Life Coaching

This short paper,  shows how executive coaching draws on psychotherapy, and offers insights into using psychodynamic and systems theory in coaching practice. 
To cite this paper:  Western, S. (2006) Look Who’s Talking, Coaching at Work. London: People Management, Vol. 1:2 pp. 31-34.

Many people use the turn of the year as restart, i. e. they want to leave old things behind, let go of habits and try new things or pursue goals with discipline. So it would be a great moment to add one more point to the list of projects for the new year and actually make it top priority: Unfold your own power and grandeur and live it in each aspect!

Have you ever asked yourself consciously the questions if and to which degree you really live your unique, inherent power? Where are you acting far behind your potential and talents, because you don’t dare?

To live our grandeur and power is oftentimes our biggest fear. Nevertheless, how would it be for you, if you were able to use this fear? Would you like to learn more about that? Then take a look at this article.

This article aims to understand the essence of life coaching through the perspective of Buddhism in psychotherapy and counseling. The term “psychotherapy and Buddhist counseling” is a combination between concepts of both Buddhism and the principles of psychotherapy and counseling in Western psychology. The goal is to adjust behaviors, thinking in order to move the realm of the patients. Psychotherapy and Buddhist counseling can be conducted in 5 ways:- 1) Performing 3-steps of TIR; 2) psychotherapy based on the Four Noble Truths; 3) giving supportive, not intrusive, based on the principles of the Four Brahmavihāras; 4) using the 3 Worlds and 31 existences principle as a map for traveling; 5) Ability to avoid certain types of questions. Even though life coaching is widely popular in Thai society, and is a phenomenon in a new form of psychological counseling that all Thai people are interested in. But still it may be something new for Thai people. Some of the cases that illustrate the blemish of transparency that triggered the public's fervor of doubt on the behaviors and ambiguity of the Live Coach itself are now common in Thai society. These are valuable lessons for all professional life coaches including newcomer life coaches that will continue to occur with quality in Thai society.

During the pre-Christmas period a question arises, which is indeed also relevant during the rest of the year, but which gets increasingly explosive in this special period of time: How neurotic is our society? It seems as if modern society drops into a buying and consumption frenzy beyond comparison during these four weeks before X-Mas. In all shops you find shiny, glittering decoration and in almost every corner people are constantly showered with advertisements, X-Mas songs and special offers. The stimulus satiation in the cities is incredible and contributes in the anyway fast moving times once more to the increasing stress in people. Recently I saw an interesting sticker on an old, widely traveled car standing at the traffic lights. It said: „No shoes, no shirt, no worries“. What if we recollected this motto and less would be more? What would reflective X-Mas days be like if consumption and material presents were no longer the focus?

This study examines the impact of an evidence-based coaching intervention in a Qatari government preparatory (middle) school. The study sample consisted of 40 male students aged between 13 and 16 years (mean age 14.2). The sample was randomly selected and divided into two groups, namely the coaching group and the control group, to conduct a randomized controlled trial. The coaching program was part of a coaching club established for the purposes of this study. The coaching group took part in a 24-session evidence-based coaching program (teacher-facilitated) that included topics such as goal setting, leadership skills, coaching, and personality types. Pre-and post-measures were obtained for both groups. The measures consisted of the Big-Five personality traits survey and the Satisfaction with Life Scale. In addition to the quantitative measures, interviews were conducted with eight randomly selected students from the coaching group to increase the qualitative dimension of the results.

While coaching is establishing itself as an effective human development approach, there is limited understanding of the dynamics of coaching in the context of oppression. This paper summarises a study that examined the use of coaching as an emancipatory approach, and explored how oppression affects coachees, coaches and the coaching process. Building on a crossdisciplinary review of emancipatory approaches, an initial coaching model was developed. Then, a cooperative inquiry was conducted with twelve coaches from Egypt, who used the model with 22 coachees, leading to the development of a theoretical and practical framework for the use of coaching to support the emancipation and development of individuals. This study is possibly the first to research coaching as an emancipatory approach. It provides insights into how oppression affects individuals and describes the individual’s journey to emancipation. It proposes a detailed framework of the processes that support individuals through...

Memory reconsolidation is currently the only mechanism known to neuroscience that can edit or erase existing emotional learnings. This paper explores the application of memory reconsolidation in developmental coaching as illustrated in Aletheia Coaching, a next-generation methodology that I originated. This application is illustrated with an annotated transcript of a real coaching conversation which clearly demonstrates the application.

Rečenica: „Sve ti je to na nervnoj bazi!“ i termin „psihosomatska bolest“ danas se često upotrebljavaju u svakodnevnom govoru, ali se činjenica da somatska bolest ide uz neki psihički uticaj ne koristi dovoljno u lečenju. Svaka somatska bolest nije bez psihičkog uzorka, bilo da je u pitanju slabost organa prema infekcijama, bilo životne funkcije koje su trajno zavisne od emotivnog stanja organizma, bilo da su to psihogenetski uticaji.

O caderno de ferramentas de coaching são determinados instrumentos utilizados com o indivíduo visando a realização de alguma tarefa ou atingir determinado resultado. As ferramentas de coaching são a base da atuação do coach que, as utiliza para identificar quais são as maiores dificuldades ou os objetivos do coachee, determinando quais os melhores caminhos para percorrer em prol deste objetivo. Elas norteiam a atuação do coach em relação ao seu coachee com o foco na melhoria continua de resultados positivos.

Soul Guide Coaching,  Chapter 6 of Coaching and Mentoring a critical text Sage Pub (2012),  describes the Soul Guide discourse of coaching, this is one of four discourses that underpins coaching practice today.  It discusses a coaching practice that can be traced back to pre-modern times, influenced by healers, shaman, spiritual direction and psychotherapy.
Soul Guide coaching addresses the inner-self, the existential and spiritual self, addressing the deeply human issues of identity, meaning and purpose.

Sting, the singer-songwriter, says that silence between notes can be more important than the notes themselves. Sting cites the opening bars of Beethoven’s fifth symphony (da-da-da---daaaaaa------------da-da-da---daaaaa). Here the portent of things to come hangs in the air like a cudgel. Mahler and Shostakovich magically handle these spaces in music, Chopin more delicately. These ‘silences’ are no longer about simple ‘listening’ because they inspire a concentration of inner feeling; an emotional and physical response and representation of the music that has to do with the hearer’s unique self. It is the graceful gift of intervention (notes) together with silence that is a useful metaphor for skilled coaching. Our coaching may be classical but whatever the music, it will flow, it will have some order (including a beginning and an end) and it will often contain echoes of earlier phrases within it.


Why is silence so important in coaching? Catharsis, that great leap of the coachee to a new understanding, always happens when hearing is suspended. Whether the coach is talking or not, catharsis is an inner and entirely remote experience of the coachee. The world around has disappeared, including, often, the coach as well. It seems logical that catharsis is more likely to occur when the coachee is not attending to the outside world but to their own inner realm of consciousness. The coach must therefore be the conductor of the whole piece, not the musician. The coachee will play their own music and at their own pace.

Most people wish for vulnerability, intimacy and authenticity in relationship, but at the same time struggle with that. No matter if we talk about couples’ relationships, relationships to friends or even relationships to colleagues. Vulnerability is apparently a delicate topic, especially because in modern society it is often regarded as weakness or even as a taboo. This topic seems to be a complete paradox. People are longing for deep, authentic, vulnerable contact, but the step towards actually dropping the mask and showing themselves vulnerably seems to be dangerous. This is not surprising, since most people are trained each day to deposit their feelings and hearts at the front door of the companies they are working for and to wear instead a professional, sterile mask all day long.  Our society supports the approach of the lonely wolf: having everything under control and not being vulnerable or attackable. But how is it then possible to appease the hunger for authentic contact? To create something new and bring the quality of your relationships to a new level, it is necessary to take on a new perspective with regard to vulnerability.

Have you ever tried to no longer be angry and to create especially your relationship in a harmonious way? In search for happiness and satisfaction many people wish for a harmonious relationship with their partner. The purpose of creating such a relationship full of harmony is in fact very noble. The question however is what harmonious means. Many people mean by this not only that they don’t fight and argue with their partners anymore, but that they ideally only feel joy leaving all other feelings like anger, sadness and fear behind. Well, this is exactly the point where harmony becomes an illusion. Because really, how long does this work? Exactly, it works until your partner pushes your red buttons. And one thing is for sure: they will find the buttons, most of the time unconsciously. And then they start coming up, the emotions!

This chapter sets out to identify what kinds of models of supervision are appropriate to coaches.  In undertaking this objective, models and lessons from the supervision of counsellors and psychotherapists will be explored.  There are three reasons for this.  Firstly, many current practicing coaches are professionally trained and have practiced, or are practising, as counsellors or psychotherapist.  Secondly, there has been over 30 years of debate and analysis of alternative models of supervision from which lessons for coaching supervision can be drawn.  Thirdly, even when coaching focuses ostensibly on business issues, personal, experiential and problem-based themes often flow out of the coaching process.  These include ‘red flag’ issues when the coachee may be experiencing psychological difficulties.  As Whybrow and Palmer (2006) suggest, even non-clinical populations contain potentially vulnerable clients.  It seems, therefore, that (arguably) supervision models from a counselling or psychological background may have some relevance for all business and evidence-based coaches.

Este artigo tem por objetivo demonstrar que a metodologia “Roda da Vida”, quando utilizada de maneira correta e com a devida autoavaliação pode trazer resultados satisfatórios em poucos meses, pois o mesmo exige tão somente do usuário constância de propósitos e disciplina. Esta metodologia foi desenvolvida pelo autor deste artigo científico no ano de 2014 e aplicada em aproximadamente 800 funcionários de um hospital da cidade de Curitiba, Estado do Paraná, entre os anos de 2015 e 2016 na forma do treinamento intitulado “A Qualidade Começa por Mim”, contribuindo não somente para a melhoria do desempenho pessoa e profissional destes, como também para a mudança de paradigma no atendimento aos pacientes, o qual passou a ser realizado com mais humanismo. A “Roda da Vida” cerceia doze áreas distintas da vida de uma pessoa de modo que o indivíduo possa realizar uma autoavaliação periódica de si próprio e, através de um Plano de Ação pessoal, propor ações corretivas para seu autodesenvolvimento. A metodologia empregada para o desenvolvimento deste artigo foi a o desenvolvimento conceitual desta técnica baseada na combinação do estudo do comportamento humano e de ferramentas da qualidade, com a posterior aplicação da mesma em campo através dos indivíduos. Também foi realizada revisão bibliográfica, a qual serviu de fundamentação teórica para o desenvolvimento do tema proposto.

W artykule zostały przedstawione wybrane wątki współczesnej kultury indywidualizmu, w szczególności związane z dyskursem terapeutycznym w ujęciu nawiązującym do koncepcji Małgorzaty Jacyno. Treści pojawiające się w internetowych poradnikach rozwoju osobistego stanowią część tego dyskursu, wymagającą dalszej analizy ze względu na specyfikę ich dostępności online, a także osobliwości funkcjonowania doradców rozwoju osobistego i coachów biznesu w blogosferze i sferze e-commerce.

How do we define coaching and mentoring? What are the differences between them? What are the processes involved? Even though coaching and mentoring have a long history in different professions and countries around the world, no universal definitions of coaching and mentoring exist. There has been much debate by theorists and academics about the significance of coaching and mentoring, but more importantly about the differences and similarities between these two concepts. This paper explores how coaching and mentoring bring value to the life of coachees and mentees.

Mindfuck - Beyni Becermek               
(Petra Bock)

Remembering the Latin proverb ‘’Verba volant, scripta manent – söz gider yazı kalır’’ in Turkish; I am going to introduce the book to you which I evaluated that is really  important from ‘’personal development’’ and ‘’life coaching’’ points of view.  My third book introduction is;  ‘’Mindfuck (Beyni Becermek)’’ which is summarized by my dear friend Halit Yıldırım under this generic title. I must reiterate that this book has been awarded by ‘’The Coaching Award of 2012’’ in the highest cathegory of ‘’special success in coaching’’ given by the periodic namely ‘’Coaching Heute’’ on January 14th 2012.

A book that will change your life, covering a prize-winning approach to overcoming mental self-sabotage. Therefore I suggest this book to those who have not read yet.
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Mindfuck - Beyni Becermek
               
Author / Yazar: Petra Bock
Original Language / Orijinal Basım Dili: German / Almanca
Language / Basım Dili: Türkçe
Publisher / Yayınevi: Paloma (Kişisel Gelişim Dizisi)
Publication Date / Basım Tarihi: 2015
Page Nr. / Sayfa Sayısı: 200

M. İskender TARGAÇ

This study explores the advantages and disadvantages of being a professional coach with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). The abundant literature on ADHD is reviewed and looked at in light of international and national (French) coaching performance standards By looking at the relationship one with ADHD tends to have with themselves, with others, with sustained focus and follow-through, and with creative processes, this study concludes that a coach with ADHD who can have the most impairing traits of the disorder under control most probably has an edge over non-ADHD coaches, in particular when it comes to the creative aspects of the coaching process.

This article aims to understand the essence of life coaching through the perspective of Buddhism in psychotherapy and counseling. The term “psychotherapy and Buddhist counseling” is a combination between concepts of both Buddhism and the principles of psychotherapy and counseling in Western psychology. The goal is to adjust behaviors, thinking in order to move the realm of the patients. Psychotherapy and Buddhist counseling can be conducted in 5 ways:- 1) Performing 3-steps of TIR; 2) psychotherapy based on the Four Noble Truths; 3) giving supportive, not intrusive, based on the principles of the Four Brahmavihāras; 4) using the 3 Worlds and 31 existences principle as a map for traveling; 5) Ability to avoid certain types of questions. Even though life coaching is widely popular in Thai society, and is a phenomenon in a new form of psychological counseling that all Thai people are interested in. But still it may be something new for Thai people. Some of the cases that illustrate the blemish of transparency that triggered the public's fervor of doubt on the behaviors and ambiguity of the Live Coach itself are now common in Thai society. These are valuable lessons for all professional life coaches including newcomer life coaches that will continue to occur with quality in Thai society.

The purpose of this study was to investigate the influence of life coaching sessions on the entrepreneurs’ behavior. The exploratory research used a qualitative method and we used the in-depth interview. For interpreting the results, we used content analysis for the transcripts of the recorded interviews. Data obtained from the in-depth interview were coded and we used conceptual content analysis to obtain frequencies of occurrence. After life coaching sessions the entrepreneurs began to organize their time and priorities differently. Following these sessions, subjects responded that they came to define their objectives more clearly, they came to provide feedback whenever needed and the performance. Various audiences could use these exploratory results - professionals and human resource managers who might be interested in the coaching status of various organizations as well as in the management practices for the implementation of coaching programs.

The tasks of the work were to develop methodological principles for restoring the psychological health of the individual, to work out the technologies of social and psychological rehabilitation and to determine the resource modalities that increase the effectiveness of rehabilitation influences. It was used the method for the phenomenological analysis of individual and group counseling interventions and interviews, in-depth and contextual interviews, case studies. As a result of the study, the individual readiness to creative construct one’s own life is defined as the main condition for the restoration of psychological health. The rehabilitation process is considered as a means of recovery, aimed at enhancing life creativity. It is shown that the effectiveness of restoration is ensured by taking into account the indicators, criteria, vectors, meaningful targets of rehabilitation interventions, their phased specification, the possibilities of targeted inclusion of communities in the systemic support of their members, team approach of different specialists. The ways of attracting problem youth to restoration (readiness to orient themselves on the warrior-colleague positive experience, support of the veteran and religious community) and measures to prevent recurrence of asocial behavior are determined. There was an emphasis on the acute experience of losses by combatants and internally displaced persons, as well as a state of alienation in accordance to society, other people, and work by demobilized people. Technologies of restoring self-efficacy and life-continuity of the individual, its constructive dialogue with the world, life, self, sense are tested. There are determined the following resource modalities, which promote the restoration of individual psychological health:  basic (increasing the viability of the individual); instrumental (use of mobile applications as psychological support) and buffer (participation in the playback-action, providing group recovery). The obtained results can be used to increase the social-adaptive capacity of a person, the ability to recover from traumatism. The direction of further research is the socio-psychological support of the individual in the transition from war to peace. The work practical value is to develop the principles of interagency interaction optimizing at the state and interdisciplinary level, to develop the ways of activities of communities and organizations coordinating a comprehensive approach to rehabilitation of the injured persons. The investigation social consequences are determined by the goals of rehabilitation effects, phases, stages, forms, technologies and techniques of rehabilitation; self-help directions, and practice to promote post-traumatic growth is defined. The value of work is to implement an integrated approach to social and psychological rehabilitation of the victims.

We internalise the idea of having unlimited aspirations, following the social injunction ‘you can become whatever you desire’.  This short essay explores how these positivistic mantras, paradoxically undermine us rather than empower us.  Taking a critical and psychoanalytic perspective this short essay explores the Pleasure and Reality Principles to challenge #nohumanislimited.

It is often difficult for parents to discipline their adolescents.
Adolescents at a private school were used to establish their feelings about parental styles. Various forms of literature were also used to confirm the findings.
Adolescents seemed to find discipline more acceptable when parents interacted with them and followed a democratic or authoritative parenting style.

This multi-methods study, informed by the principles of action research, presents an evidencebased model for group coaching for wellbeing. The model is primarily based on psychological wellbeing and positive psychology theories, and it was tested empirically over two group coaching interventions. Coachees' wellbeing improved after the group coaching interventions and the data analysis shows that the programme supported coachees in various areas associated with wellbeing, such as meaning, positive emotions, locus of control, and new perspectives. Furthermore, coachees reported that the coaching programme raised their selfawareness and provided them with a supportive environment for action and change. The study highlighted the crucial role the group can play as a catalyst for change, whilst enabling coachees to experience conditions that contribute to their wellbeing. By shining a spotlight on group coaching, this research has shown the value of working in this way, including the opportunity to make coaching for wellbeing more inclusive, accessible and impactful.

Un libro polifónico, que no se debate entre la ficción y la realidad, aunque algunas veces nos valemos de la fuerza heurística de lo inverosímil – del como sí para apuntar algunas cosas en este “canto coral” cuya voz principal es postgrado, aquí educación avanzada. Un libro fruto del pensamiento crítico en acción, de la búsqueda y conocimiento de fórmulas para su posterior abandono, reemplazo o desplazamiento a nuevas formas de generar conocimiento sin perder el reconocimiento a las anteriores. Un libro escrito con el mismo lenguaje que utilizo en mis clases, porque siempre pensé que “la investigación” no tenía que ser para eruditos ni “un saber de lujo” sino, ser más, del bien común, interés general y valores públicos. Un libro producto de muchas lecturas, re-lecturas, profunda reflexión, análisis e interpretación de mi propio saber de experiencia al decir de Larrosa y la metódica de las fichas de diversas fuentes bibliohemerográficas para los cursos, su consecuente revisión y análisis crítico documental que muestra argumentos, contrargumentos, textos y contextos en el escrito principal así como en el aparato crítico con su conjunto de citas, referencias y notas aclaratorias que se incluyen en este trabajo para dar cuenta de la “huella” de los aportes bibliográficos sobre los que el mismo se apoya o distancia.

A través de la realización de procesos de coaching, y del mismo proceso de coaching por el que yo he pasado he advertido que un cambio no se da, por mucho que lo pueda desear alguien, si existe una creencia que no da lugar al cambio, y entonces surgen las preguntas ¿cómo identificar la creencia?, ¿qué dio lugar a que este ahí y tan arraiga?, ¿qué me está impidiendo deshacerme de ella?, y ¿cómo lograr cambiarla por una creencia potenciadora?. La Programación Neuro Lingüística  nos brinda respuestas a estas interrogantes y nos proporciona herramientas para la comprensión del funcionamiento de las creencias y el cambio de las mismas.
Esta monografía busca explicar desde la óptica de la óptica de la Programación Neuro Lingüística que son las creencias, como se conforman, porque es importante el cambio de creencias limitantes, como identificarlas y el papel de la programación neurolingüística en el cambio de creencias.