
WHAT???!!
You still havent heeded my warning...?
EXCELLENT!
You ARE the right kind of guy.
Youre not a quitter. No one ever made a statue for or celebrated a
quitter.
All right. Lets get this thing started.
Ill start by telling you something you think you already know...
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Its Not Just About Getting Laid, Is It?
Its 4:00 AM, and Im laying next to my girlfriend in bed. Shes a very
beautiful Asian woman, and she fills my every need.
And it took me over ten years to get her.
10 years is
better than
NEVER, right?
No, I dont mean that I got her by appearing on her doorstep every
week bringing her flowers and candies.
I didnt do it by sending her poems and desperate pleas to be my
woman. I didnt do it by acting like a cartoon character wimp from a
sitcom on television. I didnt do it by buying her expensive gifts or
flaunting wealth.
I did it by being me.
Not the me that I was many years
ago, mind you. Not the un-refined
me that I once used to repel women
in the past.
It also wasnt the pickup artist
version of me that I used to attract
women in bars in clubs just a few
short years ago.
I did this by being a Man.
A REAL man with modern masculinity that is authentic and attractive
to women.
And it really didnt take me 10 years to get HER, per se, but it took
that long for me to create the Alpha Lifestyle that would draw her in
and make her mine.
(It will take you a LOT less time than it did me if you read this and
heed my words.)
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And its my objective here to tell you more about how you can do this
on your own, with no bootcamps and no top hats or fake it til you
make it mind games.
Over 90% of the guys in my bootcamps and seminars want a single
lasting relationship with one woman.
ONE woman.
QUALITY is
something
most guys
define by the
size of her
boobs, the
cuteness of
her tush, and
the speed
with which he
can sleep with
her.
Or cant sleep
with her...
And when you talk to them, they all agree that its not about getting
laid, really.
Yeah, we all want sex - even women want it (and more than you can
imagine) - but in the end were all looking for a lasting relationship.
And almost all of these guys I talked to wanted a QUALITY woman.
Now since quality is a subjective term, Ill come back to that in a
while.
The important thing to come away with here is that going after women
is not really about getting laid. Most guys know this, yet we chase
the quick lay promises because they appeal to our most primitive
part of our mind.
I want to show you a way that you can get the women, the sex, the
relationship - and the LIFESTYLE you desire.
And you wont have to wear ridiculous clothes and play head games
to get it all.
Ill warn you now, this book is as wild and diverse as my mind.
As a result, youre going to read a lot of interesting things in these
pages, so hang on and let me tell you...
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A Story You Might Relate To...
Keith is a good friend of mine. Keith used to be
something of a pickup artist. He was a decent
enough looking guy, and in his late twenties.
This is NOT
Keith.
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Let me keep going with Keiths story a bit longer...
Keith went to bootcamps and seminars. He learned the routines and
the openers.
Openers are the specific words that other pickup
artists used to hook the interest of women.
Do you ever
feel like
something is
missing?
Is there some
kind of
Da Vinci code
for the
Game?
Kino is another way of saying kinesthetics meaning the science of touch between people, and
how to use it to build attraction.
He was even introduced to the concept of Inner Game along the
way.
Inner game is the internal dialogue were having in
our head, and is often directly connected to a mans
confidence.
Keith got just about every bit of information he needed...
But something was still missing.
He and I would talk over various philosophical elements when we
would meet up and snowboard in Tahoe. We were on a lift, and he
asked me:
So how do I put all this stuff I learned together into something I can
use?
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I always hesitate here, primarily because its a big question, and if I
come up with an answer too soon, Ill seem like Im not really hearing
them out.
Keith was actually asking me the Big Question of this whole dating
and seduction community.
So after a dramatic, thoughtful pause, I finally got around to
answering him.
R.E.A.L. Game
is...
Dude, your answer is right in front of you, but you dont even see it.
He said, Huh?
Relaxed &
Resourceful
Effective &
Energized
Alpha &
Authentic
Lifestyle &
Lasting
Youre sitting here on a ski lift with me, but we havent even been
talking to the other people on the chair with us.
He looked a bit mystified, but after a minute his eyes closed and he
started nodding and smiling.
You see, a lot of guys go through this. They learn a lot of pickup
skills - the opening lines and the techniques, but they dont learn that
they need to be integrating their skills into their daily lives.
Its just as much about being a good SOCIAL guy as it is about being
good at dating.
In fact, its ten times more important to balance your pickup /
seduction / dating skills with your social skills.
Why?
Because for every guy that gets the girl he wants, he realizes that
creating a relationship requires deeper inner game skills than he ever
imagined.
Just being a clever guy with a quick story is not enough to keep a
woman interested in you.
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Over the next four months, Keith got himself fired up and started
again with his own interests and hobbies. He got interested in his own
life and what he was doing. He got active in his outdoor sports, and
just enjoying his life for HIM.
I even visited his cabin again in Tahoe and found he had put one of
my sayings up on the wall: Youre not put here to discover yourself youre here to CREATE yourself.
One Word
that can take
you into the
next level...
Im glad he learned that lesson finally. And I was flattered that he took
something I said to heart and started using it.
Fast forward a few months and Kevin had found a good woman who
made him happy. And didnt get her from using pickup skills (even
though he had a more fundamental understanding of them.)
And I met her. Shes hot.
Keith got her when he was most focused on driving up the quality and
Alpha Power in his own lifestyle.
And he was also using something else now, without even knowing it.
This one word transformed his game into the next level.
Ill talk about that in the next part...
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In the Beginning...
There was the word.
And the word was Seduction.
There is a
secret world
of psychology
beneath the
one that we
assume is
rational...
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Then, somewhere in the mid-90s, a set of books came on the scene
called Love Tactics. These small books took a slightly religious angle
on the whole topic, but they also pointed out something that I had
never really figured out on my own before.
Simply put:
Attraction is not LOGICAL.
It wont happen.
Or dating you...
Or sleeping with you...
Or being devoted and faithful to you.
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After all, I can cry about how I get wet when I go out in the rain, but it
will never change the reality that RAIN GETS ME WET.
As soon as I can accept the rules (i.e., reality), I can then get moving
on how to beat the game.
(And this goes for you, too.)
Reality has
teeth, and it
will bite you
on the ass if
you ignore it.
So just like Keith, I went and read everything I could find. (But this
was WAY before you could find any seduction advice online.)
As I worked on the principles, I even got good at making up my own
techniques along the way.
Heres an example:
I knew that if I pulled away from a woman that was already liking me,
I could enhance the attraction she felt from her fear of loss.
(Its manipulative, but it does work. This is how many women use
hard-to-get.)
So one night I was on my way over to my girlfriends place and I
decided Id try something out. I called her from my cell phone and
said, Hey, its Carlos. Im not going to be able to make it to dinner
tonight... (insert a slight pause here) ...Uh, until maybe a half-hour
later. Got caught up with something. See you then...
Now what was I trying to do there? Well, two things.
First, I was trying to scare her a little with saying I wasnt going to
be able to make it... then pausing so she thought I wouldnt be able to
make it at all. Then shed feel relieved when she heard the next part
that I was only going to be 30 minutes late.
Second, I was trying to change the plans up and be a wee bit
unpredictable.
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This was all very artificial, and in the end I dont think it made ANY
difference to our dating relationship.
Eventually, we broke up, as most relationships go.
What a man
wants - just
as much as
sex - is the
thought of
having a highquality
woman at his
side...
But I think at the time using these tactics wasnt really about HER as
much as it was about improving my attitude and giving me the ability
to push away from a woman. (I was pretty needy at this time.)
I was actually teaching my brain how to stop relying on women and
start relying on myself, in a funny way.
Over the next few years I started figuring this out as I tried to improve
my own skills by coming up with the whole mindset of this confident
guy I saw out there having success with women.
As I was putting my stuff together, other guys appeared out there like
David D. and others with really cool sounding names, like Mystery
and Style. I had no idea they were out there because I was doing
my own thing.
And after I got moving on this quest, I
started developing my own
techniques with women. I would play
hard-to-get. Id be aloof. I would
tease women relentlessly. I would
turn on Mr. Charming and Mr. Funny
guy at will.
I knocked em dead.
But it got OLD really quick. The
women I met were fun, for a time, and then things inevitably faded
out.
What I wanted was a quality woman that I could put effort into
and really focus on building a relationship.
It sounds funny coming from a guy, but I got really tired of the women
who were just looking for a good time.
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Thats when I decided that I needed to figure out the next part of this
skill set, which is how to attract QUALITY women. The kind of woman
I could keep around for a while.
You see, when you get to a certain point, you realize that women are
mostly wonderful, but they have a lot of inner game issues, too.
They lack confidence. They dont have their lives together. They can
be a little crazy.
The single
most
important
decision you
will make in
your life is the
woman that
you decide to
make your
long-term
companion...
And the worst thing you can do to yourself is to take a loose cannon
like that and let her into your life.
The single most important decision you
will make in your life is the woman that
you decide to make your long-term
companion.
Shell either make you... or break you faster
than a thin, dry board in a karate class.
You can chase all the drunk, barely-20something bar chicks you like. But you will
burn out very soon if you share too much time
with people who have no real direction, or
who cannot add much value to your life.
These people with no direction are simply
waiting for you to LEAD them to something better.
Im not advocating using other people just to add to your own
existence here. After all, it should be mutual.
But there is a concept that I talk about called mutually beneficial
selfishness. It means that you help yourself first so that you can be
healthy enough in spirit to give back to others in the world.
Im going to share more about this attitude - and how to find the
power to lead with confidence - with you in this book.
But now you need to know...
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How Your Reality Is Being Messed
With - BIG Time.
I want to share with you a question that one of my students sent me.
This might help clarify a few things - or it might make you even more
confused.
How do you
stay
confident, no
matter what?
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moods. You can't predict a bad mood, and you can't avoid them.
Sometimes you just won't feel top-shelf.
That's life.
The other variable in this is something we call "confidence." It
seems like sometimes you've got what you need, and other times you
can't seem to get it together.
NEWSFLASH:
There is no
such thing as
confidence...
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something unfamiliar.
Let's say you're a snowboarder...
Early on, when you haven't been snowboarding much, your head is
full of all the static and chatter of your internal doubts.
"You're going to fall on your face..."
Forget your
fears and you
instantly
become
confident...
How could we
have missed
this?
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And THAT is what "confidence" actually is...
The LACK of uncertainty, doubt, hesitation, fear, and worry that we
push into our head.
So when you ask me about how to get more consistent with your
game, I want you to remember that you might not always be able to
bring your A-game when it comes to talking with women.
Pickup
techniques
and lines are
simply
BORROWED
confidence...
But if you just go in and DO it, you'll find that you will leave
more and more of those negative thoughts and feelings behind, and
the "static" will disappear. You'll think you're more confident,
but you're really just not indulging in old destructive thought
patterns.
Pickup techniques and lines don't really boost your confidence.
You just believe it will help you because of the last guy who used it
successfully. (So they said). That's why I teach you how to win
the inner game of confidence first, because women can smell how
much you really believe what you're saying.
Your confidence comes to you when you stop listening to all the
chatter that tries to undermine your will and positive attitude.
One step you can do right now to improve is to get in touch with
your physical presence as a way of "grounding" your mind in the
here and now.
You see, a lot of guys live a very active mental life.
This can be both good and bad. For most guys who are out there
trying to work up the "confidence" to approach women and talk to
women, it's very very BAD.
The reason is that they are so up in their heads and caught in
their own thoughts that they literally disconnect from their
bodies. And when you stop being intimately "in your own skin," you
start to exhibit some strange body language, and you lack that
feeling of being THERE.
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It sounds a bit new-agey, but it's actually very practical.
Every day, you should start off with a short meditation and a ritual of
some kind.
Here's a simple one you can do:
Find a ritual
for yourself
that starts
your day
YOUR way...
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5 HUGE Mistakes Guys Make When
Learning Attraction Skills
There are actually probably MANY more than just five mistakes, but I
chose to focus on the five that are probably hurting your dating and
social skills the most.
There is
nothing in the
world like
really being in
the shoes of
the guy who is
talking to a
woman and
interacting on
a very deep
level of
rapport...
The reason Im telling you about them now is so that you can beware
of the negative impact and avoid wasting time and money on lowyield methods.
Lets start with...
MISTAKE NUMBER 1: Watching pickup videos and thinking this
will help your game.
There are a lot of secret videos and hyped up hidden camera videos
you can find out there. They make a lot of interesting viewing, sort of
like the television shows theyve been putting on lately about pickup
artists and Keys to the VIP.
But heres something to remember...
There is nothing like the real event.
What I mean by this is that you can watch secret hidden undercover
videos of guys in bars all you like, but it wont help your game at all.
In fact, this can actually be downright devastating to your game. It
can take your current competence and confidence and flush it down
the toilet.
Why?
I mean, I really wish these videos did work. It would make my job so
much easier just to go in the field and record myself meeting and
talking with women.
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In fact, I used to do this a lot. I recorded the audio and/or video of me
interacting with women on hidden camera, and then show it to my
students in the classroom. They were all impressed and many of
them even said, Oh, THATS how you do it.
But when they got out in the bars that night, they all complained of
the exact same things:
Watching pickup videos doesnt work for the simple reason that
watching someone do something that requires fine-tuned attention
and presence is nowhere near the same thing as being in that
persons shoes.
You ever watch a professional athlete of some kind like a skier or a
snowboarder, and you think, I could do that. That looks easy.
Then you get to the top of a mountain on your board or your skis and
peer over the edge at the slope below you, and your heart falls into
your stomach.
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You start sliding down, and as you carve into your first turn, you
realize this is NOTHING like how the guy on the video looked.
Or you watch a cooking show, and you see the chef do something
that doesnt require any physical expertise - its just putting food
together. But when you try the SAME recipe, it just doesnt taste quite
right.
I gotta be
ME...
And you gotta
be YOU.
As they say in NLP, the map is not the same as the terrain.
MISTAKE NUMBER 2: Learning and rehearsing material that is
not true or authentic to YOU.
Theres a little concept I call the Gap, and it goes like this:
A lot of guys learn about techniques they can use to pickup on
women.
(Pickup is really just the masculine version of the word flirt. But
beware: The word pickup has a lot of negative baggage on it.
Women do not respond favorably to the term.)
Like walking up to a woman and asking for her opinion on something,
like, Hey, I need a womans perspective on this. My friend thinks his
girlfriend might be cheating on him. How would he be able to find out
for sure?
That gets you into a conversation under the pretense of just wanting
her opinion.
The problem is that women everywhere know how this works, and
theyll call you on it.
Theyll say:
Are you trying some of that pickup stuff on us?
or
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Are you some kind of pickup artist or
something?
If youve ever had it happen to you, then you
know what a socially awkward moment this
can be - and how completely embarrassing it
is.
And even if you have enough game or
routines or stories to use, and clever banter
youve memorized, the time comes in the
conversation when you realize that youre
about to run dry.
Ever been
caught using
a line?
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I have coached many guys that have been in denial into their 40s and
50s as to what was true to them. Youd think that by a certain age we
would have this thing figured out, wouldnt you?
Nope.
The longer you wait, the harder it gets. Set the right foundation NOW.
Jack of all
trades,
master of...
NOTHING.
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1) I was getting a lot of cool games, but not having any time to play all
of them.
2) The games I liked and spent my time on, I would never finish. After
all, when I was bored with it, or ran into a challenging obstacle,
there was something new to try. I got addicted to the novelty,
and I never finished anything I started.
You are
desperately
seeking the
right
CHALLENGE
for your life...
3) I was getting more and more bored with the games I got, because
none of them had any value to me.
So when you see a movie where the guy gets all his wishes, and hes
still bored and unhappy, thats about the truth of it. Yeah, you might
say, That would never be ME, man... Id have fun and Id do this, and
Id do that... but the reality is that if you won the lottery tomorrow,
chances are youd be broke in just a few years.
And if you werent broke, youd be just as bored and unfulfilled.
Why?
Because we need to be CHALLENGED.
We need something in our lives that
drives us to a higher purpose.
Once your basic needs are taken care of,
your free time is usually spent thinking
about all the things you still dont have.
This is the source of the saying: Idle
hands are the devils playground.
What has this got to do with dating skills?
Well, first of all, even if you had
MASSIVE skills with women, youd still have your own life to deal
with. Ask any guru out there (or just listen to my interview program
where they tell you straight from the source) and hell tell you that the
one thing they realized was that after they got good with women, they
still had all the problems and challenges of their lives to deal with.
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Your life doesnt miraculously change from getting this one area
handled.
Its not the getting good with women thats the goal in this game.
Its the who you become to get good with women that makes you an
Alpha Man.
That dudes
got BALLS,
man...
They could be
saying that
about YOU.
My second point about this is that you could read every ebook and
listen to every CD and watch every DVD on this topic, and you
wouldnt be ANY better with women...
Until you go out and use the information to improve yourself, build the
character, and cultivate the skills you need.
LIVE and In-the-field, as we say.
Its the only way.
Dont wind up being a jack of all trades, master of nothing.
Dont be the guy sitting at home all night, writing up questions for
every guru to answer. (I get guys who field their questions to me and
multiple others in the hopes of finding some contradiction or God
knows what.)
Be the guy with the huge balls of steel that just goes out there and
gets better by DOING it.
We all know whos playing the game and who is just sitting on the
sidelines, studying plays, and waiting for the perfect opportunity to
jump in the game.
MISTAKE NUMBER 4: Going after the wrong goal.
Yet another problem Ive seen with guys is that they learn about this
field of dating advice/seduction/attraction skills and they channel all
their energy into conquering it.
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Well, thats nice and all, but your goal is not a WOMAN.
Your goal is the lifestyle that makes you happy, and pulls women into
it, like a tornado.
When you chase a woman as your goal, youre setting yourself up for
the biggest disappointment in the world. Especially when you realize
that no human being can live up to the ideals we set in our mind.
You are
responsible
for your own
mental state.
No one makes
you feel
anything you
dont want to.
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rid of these bad beliefs because they will determine the outcome of
your life.
Let me say that again:
Your faulty beliefs will hold you back from the success you
desire - and deserve - from life.
I choose to
believe in the
things that
make life
WORK for
me.
Remember, beliefs are beliefs because they are NOT facts. Facts are
clear cut and established. Theres no debate.
But beliefs are called beliefs because they are not set in stone, and
every person has a different set.
And we all treat our beliefs as if they are set in stone, dont we?
Ive found that a great many of those beliefs try to hide as guilt and
other kinds of disabling emotions that were programmed into you by
certain institutions to make you conform and not pose a threat to
others.
Yes, I realize that this sounds a bit paranoid and conspiracy-theory,
but it really is true. Most of the structure of society and the world is
this way to establish a pecking order.
But Im not here to go off on a political rant. I just want you to
understand just how everyone is looking
out through a set of filters and lenses ...
and some people have a really bad
prescription.
What Im driving at here is that you are
a sexual being.
You are a man.
You like sex.
And theres nothing at all wrong with
wanting and getting that sex.
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(As long as you harm no one else in the process. As the Hypocratic
oath goes, first - do no harm.)
The problem comes when your sex drive is not channeled correctly.
You see a lot of guys go through life chasing one thing...
Pussy.
Youve got a
destiny ahead
of you...
Do you know
what it is?
Are you even
looking for it?
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And, ironically, you cant have the kind of relationship or give the kind
of life you could give to a woman if you dont pursue this destiny.
It doesnt mean you quit your job, or you go sailing around the world
on some merchant steamer to seek your fortune.
In fact, if youve ever read the classic essay Acres of Diamonds, you
know that your hidden treasure is right there inside you right now.
What if every
guy out there
was a genius,
but he never
found his
talent?
What a waste
that would be.
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Thats what I do, and thats what I teach men how to do.
And the funny (or not so funny) part of this is that if you pursue your
own dreams, your own goals, your own destiny... women will want to
come along for the ride.
There is NOTHING more sexy to a woman than a man with ambition
and drive.
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The THINK Barrier
Theres a little-known concept that I want to acquaint you with. Its
called the Think Barrier.
Have you ever given someone a task to do, maybe a co-worker or
friend, and it seemed pretty straightforward to you, but they couldnt
seem to just take the task and RUN with it?
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attraction works, and all the examples I give you in my ebooks, CDs,
and DVDs, what do YOU think you should say?
Theres a long uncomfortable moment there where the person often
realizes that what Im asking them is just to THINK for themselves
and really burn some brain fuel.
But Carlos,
you say I have
to be a better
MAN...?
I have to
deserve what
I want?
Thats too
hard! Just
give me a
pickup line
instead...
The guys that are willing to pull out a piece of paper and THINK
through their response inevitably are the guys who excel and
improve their skills MASSIVELY.
The guys who go into a severe state of mental constipation and
just beg me to tell them what to say almost NEVER get it.
I realized that these latter guys are also the men
who have never really been challenged or
pushed to think deeply into anything their whole
lives.
Probably one or both of their parents was overcontrolling, or did everything for them when they
were kids. As a result, they never learned the
process of really pushing their brain into a higher
gear.
I see parents at the Martial Arts studio I teach at do this all the time.
They tell their kids what to say and what to do. Their moms even take
off their shoes for them. I know that these kids will never be
challenged to really perform for themselves. Their future is being set
right before my eyes.
This concept is what I call the Think Barrier.
How far will you go to avoid the nasty work of thinking?
Youd be AMAZED at how much work people do just to avoid thinking
for themselves.
Let me tell you something:
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No one will be there to give you the authenticity to respond correctly
when a woman asks you a question you werent prepared for.
It will have to come from YOU.
No one will be there for you when you have to think of something to
say to a woman on a date.
YOU will have to find your words and use them.
Mommy and
daddy are not
going to help
you anymore.
The world
belongs to the
man that
helps himself.
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I have a feeling youre starting to nod your head more and more at
what youre reading here.
Good. Ive still got more to show you.
Lets move on to the...
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Signs That Pickup Really is Dead
Sign #1) Women already know what the game is, and all about
the clever tricks.
Remember at the start of this document when I talked about Neil
Strauss book, The Game?
The times,
they are achanging.
Its a fun read, and a lot of guys got into this area of selfdevelopment purely because they read that one book. Sure, its
about 20% techniques, and about 80% drama, but its a nice read.
But now the time of the pickup artist is coming to a close.
Women everywhere have read this same book, and they know
what the Game is all about. They know how to smell a pickup
game even before you have time to ask Ladies, who do you
think lies more, men or women?
They can see anything you use before you use it.
Except one thing - and its what they desperately need to see.
And its the one thing you need to know about.
Ill tell you in a couple pages...
Yes, you can blame the media or Neils book, but the
reality is that women know what youre up to. The only
man that stands a CHANCE of getting past a womans
defensive shields is the one that knows how to fly under
her radar.
Youre not doing this to trick her, either. Thats a big
difference between using seduction skills and what I call
Alpha Attraction skills.
Seduction is for the chump who is trying to get without giving.
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Alpha Attraction is about creating a win-win situation for both of
you. Where your woman isnt a one-hit wonder.
Imagine the life where women call you back, my friend.
Sign #2: Television has ruined pickup even more for you.
Okay, heres
the REAL
secret to
attracting
women...
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If I could sum up what women want in one quick sentence, its that
they want you to be YOU better than anybody else could be YOU.
Thats what they REALLY mean when they say just be yourself.
Theyre not saying, Just be the weakest, most timid version of
yourself. Nor are they saying, Be all the parts of you that are not
very attractive to women on the surface.
If I could just
act like Im
sincere, Id
have this
whole dating
thing figured
out...
SINCERITY
It cant be faked. And it can only make you look and feel more
authentic and genuine.
In sales, one of the most powerful concepts is to tell the customer the
Truth, even if it might be a little embarrassing. Its all in how you
frame this Truth.
You see, today were all much better educated consumers. Were
much more sophisticated after being bombarded with constant ads
and commercials. You know when someones trying to sell you
something.
Hey, Ill admit it right now - Im trying to sell you on a new point of
view, and the possibility that I can help you grow and achieve your
goals as a man.
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And if theres one thing that we HATE, its someone trying to sell us
something with a blatant, stupid, used-car-salesman sales pitch.
Have you ever gotten a phone call, somewhere around dinner time,
and you answer it, and you hear that pause before someone in a
way-too-cheery voice says, Mr. So-and-so? I want to tell you about a
fantastic bargain were having over here at ---
CLICK.
But if someone walks up to us and says, You know what, Im not
going to bore you with a stupid sales pitch here. I just want to tell you
that Ive got some really nice speakers at a good discount at my store
because I was dumb and ordered way too many. If you really like
quality home audio, you might want to come and give em a listen.
Thats it. Sorry to interrupt you.
Im probably going to think a little more about this offer than the guy
that tries to be clever and slip me a flyer as Im walking by.
The Best Homeless Sales-person I Ever Met:
One night after coming home from a speaking engagement, my
girlfriend and I decided to indulge in a little Kentucky Fried Chicken. (I
confess to being a total chicken-skin addict. I love that original
recipe...)
Anyway, were walking into the KFC when a woman walks up to us.
Now in this area of town, Im expecting the usual homeless pitch.
(Sorry if that sounds a bit cold, but thats what happens when youre
hit with the same thing over and over. You start to tune out a bit. A lot
like attractive women get hit with the same Youre so beautiful crap
from guys.)
Instead of saying, Hey, can you spare some change?, this woman
said:
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Im sorry to bother you, and Im not going to ask you for any money. I
am very hungry. Im living in the park over there. Would you mind just
getting me some food? Id really appreciate it.
I stopped for a second and nodded to her. Sure. Well get you
something.
She came in with us and I bought her a meal.
Do you trust
anyone?
Can they
trust you?
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When you hear the saying: Honesty is the best policy, what they
really mean is be sincere and straightforward. Dont blast someone
with awkward and socially mis-calibrated information. Just be on the
level.
Its all about the sincerity.
Sincerity, sincerity, SINCERITY...
One pickup
line that
works without
fail...
TRUST
One of the things I like to say (and youll hear about in my programs)
when I walk up and talk to a woman is this: Hey, I dont have a clever
pickup line. I just wanted to meet you. My name is Carlos...
That one never fails to get a woman to open up and talk to me.
Try it.
If you say it from the heart, women will listen and open up to you.
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4 Questions to Ask Yourself About
The Quality Of Your Dating Advice
Im going to save you a lot of pain and wasted time and money.
Im going to point out all the things you should watch for when youre
deciding on jumping into a program to develop your dating and
attraction skills with women.
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Just like outer game techniques, inner game techniques like those
I teach have the added benefit of improving you as a complete
man instead of just addressing one small detail.
Get 100%
behind
yourself.
Its the best
long-term
strategy to
success there
is.
Heres a big one that most guys overlook. They get a book of
routines or some clever cocky and funny lines, and they sound
great if you were imagining someone else delivering them, but they
would feel really weird if you said them.
Instead of regurgitating someone elses material, you need a style
that you can adapt and adopt to your individual style, such as my
REAL Game.
You can take just about any opener and use it to start a
conversation with a woman or group of women fairly easily, but its
what comes after that opener that will make or break you. And
thats where a woman will make her decision.
Choose a technique or style that matches your personality, and
your core values. If youre not aligned with what youre saying, it
feels weird to other people. It would be like me talking with a real
wishy-washy tone right now.
I just kinda think you should sorta think about being
a bit more confident with ladies. Well, maybe. I
guess...
You see what I mean? It doesnt match the tone of what Im saying,
so you immediately distrust it. This is called incongruence.
And if you dont feel 100% behind the words youre using, youll
also come across the same way as using weak words, like you
dont match your message.
Stay close to your identity and you wont fall into the Gap.
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QUESTION #3) Is the teacher or guru someone you can
respect and trust?
I really believe that you can learn from
anyone, but youll also learn the most - and
the fastest - from someone who has a solid
core of character and integrity.
Learn only
from the man
doing what it
is you want to
do... with the
character and
virtues of a
man you wish
to become.
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It means that your ability to attract women is not just one skill, but
MANY different skills that add up to an overall VIBE of attraction
that makes a woman stand up and pay attention to you.
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A 2-dimensional picture is a cartoon. Like a Bugs Bunny show.
This is the man with just veneer and game.
A 3-dimensional picture is more realistic. Like a Pixar movie that
feels like its got depth. This is a man with skills AND the
authenticity.
You want to
blow all the
other guys
away?
Leave them in
the dust?
Add on a
dimension of
reality and
authenticity
to yourself
that sings to
a womans
SOUL...
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4 Ways to Get Your Life On Track
So youve tried the road of the pickup artist or the seducer...
Or ... maybe you havent, but youre still looking for an answer.
Well let me help get you started on the most important part of the
house that is your life: The foundation.
If youve ever seen where a new skyscraper is being built, youll
notice something very interesting. The early part of construction is to
dig a hole down REALLY deep.
Go higher by
going
d
e
e
p
e
r
.
.
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To do one, you must be willing to NOT do another.
I fought this for years, trying to do everything that I wanted to in life. I
wanted to play guitar in a band, compose music, have a career, meet
women and party several nights a week, read a lot of books, etc.
FOCUS
intently on
the things
that are
important to
you.
Now, you can get a lot accomplished in a well planned lifestyle, but
you cant do everything. And the more you try to multi-task in life,
the more likely you are to totally screw up your life.
Read this transcription from Linda Stones speech on this topic of
continuous partial attention:
In 1997 I coined the phrase "continuous partial attention".
For almost two decades, continuous partial attention has
been a way of life to cope and keep up with
responsibilities and relationships. We've stretched our
attention bandwidth to upper limits. We think that if tech
has a lot of bandwidth then we do, too.
With continuous partial attention we keep the top level
item in focus and scan the periphery in case something
more important emerges. Continuous partial attention is
motivated by a desire not to miss opportunities. We want
to ensure our place as a live node on the network, we feel
alive when we're connected. To be busy and to be
connected is to be alive.
We've been working to maximize opportunities and
contacts in our life. So much social networking, so little
time. Speed, agility, and connectivity at top of mind.
Marketers humming that tune for two decades now.
Now we're over-stimulated, over-wound, unfulfilled.
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More and more people feel this way, unfortunately. Its become the
norm for many of us. We try to do too many things and wind up
getting none of them done very well.
Were drowning in mediocrity.
What if someone could show you a way to find the right things to pay
attention to so that you dont wind up at the end of your life regretting
all the things you didnt do...?
You live in a
world of
plenty.
There are
over 41
MILLION
unmarried
women under
the age of 45.
Get busy.
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So how can I be in the zone of not being hungry when I truly am
starving? My approach doesn't come as needy but there must be a
"X" factor or something that maybe women are sensing?
Because I call them once and never hear from them again, not
even a first date at all, but at the time them are giving me the initial
indicators of interest and attraction.
Youll never
stop being
who you truly
are.
How do you control your hunger when in reality you haven't had a
girlfriend or gotten laid in over seven years - or ever?
Yes, neediness drives women away, but how do you mask it or
control it and appear not hungry when in reality you are truly truly
famished?
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
This is a great question, because it speaks to the heart of what I
teach.
First of all, remember that the problem is not that you've not gotten
laid in seven years. That's a symptom, not the actual disease.
Mistaking it for the real problem is what distracts most guys.
The secret is really to NOT pretend that youre not hungry. We all
know thats impossible. Women DO sense this and they WILL
avoid men with that rabid scent of "gotta get laid" just as much as
men avoid the women with that rabid scent of "gotta get married."
But just because youre hungry doesnt mean you can only have
ONE kind of food.
Wouldnt it be nuts to hear this interaction:
Im starving to death! I havent had a bite to eat in 3 days!
Well, here, have some of my chicken sandwich.
Oh... Sorry, I only eat Pizza. Do you have any pizza? I gotta
have some pizza!
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That would seem ridiculous, right?
But the same thing applies to women.
If youre starving for sex, youre not really
looking at the big picture. Youve just become
a slave to your own genitals.
Feed yourself
by giving
yourself a
chance to
taste every
part of your
life.
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THAT is when women will really take notice of you.
Because what youre feeling is not really "hunger." It's ENERGY
that you have not tapped into in the right ways to move you
forward in the other areas of your life that you've been neglecting.
Get away
from the
people who do
not help you
become who
you want to
be.
Those who
would
discourage
you from your
dreams are
the ones that
have already
given up on
their own.
When you hold this energy in, you'll get emotionally constipated,
which is part of that "X factor" you mentioned in your letter.
Unfocused light is useless. But focus that light into one coherent
beam and you have a laser capable of cutting steel.
Let your energy out and push you toward feeding your desires with
other achievements than women.
And I can guarantee you that the women will want to come along
for that ride...
LIFE COMPASS 3) Change Your Environment
Heres a little-known reality that most people forget - or completely
ignore.
You are a product of your environment. All the life experiences you
absorbed from your family, your friends, your upbringing, your
schooling, etc., created who you are today.
If we were to go back in time and change a few of these elements,
theres a high probability that you wouldnt be ANYTHING like who
you are right now.
Your environment is STILL impacting who you are to this day.
The part that most people dont understand is that we can choose
our environment in life when we become adults, and its up to us to
determine which one we will be a part of.
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If youre hanging around with friends who hold you back, or enable
your tendency to be lazy, or to not change, or just generally do not
challenge you to grow, you are going to stagnate and wither.
In order to become the Alpha Man you are capable of creating,
you must be exposed to people who challenge you and who are
everything you want to become.
Be careful of
associating
pain with the
possibility of
learning a
new and
better way of
living...
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LIFE COMPASS 4) Build your Social Skills...
Social awareness is not always natural or automatic. I wish it
were, but it usually isnt.
I grew up severely socially retarded. I mean that in a realistic way.
I could see what was going on, but I had no tools or techniques to
help me get through weird or difficult social situations. I learned the
same way most people did: Trial and error.
And error.
And error.
And a lot more error.
Unfortunately, some social skills
MUST be learned through making
the mistakes. No one can short-cut
you past all of them. You learn
sometimes from feeling the pain.
The problem is that we learned our
social responses and skills from
people with certain agendas and
goals that were not always wellmeaning.
People play games with us. Its a fact. Its something I devoted a
whole program to so that guys could learn all the social skills for
managing other people in your life manipulate you with games.
Because, unfortunately, your success will not be determined by
your degree or how smart you are.
The most successful people have strong social skills.
And your final compass point...
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LIFE COMPASS POINT 5) Get started building your foundation.
I think in a lot of ways, weve been doing the excavation for your
skyscraper in this book.
Weve been digging deep into the earth of your
beliefs and attitudes to create a big hole that we can
now start to lay some serious foundation in.
What is this foundation made of?
Well, theyre primarily the various meta-skills Ive
been discussing along the way.
Ill list some of them for you here:
Rock-solid Inner Game - You must have inner
confidence and the state of mind to come from a relaxed
frame of mind. You need to really believe in yourself, your
life, and your goals.
Power Social Skills - You must have an ability to relate to
people. This doesnt mean you have to change into a
complete social butterfly overnight. It just means that you
have to venture out of your self-imposed comfort bubble to
acquire a new skill that will reap you rewards unimaginable
to the solitary man. And as we know, no man is an island
unto himself.
Motivation - You must have the fuel to get your lifestyle into
high gear and get to your goals. Every man is motivated,
even when hes sitting on the couch watching TV. The trick is
to find your reason for doing something and light a fire under
your own ass to go after it. And its not all that hard to do. We
have more free time and more opportunities than any other
generation has ever had in history, yet were still bored. Well
thats only because you havent tapped into your mission.
Stick with me and Ill help you find it.
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Strong Dating and Attraction Skills - Hey, the reason you
probably got started on this path was to satisfy your natural
need for sexual companionship. Every man has it, and every
man deserves to get what he wants. Techniques are still
necessary, but even more than the techniques is learning
and modeling the person whos using them to achieve our
own Holy SHIT! moment where it all clicks into place, and
suddenly you know how the REAL game works.
Lifestyle Skills: Learning the Things They Dont Teach
You in School - I always wondered why they didnt teach
things like how to balance your checkbook or how to
manage your money or start a savings plan when we were in
school. Instead we were learning facts and dates that almost
none of us ever use after we leave high school. They taught
us how to be a good little employee, and go work for a big
shiny corporation, but they didnt teach us the stuff that
mattered. I guess Im different in that I believe that every
man needs to round out his lifestyle with the skills that will
really matter in the long run - Not learning how long it will
take Train A going 60 miles an hour to collide with Train B
going 30 miles an hour. Call me silly...
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LAST WORDS...
I wanted to share a letter with you as a way to explain what it
REALLY takes to get a woman. It might seem a bit out of place to talk
about his one night stand when weve been talking so much about
authenticity and so forth, but its the concept of what women want
from men that is most important in this story.
The sooner
you get
started, the
sooner you
will achieve all
the things you
want in life.
If not now,
WHEN?
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Of course your advice did help a lot. For example I acted
confident and seemed to be sure of what I was doing, I was
even trying to make her laugh successfully (I guess our sense
of humor was similar).
So [your] three 'S's worked perfectly here: Self-confidence,
sense of humor, and self-control. Oh, and I used [your] palm
reading trick as an excuse to get closer to her and this is where
it started.
My questions are:
(1) She seemed to be very into me that night but was regularly
saying that she would not be having sex with me. I took it easy,
took a few seconds break and tried again till she accepted.
Would she have said that only to test my reaction?
(2) If a girl is supposed to sleep with a guy if she trusts him
(most importantly) then why did she do it on the first night she
met me - and after only a few hours? Can that really be enough
for a girl to trust a guy?
Keep rocking dude!!
R. in the UK
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
This is a common situation with guys that seems illogical up
front, but is actually very obvious underneath.
First off, a woman says that sort of thing ("I'm not sleeping with
you") for one reason primarily, and it's not really to test you. It's
actually her way of establishing in her mind that she is
remaining "innocent." Women are culturally and societally
programmed to protect their sexuality as their "secret value" to
the world.
It's her bargaining chip.
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The one thing a woman used in days-gone-by to assure her
survival was her sexuality. It was her unique selling proposal
for men that she had to guard.
If a man thought she was a "loose woman," it
lowered her sexual value. After all, how would he be
able to be sure that his children were really HIS if
she was the kind of girl who messed around?
Well, in the last few years we've been able to
destroy that myth (of the chaste woman who does
not cheat) with the discovery that about 10% of all
kids are not from the father they think they are.
But it's VITALLY important to a woman's social appearance to
her peers and to men that she look innocent.
Think about what the worst insult is to a woman: Slut.
So she will proclaim until the end of the world that she's a
"Good Girl."
And her way of maintaining this image to you is to make you
believe that she "never does this sort of thing."
And she even denies it to herself, telling herself that this or that
sexual encounter "doesn't count."
Now, if you did react badly or impatiently to her saying "not
tonight," she would have been turned off in a big way. You
would have proven yourself to be just another guy who only
wants "one thing."
Game over.
But you did the right thing which was to hold back and chill.
Relax and let her feel that she could connect with you, and that
you were a confident and patient chap.
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You also bring up an equally valid and important point about
"trust."
Isn't a woman supposed to trust a man before she sleeps with
him? Yes, she does, but not as much as you might think.
There's another ingredient that is more important than trust, and
it will make all the difference to you with women.
She needs to feel CONNECTION.
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So the real riddle that guys need to solve is HOW to get a
woman to feel that connection with you. To feel that she is
actually felt and UNDERSTOOD on a deep level.
To really supercharge her feminine identity, and touch her soul
in a way that most men will NEVER understand.
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Common
sense isnt all
that
common...
Thats right, its all about connection. Which is something you cannot
achieve when youre trying to be
something you dont feel
comfortable or congruent with.
Now, a lot of what you have just
read in this ebook is going to
seem like common sense to you.
In fact, Id worry if you hadnt read
at least a small portion of this
somewhere else before.
But as they say, common sense aint so common, is it?
After all, we all know that exercising and eating right will make you
healthier. Almost without exception.
Seems pretty simple, doesnt it?
Eat right and exercise.
So why dont people do it if they know that they will live longer, have
more energy, and live higher quality life?
Well, its usually a question of discipline and motivation.
Its RARE to find a guy who will postpone his gratification to achieve
his long-term goals.
We try to do whats in our best interests - but sometimes we cant see
those best interests until its too late.
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There was a really disgusting poster in the waiting room of my
doctors office that showed a woman that looked all burned,
blackened, and gooey. The caption underneath read: If smoking did
to you on the outside what it does on the inside, youd never start.
It was pretty effective on a shock-value level.
Where you
are right now
is the sum
total of all the
decisions you
have made
throughout
your life...
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kind of Top Gun success that a small percentage of the guys are
getting out there.
I used to think that the quality of your life experience would be in
direct proportion to the level of your self-esteem.
Well, I still think that, for the most part.
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And this is the depth of information you will find in my programs as
well.
Do you ever feel lost?
Do you ever feel like youre searching for an answer of how all this
stuff works, and how it all ties together?
I know
Kung-fu...
- Neo, in
The Matrix.
Because those two elements are really all that your life will amount to
in the end. How much energy did you put in? And over how much
time?
The only thing you have to spend in this life is your time. Money will
come and go, but your time is fixed.
And precious.
The last 30 or 40 minutes or so that you spent reading this book are
gone for good. Youll never have them again. Thats why I made
damn sure that I put as much time-energy into this book as I could for
you.
This is my kung-fu.
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Are You Finally a Man?
You may have heard a saying that a boy becomes a man when he
realizes he is going to die someday.
This happened for me at a very early age.
I remember it clearly, like one of those flashbulb memories where
someone asks you where you were when this or that happened.
Someday, this
will all be
over.
I was 5 years old, and I was laying in bed, and I was laying there
thinking about my life and thinking out into the future. All of a sudden I
was smothered in despair.
I realized that one day, all of this would be over. I
would not live forever.
I started crying, and I called my mom in. I told her
what I was thinking about dying and afraid of it,
and she did the warm and nurturing mother
things, telling me that it would be all right, and
this wouldnt happen for many many years.
She must have calmed me down, because I fell
asleep soon after. I dont really even remember
dwelling on that thought again for many years.
I imagine this was a big freak-out for my mom, too. Her little boy was
talking about something she probably had never really considered. I
can imagine how difficult that was for her to handle.
I think that one experience shaped a lot of my life. I found a secret
well spring of energy in my life after that point that - looking back now
- I can attribute to this great realization.
We are not permanent fixtures here on this planet.
We are TEMPORARY here. We only get a good 70 or 80 years
(sometimes much less - no one knows for sure how long) to do our
work.
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And then were gone. Just a flicker of a candle in the wind, as some
singer might say.
We gotta get going, and move with a purpose.
When I talked to my girlfriends in the past and
asked them what it was that made them choose
me, almost all of them say it was my burning drive
to accomplish something here. They could sense
I was on my way somewhere, and that was
enormously exciting and attractive to them.
EVERYTHING
is just a skill
waiting to be
learned.
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I am here to teach you the best of the best when it comes to
attraction skills.
Ive been through the entire learning cycle of a guy who SUCKED
with women all the way to having great success with my dating and
attraction, and all the way to realizing that theres a big picture that
guys want that goes way beyond just pickup and the romantic
exploits.
Again, Im only going to pass along the best and most effective
techniques for change, growth, confidence-building, and
attraction.
Im not going to waste your time with a lot of useless lines and fluff
that will only misguide you into a place where you feel like you have
to be another person to attract women.
You only need to raise your excitement and energy up a few
notches to draw women into your vibe.
Think about this whole pickup thing for a minute...
Really, how hard could it be to get into a conversation with a drunk
girl whos just barely out of high school?
The pickup skills are necessary, because they are a tool, and
having any tool to realize a way to improve yourself is usually better
than no tools.
I say again, these techniques are necessary - but not nearly as much
as its necessary for you to learn an honorable and incredibly
POWERFUL method of attracting women with your authentic self.
If you would like to create that for yourself, without having to pay
$2000 (or much more) for an overhyped bootcamp with some guru, or
having to go beat up your inner child, then I can help you find that
path.
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If you would like to find your own unique path and purpose in this life
while you become the man you were meant to be, and you dont want
to walk over fire or spend umpteen thousand dollars in seminars and
retreats, Id be happy to help you find your path.
And if I cant help you, Ill point you to someone who can.
I want you to maximize these few years you get here on this planet,
and not look back in regret at
what you failed to do.
ENERGIZE
your life...
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Make a choice that makes sense for you, and get started learning
and doing, not just BEING.
Get started on a curriculum that will give you the freedom to do what
you want to do, and be who you want to be.
Please use your new understanding with compassion, energy, and to
improve the lives of everyone you come in contact with.
Thats all I ask...
Become a
FORCE to be
reckoned
with...
Your friend,
- Carlos Xuma
Northern California
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