How To Prepare For A Difficult Conversation: Example
How To Prepare For A Difficult Conversation: Example
How To Prepare For A Difficult Conversation: Example
Why?
Because it’s important we speak out when difficult issues arise in the workplace. But typically these will
not be easy conversations. The secret to a successful difficult conversation is to prepare. Here is how…
Which conversations?
These tips help with any difficult conversation in the workplace. Here are some examples of when a
conversation is needed and likely won’t be easy:
How?
Go through the steps below. Write out the answers on a sheet before you start the conversation.
What assumptions are you making? He’s lazy or simply not good enough.
What feelings is this problem creating for you? It’s making life hell – my supervisor blames me.
How might the other person see the situation? That I am putting too much pressure on him
and not given him enough resources?
What might their intentions have been? I think he means to do well. Not to make my life hell.
How have you each contributed to the problem? Maybe I could have supported him
more. But I need him to be self-sufficient.
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What impact is this having on you/the team/work? I will be blamed if not and the team will lose funding.
What do you want to achieve A clear plan of action for how to deliver the report on time.
by the end of the conversation?
When will you conduct it? First thing Monday so we have the
Beginning/end of the week/day? rest of the week to work through it
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Use the facts that you know; In the last month, you were absent 10 days.
avoid assumptions or blame
Show empathy and understanding: • From what you’ve told me, I understand
• by paraphrasing what they have told you. that you feel overwhelmed …
• by acknowledging their feelings. • I see you are getting really stressed by this
Determine the actions that you will both take to be This has been useful. I think we should plan the next two
more constructive in future weeks at which point you will have delivered a first draft.
At the end of the meeting, thank the person Thank you – I am glad we talked
for attending and explain why it’s important about this and determined a way forward.
to resolve the conflict