My best advice I can offer to anyone questioning their gender (or sexuality or romantic orientation); choose whatever label fits best or donāt choose one at all. You donāt have to define it if itās too confusing or complex.
I saw a post somewhere and forgive me because I canāt quote it word for word because I forgot so Iāll paraphrase, but it basically said that labels wonāt always be 100% accurate and itās okay to choose ones that explain your experience only 25%/100, or 75%/100, it all just depends on you. And I think thatās the best advice I couldāve heard because I was questioning my sexuality and romantic orientation once again during the time I read it. The weight was lifted when I found a label that works but doesnāt describe my experience completely, itās as close as Iāll get, and I reminded myself that thatās okay.
Sometimes labels make us feel better and itās valid to want to have one, but remember that they donāt always have to explain what youāre feeling completely. But labels are also only tools, so if you donāt need them or canāt find one that works then donāt use them. Or just create your own if you want to be creative.
yeah!!! im gonna pin this because it sums up the exact bit of advice i always struggle to get across and it needs to be said more often.