Republic of the Philippines

Department of Education
REGION VII – CENTRAL VISAYAS
Schools Division of Cebu Province

QUARTER 2, WEEK 2
2020-2021

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Name _______________________________ Grade/Section _______________ Date_________
School __________________________________________ District ______________________

I. MELC COMPETENCY CODE

EsP-PD11/12PR-IIb-9.3
Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship

A. Readings / Discussions

1. Why Taking Responsibility is Important?

There are various reasons why is responsibility important in a relationship. Taking

ownership and responsibility for your actions is an important part of healthy relationships. Doing
so is an empowering reminder that you have control over the role you play in your relationship.
Taking responsibility creates trust and dependability. When you take responsibility for your
behaviors, you demonstrate to your partner your willingness to be honest and vulnerable, which
in turns encourages your partner to be open and authentic with you.
Responsibility is an important attribute of personality. It sets a standard for how you would
see yourself and how others will see you. Being able to take the responsibilities in a relationship
for your deeds motivates your partner to be completely honest and vulnerable. Doing so will
encourage them to be more open, candid, and authentic with you and result in honest,
meaningful conversations.
This kind of communication between partners is said to be the key to a strong
relationship. Secondly, be willing to accept your flaws and mistakes allow you room to grow. It
motivates and enhances your self-esteem and promotes you to be mostly independent rather
than depending on your partner for reassurance of your self-worth.
Taking ownership and accepting responsibilities in a relationship enhances trust and
dependability among partners. Both partners know that they can count on the other always to
have their back.
Here are 3 reasons why taking responsibilities in a relationship will do you good and how
relationship and responsibilities are connected:
1. You will be able to control situations
By taking relationship responsibility or responsibility in marriage, you will understand
when to come to the rescue, take charge, and make things smooth when things go
“topsy turvy”. Lack of responsibility in the relationship will cause the relationship to fall
apart.
2. Your partner will look up to you
Your partner will be able to trust you and count on you. You will be looked upon as the
leader in a relationship. This will also lead to unparalleled personal growth and that of the
relationship.
3. You’ll learn compassion
Being compassionate is one of the most important aspects of the relationship. By being a
responsible partner, you will learn empathy and support your partner.

Take Note: You have rights in your relationship. Everyone does, and those rights can help you
set boundaries that should be respected by both partners in a healthy relationship.

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2. Relationship Rights & Responsibilities

• To be respected and treated as an

equal to feel safe.
• To say no anytime, even if you’ve said
yes before.
• To suggest activities or refuse
activities.
• To have my own feelings and ideas
and share them without worrying about
how my dating partner will react.
• To speak up when I think my dating
partner’s actions or language are unfair
or hurtful.
• To express my opinions and be heard
by my partner.
• To have my limits and values
respected.
• To refuse physical touch with anyone,
at any time for any reason.
• To have friends and space aside from
• To determine my limits and my dating partner.
values. • To have my privacy rights respected,
• To respect the limits and values including the rights to private
of others. conversations, phone calls, text
• To give my dating partner space messages, social networking activities,
emails, etc.
to be his/her own person.
• To live free from violence and abuse.
• To own my actions and feelings. • To choose when/if you have sex and
• To communicate clearly and who you have sex with.
honestly. • To end a relationship that isn’t right or
• To compromise when needed healthy for you.
without compromising myself.
• To ask for help when I need it.
• To check my actions and
decisions to decide if they are
good or bad for me.
• Not to try to have power or
control over my partner.
• To respect the privacy of others,
including their rights to private
conversations, phone calls, text
messages, social networking
activities, emails, etc.

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 B. Exercises

Exercise 1

Directions: Identify the following statements whether it is RIGHTS or RESPONSIBILITY in

a relationships.

___1. To be treated with respect always.

___2. To feel safe in a relationship.
___3. To listen to the other person.
___4. To be considerate and kind.
___5. To accept and value the other person’s identity and cultural background.
___6. To say no.
___7. To feel comfortable being myself.
___8. To communicate clearly, honestly, and respectfully.
___9. To negotiate and compromise when needed.
___10. Do not abuse the other person – physically, sexually or emotionally.
___11. To determine my values and set limits and boundaries.
___12. To express myself honestly and openly.
___13. To be treated as an equal.
___14. To respect the other person’s limits, values, feelings and privacy.
___15. To communicate about my values and limits.

Exercise 2

Directions: Enumerate your basic rights and responsibilities in the following relationships that
you might have.

Your relationship with… Your rights… Your responsibilities…

1. Your parents

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 2. Your siblings

3. Your neighbors

4. Your friends

5. Boyfriend/Girlfriend

1. How well do the lists above reflect your current or past intimate relationships?

________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________

2. Is there anything you could improve on to be a more respectful partner, or that

your partner needs to work on to treat you with more respect?

________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________

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 C. Assessment/Application/Outputs

Directions: Decide to be responsible in a relationship. Below are the basic rights of

others, write the corresponding responsibilities that you have to perform in order to
respect their rights in a relationship that you have with them.

Their rights in your relationship Your responsibilities in your relationship

Your siblings have the right to live free from 1.

violence and abuse.

Your boyfriend/girlfriend has the right to have 2.

friends and space aside from you.

Your parents have the right to impose rules 3.

and regulations at home.

Your best friend has the right to say No 4.

anytime, even if they said YES before.

Your partner has the right to privacy in 5.

conversations, text messages, etc.

Your boyfriend/girlfriend has the right to refuse 6.

physical touch for a reason.

Your siblings have the right to express 7.

opinions and be heard.

Your parents have the rights to suggest or 8.

refuse activities you want.

Your partner has the right to refuse to have 9.

sex.

Your friends have the right to be respected

and treated equal. 10.

D. Enrichment / Reinforcement Activity/ies

Directions: Write your reflection about the significant impact of your present relationship
during this time of pandemic.

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Name _______________________________ Grade/Section _______________ Date_________
School __________________________________________ District ______________________

MELC
COMPETENCY CODE
Distinguish the various roles of different individuals in
society and how they can influence people through EsP-PD11/12SR-IIb-10.1
their leadership or followership

A. Readings/Discussions

 Lessons on Leadership and Membership from Fables

1. The Farmer and the Stork

A Farmer placed nets on his newly sown plough lands, and caught a quantity of Cranes,
which came to pick up his seed. With them he trapped a Stork also. The Stork having his leg
fractured by the net, earnestly besought the Farmer to spare his life. “Pray, save me, Master,” he
said, “and let me go free this once. My broken limb should excite your pity. Besides, I am no
Crane, I am a Stork, a bird of excellent character; and see how I love and slave for my father and
mother. Look too, at my feathers, they are not the least like to those of a Crane.” The Farmer
laughed aloud, and said, “It may be all as you say; I only know this, I have taken you with these
robbers, the Cranes, and you must die in their company.”

2. The Hunter and the Woodsman

A hunter, not very bold, was searching for the tracks of a Lion. He asked a man felling oaks in
the forest if he had seen any marks of his footsteps or knew where his lair was. “I will,” said the
man, “at once show you the Lion himself.” The Hunter, turning very pale and chattering with his
teeth from fear, replied, “No, thank you. I did not ask that; it is his track only I am in search of, not
the Lion himself.”

3. Bear and man lying down

Two men were traveling together, when a bear suddenly met them on their path. One of them
climbed up quickly into a tree, and concealed himself in the branches. The other, seeing that he
must be attacked, fell flat on the ground, and when the Bear came up and felt him with his snout,
and smelt him all over, he held his breath, and feigned the appearance of death as much as he
could. The Bear soon left him, for it is said he will not touch a dead body. When he was quite
gone, the other traveler descended from the tree, and accosting his friend, jocularly inquired
“what it was the Bear had whispered in his ear?” he replied, “He gave me this advice: Never
travel with a friend who deserts you at the approach of danger.”

4. Goatherd and the wild goats

A Goatherd, driving his flock from their pasture at eventide, found some Wild Goats mingled
among them, and shut them up together with his own for the night. The next day it snowed very
hard, so that he could not take the herd to their usual feeding places, but was obliged to keep
them in the fold. He gave his own goats just sufficient food to keep them alive, but fed the
strangers more abundantly in the hope of enticing them to stay with him and of making them his
own. When the thaw set in, he led them all out to feed, and the Wild Goats scampered away as

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fast as they could to the mountains. The Goatherd scolded them for their ingratitude in leaving
him, when during the storm he had taken more care of them than of his own herd. One of them,
turning about, said to him: “That is the very reason why we are so cautious; for if you yesterday
treated us better than the Goats you have had so long, it is plain also that if others came after
us, you would in the same manner prefer them to ourselves.”

5. The Gnat and the Bull

A Gnat settled on the horn of a Bull, and sat there a long time. Just as he was about to fly off,
he made a buzzing noise, and inquired of the Bull if he would like him to go. The Bull replied, “I
did not know you had come, and I shall not miss you when you go away.”

6. The Man and the Little Cat

One day, an old man was having a stroll in the forest when he suddenly saw a little cat stuck
in a hole. The poor animal was struggling to get out. So, he gave him his hand to get him out.
But the cat scratched his hand with fear. The man pulled his hand screaming with pain. But he
did not stop; he tried to give a hand to the cat again and again. Another man was watching the
scene, screamed with surprise, “Stop helping this cat! He’s going to get himself out of there”. The
other man did not care about him, he just continued saving that animal until he finally
succeeded, and then he walked to that man and said, “Son, it is cat’s Instincts that makes him
scratch and to hurt, and it is my job to love and care”.

 Servant Leadership

While the idea of servant leadership goes back at least two thousand years, the modern
servant leadership movement was launched by Robert K. Greenleaf in 1970 with the publication
of his classic essay, The Servant as Leader. It was in that essay that he coined the words
"servant-leader" and "servant leadership." Greenleaf defined the servant-leader as follows:
"The servant-leader is servant first... It begins with the natural feeling that one wants to serve, to
serve first. Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead. That person is sharply different
from one who is leader first, perhaps because of the need to assuage an unusual power drive or
to acquire material possessions...The leader-first and the servant-first are two extreme types.
Between them there are shadings and blends that are part of the infinite variety of human
nature."
"The difference manifests itself in the care taken by the servant-first to make sure that
other people's highest priority needs are being served. The best test, and difficult to administer,
is: Do those served grow as persons? Do they, while being served, become healthier, wiser,
freer, more autonomous, more likely themselves to become servants? And, what is the effect on
the least privileged in society? Will they benefit or at least not be further deprived?"
Robert Greenleaf's concept of the servant-leader was stimulated by his reading of Journey to the
East by Herman Hesse. It is the story of a group of travelers who were served by Leo, who did
their menial chores and lifted them with his spirit and song. All went well until Leo disappeared
one day. The travelers fell into disarray and could go no farther. The journey was over. Years
later, one of the travelers saw Leo again—as the revered head of the Order that sponsored the
journey. Leo, who had been their servant, was the titular head of the Order, a great and noble
leader.

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 In The Servant as Leader, Greenleaf said: ...this story clearly says—the great leader is
seen as servant first, and that simple fact is the key to his greatness. Leo was actually the leader
all of the time, but he was servant first because that was what he was, deep down inside.
Leadership was bestowed upon a man who was by nature a servant. It was something given, or
assumed, that could be taken away. His servant nature was the real man, not bestowed, not
assumed, and not to be taken away. He was servant first.
If there is a single characteristic of the servant-leader that stands out in Greenleaf's
essay, it is the desire to serve. A walk through The Servant as Leader provides a fairly long list of
additional characteristics that Greenleaf considered important. They include listening and
understanding; acceptance and empathy; foresight; awareness and perception; persuasion;
conceptualization; self-healing; and rebuilding community. Greenleaf describes servant-leaders
as people who initiate action, are goal-oriented, are dreamers of great dreams, are good
communicators, are able to withdraw and re-orient themselves, and are dependable, trusted,
creative, intuitive, and situational.
Greenleaf described a philosophy, not a theory. However, based on the views of a
number of scholars, the elements that are most unique to servant leadership compared with
other theories are:
(1) the moral component, not only in terms of the personal morality and integrity of the servant-
leader, but also in terms of the way in which a servant-leader encourages enhanced moral
reasoning among his or her followers, who can therefore test the moral basis of the servant-
leader's visions and organizational goals;
(2) the focus on serving followers for their own good, not just the good of the organization, and
forming long-term relationships with followers, encouraging their growth and development so that
over time they may reach their fullest potential;
(3) concern with the success of all stakeholders, broadly defined— employees, customers,
business partners, communities, and society as a whole— including those who are the least
privileged; and
(4) self-reflection, as a counter to the leader's hubris.

 Leadership and Followership Theories

There are several existing theories of leadership:

1. Trait Theory. This theory defines leadership based on certain personality traits which are
generally suited for all leaders, such as decisiveness, persistence, high level of self-confidence
and assertiveness, among others.
2. Behavioral Theory. This theory presupposes that leadership is a learned behavior, and that
leaders are defined according to certain types of behavior they exhibit.
3. Participative Theory. The opposite of an autocratic leader, the participative leader involves
other people to make common decisions.
4. Situational Theory. This theory assumes that there is no one style of leadership and that
leadership behavior is based on the factors present in a situation, and usually takes into
consideration how followers behave.
5. Transactional Theory. This theory states that leadership involves a transaction or negotiation
of resources or position, and usually employs reward and punishment.
6. Transformational Theory. This theory involves a vision, which a leader uses to rally support
from followers, and the role of the leader is in motivating others to support the vision and make it
happen.
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B. Exercises

Exercise 1: My Affiliations in the community

Directions: Mark check () on items that you are affiliated with and answer the questions
below.

___16. Choir
___17. Dance group
___18. Play/theater arts
___19. School Government
___20. School Paper
___21. School clubs
___22. Community organizations
___23. Church organization
___24. Civic organization
___25. Others specify_______________

1. Why did you choose to be in that particular group or organization?

____________________________________________________________________________

2. What was the biggest factor that made you decide to be in that group/organization?
____________________________________________________________________________

3. Who decided on your role in that organization?

____________________________________________________________________________

4. How do you fulfill your responsibilities in that organization?

____________________________________________________________________________

5. How do you find the leader/s of the organization?

____________________________________________________________________________

Exercises 2: Me as Follower/Leader of an Organization

Directions: From the previous readings, relate yourself to any of those characters in each
fables. Give a concrete example why did you choose any of them.

Fable The character that I The reasons why I relate it to myself

can relate to myself

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Note: Being with the majority is not always correct. There are many ways that teens are in the
best position to serve older people or be of service to the community. But, belonging to a group
or organization also has a benefit for your well-being depending on the activities that your group
or organization is indulging into.
C. Assessment / Application / Outputs

Directions: Answer the following statements with a TRUE or FALSE.

___________ 1. Leaders can follow their whims and fancies.

___________ 2. Leaders are capable to do anything they like.
___________ 3. Leaders don’t need to mind their subjects.
___________ 4. Leaders should follow ethical principles.
___________ 5. Leaders are responsible.
___________ 6. Leaders are to serve others.
___________ 7. An ethical Leader is someone who works for other people’s interests and not
for his/her own hidden agenda or ulterior motives as guided by sound
principles.
___________ 8. Servant leadership is the type of leadership that puts others first before
one’s own self.
___________ 9. A servant leader listens deeply to others and empathizes with the people
around him/her.
___________ 10. A servant leader puts other’s concerns first and foremost above own self-
interests and motives.

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D. Enrichment / Reinforcement Activity/ies

Directions: Conduct an interview (by phone, chat or text) of a leader/follower in your

community whom you appreciated so much because of his/her example. Make
him/her a short biography that shows his/her participations, achievements, and
good deeds that you observed in your community. Include a picture of him if
possible.

References:

Personal Development. Learner’s Manual. Department of Education Republic of the

Philippines. First Edition 2016.

Personal Development. Teacher’s Guide. Department of Education Republic of the

Philippines. First Edition 2016

Santos, Ricardo Rubio (2016) Personal Development. Developing the whole

person. Rex Bookstore, Inc. First Edition

Prepared by: Edited by:

FRANJHIELYN PELONIO-GOLVIN ________________________

Reviewed by:

_________________________

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 GUIDE

For the Teacher:

The activities given in this Self-Learning Home Task is designed for the
learners’ personalized answers based on their real experiences,
observations, and knowledge. In doing so, the teacher has the options on
how to give merits to their respective answers.

For the Learner:

The readings were chosen which is suited to the most essential learning
competency in the subject. Read and comprehend this Self-Learning
Home Task carefully in order for you to have a better understanding of the
topic and you will be able to do the activities at your own pace.

For the Parent/

Home Tutor:
This Self-Learning Home Task was crafted to facilitate your child’s learning
at their own pace. Please guide them especially in handling their time
properly in order to attain success of the whole learning process.

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