LESSON 9wfgrtage

11th grade
Lesson 9:
PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPS
Personal Development
Personal Relationship
This refers to the association and close connections
between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions.
These bonds often grow from and are formed by mutual
experiences. Teenagers commonly have relationships with their
family, friends and significant other. In adolescence stage, a new
understanding of one’s self occurs. This may include
independence, identity and self-esteem.
Family Relationships
Family is defined as “two or more persons who are
related by birth, marriage, or adoption, and who live together as
one household.”
Strong family relationships are ideal, characterized by love,
closeness, and guidance from parents and older relatives. Although
arguments, disagreements, anger, and hurt are normal, these
moments are short-lived as families still love and care about each
other.
Friendships
Friends are the people who we are not related to but who we
choose to interact with. They are the people who we trust, respect,
care about and feel that we can confide in and want to spend
time with. A friendship is a reciprocal relationship. Both people
must see each other as a friend for it to exist.
Parker and Asher (1993) identified three (3) types of
friendship.
1. Acquaintances. Friendship whom you join only once in
a while or occasionally.
2. Companions. Friendship where you share same interests
through regular interactions.
3. Intimates. Friendship where you give and receive
opinions and support.
Romantic Relationships
A romantic relationship is when you feel very strongly
attracted to the other person, both to their personality and, often, also
physically and should be reciprocated by the other person in the
relationship. A romantic relationship exists between a boyfriend and
girlfriend (in a heterosexual relationship) or a boyfriend and boyfriend
or girlfriend and girlfriend (in a homosexual relationship) or spouses (in
a marriage) or life partners (in a civil partnership or long-term
unmarried relationship).
Successful romantic relationships are built on love, trust,
respect, support, acceptance, shared interests and a desire for the two
people involved to share their lives together and end with marriage. For
teenagers, various kinds of physical contact are not appropriate.
These include prolonged cuddling and holding, kissing on the lips and
sexual intercourse. Pre- marital sex is unacceptable.
Three (3) Brain Systems of Love or
Stages of Falling in Love
1. LUST- refers to an urge or desire that motivates us to partake
in sexual activity.
2. ATTRACTION- is described as the love-struck phase. This

is the stage when a person loses sleep and appetite over
someone and become excited to someone while daydreaming of
special person. It is part of lust because it involves focusing our
attention to a particular person or desire. Many factors influence
attraction.
FACTORS OF ATTRACTION
a. Physical Attractiveness. Most people prefer whom they
consider physically attractive especially in the early stages of
dating.
b. Proximity. People are attracted to people who live or attend
school nearby, as they develop feelings of mutual familiarity
and increased comfort when there is regular contact and no
prior negative feelings.
c. Similarity. People choose partners based on similarities such
as social class, background, religious beliefs, age, and
education. These shared attitudes and opinions foster strong
bonds and encourage similar activities.
d. Reciprocity. People like others who like them back. People
feel indebted when someone does something good for them and
tend to reciprocate the action. The more we are liked by
someone they equally like, the more we behave in ways that
promote mutual feelings of liking.
3. ATTACHMENT- is a deep and enduring emotional bond that
connects one person to another across time and space. It is when
long-lasting commitments are exchanged.
Love occurs not solely between romantic partners only.
Humans can experience different types of love in various
relationships, such as with romantic partners, friends, family
and even strangers. Ancient Greeks studied love and denote
each type by giving each one a Greek name. Lee (1973) offers a
theory love styles which are derived from an analysis of
writings about love through centuries.
PHILIA- Affectionate Love
It is a love that runs deep in true friendship. Love without romantic
attraction and occurs between friends or family members. It is called
brotherly love when both people share the same values and respect
each other.
PRAGMA- Enduring Love
It is a mature love that develops over time. Commitment and efforts
are needed to reach “Pragma”. Instead of “falling in love”, you are
“standing in love” with the partner by your side.
STORGE- Familiar Love
It is naturally occurring love rooted in parents and children, as well as best
friends. It’s an infinite love built upon acceptance and deep emotional
connection. This love come easily and immediately in parent and child
relationships. It flows between parents and children or childhood friends.
EROS- Romantic Love
It is a personal infatuation and physical pleasure. It is a passionate
love displayed through physical affection.
LUDUS- Playful Love
Flirting and beginning stages of intimate love. It is a child-like and
flirtatious love found in the beginning. This type of love consists
of teasing, playful motives and laughter between two people.
MANIA- Obsessive Love
Obsessiveness or madness over a love partner is mania. It
leads to unwanted jealousy or possessiveness.
PHILAUTIA- Self Love
It is having a healthy “self-compassion” love towards one’s self. It is
when you recognize your self-worth and don’t ignore your personal
needs. Self-love begins with acknowledging your responsibility for
your well-being.
AGAPE- Selfless Love
It is an empathetic attitude of love for everyone and anyone. It is the
highest love to offer. It is given without any expectations of receiving
anything in return. It is considered as unconditional love.
Performance Task!
Directions: In a piece of long bond paper, write
a letter to your parents (either father or mother).
The content of your letter must focus on being
grateful for their sacrifices and guidance from
the day you were born up to the present.
Then, allow your parents (either father or
mother) to read your letter. Make sure that
he/she reads your letter. And ask him/her to
reply to your letter. Tell them to write it in
vernacular words. Your outputs will be two; your
letter for them and their response letter.

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