Vetting List

Important pre-relationship questions.
What are your goals and aspirations in life?

Do you desire to be married?
What is your approximate time frame for marriage?
Do you want to have children? How many?
What is your approximate time frame for having children?
How do you handle conflicts in a relationship?
What are your beliefs about marriage?
What roles should each of us play in a marriage?
What is your way of showing love and affection?
What is your family background like?
What is your preferred way of spending quality time with a partner?
What are your favorite things to do for fun and relaxation?
What is your idea of a perfect weekend?
How do you like to communicate and express affection in a relationship?
Are you religious or spiritual, and how does that impact your life and relationship?
What are your long-term career plans? What do you expect for my career?
How important is physical intimacy to you in a relationship?
What are your political beliefs and values?
How do you think we should handle finances in a relationship?
How do you prioritize spending time with friends and family?
What is your idea of a healthy work-life balance?
What are your views on marriage, divorce, and infidelity?
Do you have a desire to travel? When would you hope to retire?
How important is ministry and volunteering to you?
How should we handle disagreements and arguments in a relationship?
What are your preferred ways of receiving affection and love in a relationship?
What are your personal and relationship goals for the next five years?
Do you want to live in a specific geographical location, and why?
How do you handle disagreements and arguments with a partner’s family and friends?
What are your preferred ways of resolving differences of opinion in a relationship? Who should
have the final word?
How important is prayer to you?
What are your views on counseling and therapy?
What is your mental health background?
What are your sexual turn ons?
What are your sexual turn offs?
What is your idea of a perfect romantic getaway?
What are your favorite things to do when you have free time?
How important is cleanliness and organization to you?
What are your expectations of a partner in terms of household responsibilities?
What are your preferred up ways of expressing appreciation and gratitude in a relationship?
What are your views on compromise and negotiation in a relationship?
How much money do we need to make for you to be content?
What are your views on raising and disciplining children?
What are your views on abortion?
What are your views on spending time alone versus spending time together as a couple?
What are your views on use of social media?
What are your views on open communication and honesty in a relationship?
What are your views on what constitutes cheating?
What are your views on personal space and alone time in a relationship?
What are your views on sharing responsibilities and chores in a relationship?
How often should we be having sex in a marriage?
What are your views on spending time together as a couple and pursuing individual interests
and hobbies?
What are your sexual fetishes?
What are your views on public displays of affection and intimacy in a relationship?
What are your views on supporting each other’s careers and goals in a relationship?
What are your views on who's the boss in the relationship?
How do you handle stress and pressure in a relationship?
What is your approach to maintaining intimacy and romance in a long-term relationship?
What are your flaws?
How much debt do you have? How much income doe you have?
How did your past relationships end?
Have you ever been violent?
Add additional questions about things that are important to you:

Go back and rate the person's answer to each question as either 'L' for I loved it or end or 'X' for
did not love it.
What percentage of the answers did you love?
List your Concerns:
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List this person's flaws.

Do you want to live a life dealing with these flaws everyday?
Choose your course of action.

A) End the relationship now.
B) Continue only as non romantic friends
C) Continue the relationship and getting to know the person more.

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Important pre-relationship questions.

What are your goals and aspirations in life?

Add additional questions about things that are important to you:

What percentage of the answers did you love?

List your Concerns:

List this person's flaws.

Choose your course of action.

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