Facing Your Feelings - 03 - Improving Distress PDF
Facing Your Feelings - 03 - Improving Distress PDF
Facing Your Feelings - 03 - Improving Distress PDF
Module 3
Improving Distress
Introduction 2
Balancing Acceptance & Improvement 2
Improving Distress 2
Opposite Action 3
Distress Improvement Activities 4
Improving Distress Practice 7
Problem Solving 8
Module Summary 14
About the Modules 15
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Introduction
The previous module focused on developing ways of accepting emotional distress. This module takes a
very different focus of learning how to improve your distress when you experience it. To improve distress
we focus more on your behaviours, looking at what to do and what not to do when you experience
emotional distress. Depending on the type of escape methods you typically use (i.e., avoidance, numbing &
withdrawing, or harmful releases), the strategies we will suggest for improving your distress will vary
slightly. This module will focus on helping you discover a variety of things you can try to improve your
distress, so you can experiment and find out what works for you.
We have purposely put Accepting Distress before Improving Distress in this series of Modules, as we don’t
want “improving” to become just another strategy for avoiding your emotions. In summary, you need to
feel the emotion first, accept it, ride through it, and then take action to improve it.
However having said that, if as you work through these modules the distress you experience is extremely
intense and unbearable emotional pain, then you may not be able to apply the acceptance strategies
outlined in the previous module just yet. If this is the case, then it is ok to move straight to this module
and focus on improving your distress (particularly the Distress Improvement Activities on page 5). This is
particularly relevant for people who engage in self-harm or drug and alcohol use to manage their distress. In
these situations, temporary distractions may be necessary to help you get through the intense distress you
might be experiencing, and avoid engaging in behaviours that are damaging to you.
Improving Distress
As we have seen, being distress intolerant can manifest is very different sorts of behaviours or escape
methods. Some people avoid certain situations that make them distressed, engage in reassurance seeking
or checking to alleviate their distress, or use distraction and suppression to stop their distress. Other
people numb and withdraw via engaging in alcohol
or drug use, binge eating or using sleep to escape Alcohol or Binge Eating
Drugs
their emotions. And other people may engage in
harmful releases, hurting themselves in some Sleep
physical way as a means of dealing with their Self Injury
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Opposite Action
In Module 1, you identified your particular escape methods. Below is a table summarising the opposite
actions for each distress escape method we have covered. Look through the table and circle the opposite
action box corresponding to your particular escape method(s). There is also a box at the bottom for if you
engage in a particular escape method that we have not covered in these Modules. If this applies to you,
maybe you could try to think of what the opposite action would be.
Distraction & Suppression Don’t push away distressing feelings. Instead allow
and experience these feelings. Remember to
reward your efforts when you are done, by doing
things that are active or soothing.
* Note: This module deals with general avoidance driven by not wanting to feel emotional distress. If you identify very strongly with your
avoidance being specifically related to social situations, or fear of having a panic attack or fear of having a serious health problem, then you may
want to look at the ‘Shy No Longer’, ‘Panic Stations’ and ‘Helping Health Anxiety’ Information packages respectively to target these specific
problems.
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You will notice that most of the opposite actions initially require that you stay with, ride through, allow and
experience the distress, rather than escaping it. As such, the acceptance strategies of Module 2 will be
relevant in helping you do this. You will also notice that most of the opposite actions require engaging in
some activity that is either about being active in the moment, or about soothing yourself in some way. The
Distress Improvement Activities that follow this section will help you with ideas for activities that may help
you achieve these aims.
Also notice that for the first 3 escape methods (i.e., situational avoidance, reassurance seeking or checking,
distraction & suppression), distress improvement activities should be used as a reward after having faced
and stayed with the distress until it naturally subsides of its own accord. For the remaining escape
methods, engaging in distress improvement activities may be done sooner than this, as you do not
necessarily have to wait until you feel the distress subside.
It is also worth mentioning that doing these opposite actions can be challenging, and so words of
encouragement and compassion to ourselves may be important when we are finding it tough. It can be
useful to think “what encouragement would I give to
someone else feeling this way?”, “what would I say to
them and what tone would I use?” Some other
examples of helpful self-talk might be things like... “I
can stay with this feeling”; “it is good practice for me to “I can get through this!”
get comfortable being uncomfortable”; “I can get
through this”; “I can tolerate this”; “It will pass”; “this is
good for me in the longrun”; “I can focus on just getting
through this moment”; “I can breathe with this feeling”;
“this is helping me build my tolerance”...
The idea is not that you have to use each activity on the list, but that some may appeal to you to try and
others won’t. Also, by having such a large list, it may help you to brainstorm other distress improvement
activities that may work for you. Look at the list and underline any activities you may like to experiment
with when you are feeling distressed, and feel free to add other activities that come to mind in the space
provided. Remember, the aim of these activities is not to take your distress away, but to make
your distress more tolerable.
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The only way to get a sense of what distress improvement activities work well for
you, is to start experimenting with those that sound promising, and then evaluate
what impact they have on your distress. Below is a table to keep track of the
findings from your experiments. The next time you feel distressed you might try
one of the distress improvement activities you highlighted, recording the date you
tried it, what the activity was and the outcome. By outcome we mean what actually
happened when you tried it. Did it work well at improving your distress? Did it
make no difference? Or did it make your distress worse? Based on the outcome
you can then evaluate what you learnt from it, whether it is a worthwhile strategy to do again, or whether
you need to redo it because you are still unsure if it is useful.
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Improving Distress Practice
Now that you have some general ideas of things not to do when you feel distressed (i.e., my
usual distress escape methods), and things you can do to improve your distress (i.e.,
opposite actions and distress improvement activities), it is good to personalise and clarify
these ideas for your own situation. Below gives two examples of what a personalised list
might look like. The first example is of someone who numbs & withdraws by binge
eating and sleeping, and also engages in harmful releases by scratching themselves. The
second example is of someone who situationally avoids by not leaving the house, distracts
themselves when they do venture out, and seeks reassurance from their family to deal with their distress.
Following these examples is the opportunity to draft your personalised list of ideas. Use the examples
below, the “opposite action” section(s) you circled on page 3, and what you learnt from your distress
improvement experiments on page 6, to assist you with drafting your own ideas.
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Problem Solving
Once you have been able to tolerate rather than escape your negative emotions,
and your distress has somewhat subsided, it may be worth asking yourself
whether the distress you are experiencing is regarding a situation you can
actually do something about? That is, is your distress regarding something you
have some control over, and could take action with to improve how you are
feeling?
If the answer is ‘no’, then keep going with all that we have covered so far in
Module 2 and 3 to keep building your tolerance to the distress.
However, if the answer is ‘yes’, then once the distress has subsided, you might
be in a better position to problem solve regarding the situation that is distressing you. Problem solving
involves working your way through the problem in a systematic, step-by-step, structured manner. This
means identifying the problem that is distressing you, thinking through all the options for solving the
problem, looking at the advantages and disadvantages of the options most preferable to you, picking one or
more options to put into place, listing the steps required to put those options into action, and specifying a
plan for when you will take each step. Finally, it requires taking action to put your plan in place, then
evaluating the outcome, and reassessing if the problem has been solved or requires further action. As you
can imagine, problem solving is difficult to do when you are in the thick of distress, but is a good thing to
try once the distress is more manageable.
Below is an example of problem solving in action. If problem solving seems relevant to improving your
distress, space is then provided for you to follow the same problem solving steps.
Problem Definition
The gas and phone bills are due at the same time. I don’t have enough money to
cover both this month.
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• Don’t pay the bills and move in with a friend instead
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Now eliminate the less desirable or unreasonable alternatives only after as many possible solutions have
been listed. Then, list the remaining options in order of preference.
Preferred Solutions/Options
1. Ring both companies – see if I can negotiate to pay it off gradually.
3. Prioritise – I can live without the phone for a while, but not the gas, so I will pay the gas
bill first.
Advantages Disadvantages
Potential I may be able to keep both the phone I will feel embarrassed having to ring
Solution #1 and gas on. the companies.
I will feel I have done something. I may not get what I want.
I will still have to pay eventually.
Potential They are experienced and will know I will need to do some research to find
Solution #2 what to do. a free service – this will take some
I’ll have support. effort.
Someone to help me.
Companies may listen to them.
Potential The gas will stay on. I won’t have a phone on hand if I need
Solution #3 I can still use the pay phone. it.
I will survive. I may have difficulties getting the
Problem will be reduced. phone reconnected in future.
Potential More money. I will be too busy – no time for myself.
Solution #4 This won’t solve the immediate
problem.
If that doesn’t resolve the problem, pay gas bill and use pay Me Wednesday
phone temporarily.
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Problem-Solving
1. Identify and Define Problem Area/Issue
Problem Definition
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3. Evaluate Alternatives
Advantages Disadvantages
Potential Solution #1
Potential Solution #2
Potential Solution #3
Potential Solution #4
4. Decide on a Plan
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Module Summary
• Maintaining a balance between acceptance and improvement is the key to building distress
tolerance. You need to feel the emotion first, accept it, ride through it, and then take action to
improve it.
• The common guiding principle for improving distress is to do the opposite of your distress escape
methods, and find specific activities that improve your emotional state.
• Acting opposite to your escape urge involves dropping your escape methods (i.e., situational
avoidance, reassurance seeking or checking, distraction and suppression, alcohol or drugs, binge
eating, excessive sleep, harmful releases, etc), allowing and experiencing the distress, and
participating in activities that are activating or soothing.
• Activities that are activating or soothing we call ‘distress improvement activities’, and you will need
to experiment with these activities when you are distressed to find out what works for improving
your distress.
• Once your distress is more manageable, it may be worth questioning if there is something you can
change about your situation to further improve the distress. If it is a situation you have some
degree of control over, then you can use the 6 problem solving steps as a way of working through
the problem systematically.
Coming up next …
In Module 4, you will put together and
practice your Distress Tolerance
Action Plan...
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BACKGROUND
The concepts and strategies in these modules have been developed from evidence based psychological
practice, primarily Cognitive-Behavioural and Mindfulness-Based Therapies. These modules are based on
the approach that distress intolerance is a result of problematic cognitions (thoughts) and behaviours.
REFERENCES
These are some of the professional references that informed the development of modules in this
information package.
Leahy, R.L. & Tirch, D., & Napolitano, L.A. (2011). Emotion Regulation In Psychotherapy: A Practitioner’s Guide.
New York: Guilford Press.
Linehan, M. M. (1993). Skills Training Manual For Treating Borderline Personality Disorder. New York: Guilford
Press.
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