1

Schools Division Office – Taguig City and Pateros

School: STAND ALONE SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL WITHIN TAGUIG INTEGRATED SCHOOL
Subject/ Learning Area: PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Name: _________________________________ Grade - Section: ______________ Date: _____________

SELF-LEARNING ACTIVITY SHEET

Activity Title: PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

I. Most Essential Learning Competency:

1 The dynamics of attraction, love, and commitment
1. discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions

II. PRE-ASSESSMENT
Choose the letter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate sheet of
paper.
1. What skills do you need to make healthy decisions in a relationship?
a. Intelligence, memory, ability to do public speaking

b. Assertive communication, active listening, and negotiation skills

c. Ability to persuade others, love,
d. passive communication e. None of the above
2. What should you consider when making decisions around sex and sexual
limits?
a. Your values
b. Your friends
c. Your family
d. All of the above
3. What is the best style of communication to use when making decisions about
sexual limits and boundaries?
a. Assertive
b. Passive
c. Aggressive
4. Which of the following are signs that you may be in an abusive relationship?
a. Bruises, scratches and other signs of injuries
b. Avoiding friends
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior
d. All of the above
5. Which of the following is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship?
a. You can express your opinion without fear or dread
b. Your partner tries to control how you spend money
c. You respect and encourage each other
d. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions
6. Which of the following does not belong to the rules for finding love and creating
long-lasting, authentic relationships?
a. creating love is a process
b. partnering is a choice
c. you must love others first
d. renewal is a key to longevity

2
 7. Which of these is NOT true about having a good relationship?
a. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.
b. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain good
relationships.
c. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good
relationships
d. a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good health.
8. What do you call the trait of being answerable to someone for something or
being responsible for one’s conduct?
a. attraction
b. commitment
c. love
d. responsibility
9. What do you call the relationships between people, especially those between
friends, lovers and family members?
a. relationship
b. commitment
c. personal relationship
d. responsibility
10. The following are the benefits of having personal
relationships; EXCEPT ?
a. live longer
b. increased immune system
c. feel richer
d. be healthier

III. LEARNING CONCEPTS

Personal Relationships

NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Connect with your family

One of the biggest challenges for families to stay connected is the busy pace of life. But Blue
Zones research states that the healthiest, longest-living people in the world all have something
in common: they put their families first. Family support can provide comfort, support, and
even influence better health outcomes while you are sick. Relationships and family author
Mimi Doe recommends connecting with family by letting little grievances go, spending time
together, and expressing love and compassion to one another. Of course, the same practices
apply to close friends as well. This is especially important if you don’t have living family, or
have experienced difficult circumstances, such as abuse, that would make it difficult for you to
connect with your relatives.

Practice gratitude
3
Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive emotions, and its effects can strengthen
friendships and intimate relationships. One 2010 study found that expressing gratitude toward
a partner can strengthen the relationship, and this positive boost is felt by both parties—the
one who expresses gratitude and the one who receives it. Remembering to say “thank you”
when a friend listens or your spouse brings you a cup of coffee can set off an upward spiral of
trust, closeness, and affection.

Learn to forgive

It’s normal for disagreements or betrayal to arise in relationships, but your choice about how
to handle the hurt can have a powerful effect on the healing process. Choosing to forgive can
bring about a variety of benefits, both physical and emotional. Fred Luskin, head of the
Stanford Forgiveness Project, says it’s easier to let go of the anger or hurt feelings associated
with a circumstance if you remind yourself that much of your distress is really coming from the
thoughts and feelings you are having right now while remembering the event—not the event
itself. Don’t be afraid to clearly articulate why you are upset, but once the other party has
listened, be willing to lay down your anger and move on.

Be compassionate

Compassion is the willingness to be open to yourself and others, even in painful times, with a
gentle, nonjudgmental attitude. When you feel compassionate toward another person—
whether a romantic partner, friend, relative, or colleague—you open the gates for better
communication and a stronger bond.

This doesn’t mean taking on the suffering of others, or absorbing their emotions. Rather,
compassion is the practice of recognizing when someone else is unhappy or whose needs
aren’t being met and feeling motivated to help them. We are an imitative species: when
compassion is shown to us, we return it.

Accept others

It is also important to be accepting of the other person in the relationship. Obviously, this does
not apply in situations of abuse or unhealthy control, where you need foremost to protect
yourself. But otherwise, try to understand where the person is coming from rather than judge
them. As you do for yourself, have a realistic acceptance of the other's strengths and
weaknesses and remember that change occurs over time.

Create rituals together

With busy schedules and the presence of online social media that offer the façade of real
contact, it’s very easy to drift from friends. In order to nurture the closeness and support of
friendships, you have to make an effort to connect. Gallup researcher Tom Rath has found that
people who deliberately make time for gatherings or trips enjoy stronger relationships and
more positive energy. An easy way to do this is to create a standing ritual that you can share
and that doesn’t create more stress—talking on the telephone on Fridays, for example, or
sharing a walk during lunch breaks, are ways to keep in contact with the ones you care about
the most.

4
 Spend the right amount of time together

Gallup researchers Jim Harter and Raksha Arora found that people who spend 67 hours per
day socializing (which could mean hanging out with friends, sharing meals with family, or even
emailing a colleague) tend to be the happiest. In contrast, those who have zero interactions (or
an exhausting overload of social time) feel more stressed.

Reading: TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-LASTING, AUTHENTIC
RELATIONSHIPS

1. YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST Your relationship with yourself is the central template
from which all others are formed. Loving yourself is a prerequisite to creating a successful and
authentic union with another.

2. PARTNERING IS A CHOICE The choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the ability
to attract your beloved and cause the relationship you desire to happen.

3. CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS Moving from “I” to “we” requires a shift in perspective and
energy. Being an authentic couple is an evolution.

1. RELATIONSHIPS PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW Your relationship will serve as an

unofficial “lifeshop” in which you will learn about yourself and how you can grow on your
personal path.

2. COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the lifeblood of
your relationship.

3. NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED There will be times when you and your partner must work
through impasses. If you do this consciously and with respect, you will learn to create win-win
outcomes.

4. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CHALLENGED BY CHANGE Life will present turns in the road. How
you maneuver those twists and turns determines the success of your relationship.

5. YOU MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE Treasure your beloved and your
relationship will flourish.

6. RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO LONGEVITY Happily ever after means the ability to keep the
relationship fresh and vital.

7. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE You know all these rules
inherently. The challenge is to remember them when you fall under the enchanting spell of
love.

5
6
III.EXPERIENTIAL LEARNING

Activity 1. Abtash cipher

Abtash cipher is a mono-alphabetic substitution cipher used for the Hebrew
alphabet. The Atbash Cipher simply reverses the plaintext alphabet to create the
ciphertext alphabet.
Decipher the following terms that are associated with genetic engineering. Write
your answer on the blank and corresponding to your answer, write anything you
know about the word.

Example: SRPANTSE= PARENTS

1. LORISEATNHPI = =

2. ICTMEMTMNO = =
3. ATOITRCTNA = =
4. EIRISPSBLTYION = =
5. ELVO = =

The activity above allows you to exercise your brain! Now, it’s time to learn
more about personal relationships.
Instruction: On a piece of ¼ illustration board, sketch, draw, or design a poster which shows
one’s basic rights in a relationship.

POSTER

7
Assessment

Directions: : I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Instruction: Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.

2. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.

3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.

4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.

5. Your partner supports you and your choices—even when they disagree with you.

6. You respect and encourage each other.

7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends or family.

8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending your money without worrying about your
partner’s reaction.

9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and your view is respected.

10. You feel isolated from friends and family.

8
9
 References Adolescents'
Perceptions of
Their
Relationships
Books with Significant
Others . Journal
Carter-Scott, Cherie. of Adolescent
(1999). If Love Research. 6-3,
is a Game, 296-315.
These are the Gazzingan, Leslie B.,
Rules. Francisco,
Broadway Joseph C.,
Books, a Aglubat, Linofe
division of R., Parentela,
Random House, Ferdinand O.,
Inc. pp. 151- Tuason, Vevian
152. T. (2013).
Clark-Lempers, D., Psychology:
J.D. Lempers & Dimensions of
C. Ho. (1991). the Human
Early, Middle, Mind. Mutya
and Late Publishing H

10
11
12