Know what you want to achieve soon and in the future. This helps you know where to go and stay motivated.

Do the most important things first to save time and energy.

Have a daily plan that includes work, rest, exercise, and learning.

Make big tasks smaller so they're not scary, and you can see progress.

Use methods like the Pomodoro Technique (working for a while, then resting) or blocking time to get more done.

Notice when you're avoiding work and make yourself start.

Control yourself from getting distracted or doing things just for fun.

Say no politely when you can't do more things without getting stressed.

Stay healthy by eating well, exercising, and sleeping enough.

Keep learning by reading, taking classes, or trying new things.

Check how you're doing with your goals and change plans if needed.

Tell a friend or mentor your goals so they can help you stay on track.

Keep your spaces tidy to help you focus better.

Learning discipline takes time, and it's okay if things don't go perfectly.

Think good thoughts about yourself instead of bad ones.

Imagine doing well to get motivated.

Mistakes are chances to learn, not reasons to give up.

Be happy about even small successes to stay positive.

Listen to advice from others to get better.

Be ready to change your plans but keep your main goals.

Try mindfulness to concentrate, be calm, and know yourself better.

Write about your progress and plans in a journal.

Turn off things like social media when you work or study.

Think about things you're thankful for to stay happy.

Do quick tasks right away instead of waiting.

Spend time with people who help you and make you want to be better.

Let others do tasks that you don't need to do, so you can focus.

Get better at handling problems without giving up.

Picture doing well to stay motivated.

Drink water to think clearly and stay healthy.

Have a special place to work or study to help you focus.

Wait for bigger rewards instead of quick ones.

Keep things simple, both around you and in your mind, so you can concentrate.

Listen to advice without feeling bad about yourself.

Use apps and tools to manage your tasks and time.

Reading helps you learn and think better.

Decide what's good enough for you and stick to it.

Believe you can get smarter and better with practice.

Do creative things to stay imaginative and interested.

1) Make a list of goals you want to achieve, if you don’t you’re going to forget about them. It could be yearly goals, it could be monthly goals or both (even better). Just write them down and put them somewhere you can see them every day. Also don’t forget about the smart rule :

Specific (simple, sensible, significant).

Measurable (meaningful, motivating).

Achievable (agreed, attainable).

Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).

Time bound (time-based, time limited, time/cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).

2) Choose habits that will lead your towards your goals. You want to be at the top of your class ? Start by actually completing your homework, assignments and by paying attention in class. You want strong and healthy hair ? Stop using heat every day and start a hair care routine. Yes, it is that simple trust me.

3) Start adding those habits to your daily life and be realistic. For example, if you want to achieve your dream body start exercising and eating healthy. You want to keep those achievable and enjoyable : if you used to never step away from your couch for too long, you are not going to exercise 5 times a week right away. Start small, start with maybe twice a week and then add more when you feel ready.

4) Stop making excuses. You cannot reach your goals if you find excuses to stay home and do nothing such as « I will start on Monday » or « I am a bit tired today so I’ll just rest ». Don’t, if you really are motivated you will start right now and won’t skip your workout. The less you do, the less you wanna do.

5) Remind yourself why you wanna reach those goals and motivate yourself. You cannot solely rely on motivation, you have to create it yourself. Make vision boards of you dream life and ask yourself why you want to get out of your actual situation. If you already feel miserable and lazy in your every day life it won’t hurt to at least try, right ?

6) Enjoy the steps. That one is the most important. If you feel like completing a workout is torture, you will last a week or two tops. If doing your skin care or a daily walk feels boring, you will stop doing it. Try making those interesting by watching a movie or listening a podcast at the same time, find a workout you’re actually able to enjoy.

Ultimately, fear is born out of anxiety over some sort of distrust –whether it's grounded in logic, emotion, perception, past experiences, etc.

Fear arises from an unknown – any new experience, opportunity, failure, relationship, changes in habits/routines, etc. So, ultimately, this fear is your way of coping with not distrusting others to do what you expect or desire and/or not trusting yourself to be able to cope with a certain environment, habit, responsibilities, changes, interpersonal conflict, etc.

To depersonalize fear, recognize that it's an anxious/emotional response to either a reasonable or illogical unknown/uncertainty. Then, I see what my realistic options are on how to handle the situation and proceed with my following actions by answering these questions:

Looking back at this moment in a year's time, what do I wish I would've done?

What red or green flags are my anxieties discounting or telling me to overlook?

How many of my concerns are grounded in reality, and how many are based on assumptions or negative self-talk?

If a friend was handling this situation, how would I proceed?

Once you answer these questions, you're forcing yourself to take the emotions out of the situation and see all of the key players + moving parts more objectively to make a rational decision.

𝓇𝑜𝓂𝒶𝓃𝓉𝒾𝒸𝒾𝓏𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝒻𝓇𝑒𝓈𝒽 𝓈𝓉𝒶𝓇𝓉

hi, loves 💌

welcome to the very first glowletter of the year! january is such a soft, hopeful time. a blank page for new routines, gentle habits, and glowing transformations. this month’s glowletter is all about finding magic in the little things, building dreamy routines, and stepping into 2025 with love and intention. this newsletter is a little late, but it took me ages to build. this is going to be a new addition to my blog, a monthly newsletter! this was heavily inspired by an idol of mine @malusokay she's been such a motivator for me when it comes to creating coquette blogs, and her newsletter is absolutely adorable. this newsletter was made from the heart and took ages to plan out. thank you malu for giving me the inspiration to make this <3 - mindy

monday motivations

start your week with soft whispers of inspiration:

affirmation of the week “every day is a new beginning, and i am blooming into my best self.” 🌷

quote to inspire “what the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year.” – verne mckee

gentle productivity tip try romanticizing your to-do list: use a pink gel pen, add little hearts, and start with one dreamy task (like journaling) before diving into the day.

glow-up goals

soft, beautiful routines to guide your january glow-up:

morning routine inspiration

wake up early with your favorite coquette playlist or soft piano music.

write 3 gentle intentions for the day in a blush-pink journal.

sip rose tea or vanilla almond milk while gazing out the window.

finish with a mini stretching session to awaken your body and mind.

night routine inspiration

double cleanse your face, apply a rosewater mist, and finish with a silky moisturizer.

light a vanilla or lavender candle and dim the lights.

reflect on 3 beautiful moments from your day.

wind down with a coquette novel—“little women” or “jane eyre” are perfect.

monthly task create a “soft routines tracker” to stay consistent with your new habits. decorate it with pastel stickers or delicate doodles for extra charm.

glowletter's monthly playlist

“soft beginnings” 💕

this month's playlist is filled with soft, romantic tunes to set the mood for journaling, studying, or cozy mornings:

“champagne problems” – taylor swift

“first love / late spring” – mitski

“love” – lana del rey

“la vie en rose” – édith piaf

“dreams tonite” – alvvays

✨ listen on spotify here: 𐙚ᴶᵃⁿᵘᵃʳʸ ˢᵖᵒᵗˡⁱᵍʰᵗˢ𐙚 let these songs carry you through your month with warmth and inspiration 🌸.

moodboard/pinterest board

“romanticizing the new year” moodboard

january is all about soft coziness and delicate details. here’s a sneak peek of the glowletter pinterest board for this month:

pastel journals, delicate gold rings, and vintage teacups.

fluffy blankets, frosted window panes, and fairy lights.

classic novels stacked beside scented candles.

muted pink ballet flats and pearl-studded headbands.

✨ view the full board on pinterest here: January Moodboard: Romanticizing the New Year

here’s a little preview to inspire you:

exclusive resource/printable

ah, we’ve all heard about that girl, the ultimate it girl who wakes up at five in the morning, eats healthy, never misses a workout and, most of all, has her life together. except that girl is not a person, a list of wellness trends, or an aesthetic—it’s a feeling. it’s how you feel when you put yourself first and focus on both healing and improving yourself, but how can we really become that girl when we're basically starting from scratch? that’s when the that girl action plan comes into play!

while a that girl lifestyle is more of a long term thing, there I definitely short term things you can do NOW.

there will never be a right time, stop waiting and start doing.

with this short term plan you can change your mindset as soon as you start because, after all, if you feel mid you're not going to want to take care of yourself, right? so do whatever you can to align yourself to that girl ;

get yourself dolled up ; do your makeup, wear clothes you feel good in, have a fancy hairdo, whatever makes you feel beautiful curate your space ; make it intentional, relaxing and clear. clean, reorganize, decorate - make it a space you want to stay in!

it takes twenty-one days to build a habit, and ninety days to build a lifestyle.

while it's nice to feel like that girl for one day, in the end it’s more about the that girl lifestyle, which is built on strong habits. there’s no need to wake up at five am if you know that isn't going to work for you long term, instead try to focus on things which might feel small but will end up making a big difference.

set time aside for yourself ; connect with your best self by setting some time aside for yourself every day, whenever it fits best. spend at least an hour doing things that makes you feel great, whether it’s a skincare routine, exercising, meditating or reading. move your body ;  it’s said that a hundred minutes of moderate-intensity exercise a week is can improve your mood, boost your energy and increase the quality of your sleep, that’s only about fifteen minutes a day, so you can definitely make time for it! nourish yourself like you already are that girl ; take care of your body from the inside too, so stay hydrated, eat enough and healthy, take vitamins if you need it or make a meal plan if it’ll help you stay on track! stay organized ; have you ever seen that girl having a messy space? no, so do a bit of tidy up everyday, stick to a cleaning routine, do a bit of chores everyday, whatever helps you stay on top of it! a clean space for a clean mind. work on yourself ; whether its picking up a new hobby, doing a bit of self care every week, journaling or going to therapy - put in that work! there’s no use in being so physically attractive if your brain isn't.

after reading about the guidelines on how to properly be that girl, what will you implement in your action plan? i'll be posting my own soon!