the way i'm writing alastor's sexuality in My Deer Nanny is that he is on the aroace spectrum. i want to manage expectations for those inquiring; he doesn't want a romantic relationship and he doesn't want to have sex.

Ok I understand what you were trying to say (and also relate to the frustrations) but I disagree with the comparison to being sapphic but not a lesbian in the tags

Because all autistic people with ADHD are autistic

And not all sapphic people are lesbians

I am autistic I just have this another thing going on

Same with someone who is autistic and has depression for example

I understand, but you've switched around the phrasing I used because AuDHD and Sapphic were the umbrella groups in that specific comparison.

All AuDHD people are autistic, but not all autistic people have and relate to being ADHD. All lesbians are Sapphic, but not all Sapphic people are lesbians.

Which just goes back to my original post and point. All autistic people are neurodivergent, but not all neurodivergent people are autistic.

Again, sorry if that was a dumb example. It's not exactly 1:1, but it's still trying to to show that within general groups of people there are often more specific groups. They all belong together and can relate, bond, and build on many experiences, but there within those subsections they are certain things that remain unique to that subsection. Especially when medical research and information is involved.

ORIGINAL POST

“That's very funny,” says Peeta. Suddenly he lashes out at the glass in Haymitch's hand. It shatters on the floor, sending the blood red liquid running towards the back of the train. “Only not to us.”

— THE HUNGER GAMES, FIRST TRAIN SCENE / BREAKFAST

“Then I made things worse, too. By giving the money,” says Peeta. Suddenly he strikes out at a lamp that sits precariously on a crate and knocks it across the room, where it shatters against the floor.

— CATCHING FIRE, POST D11 SPEECH

“Do you think I gave them a bright future? Because I think they'll be lucky if they survive the day!” Peeta sends something else flying, a statue.

— CATCHING FIRE, POST D11 SPEECH

these are all a compilation of peeta considerably being violent, with little to no reason warranting this kind of response. 1) the kids were actively badgering a drunk man, who yes, functions as their mentor. but he is one person and both katniss and peeta give him no room to breathe the first thing in the morning, undermining his inebriated state. as a result of haymitch making satire ("stay alive,") based off of their survival, which is obviously extremely dismissive, peeta then provokes him by knocking his drink out of his hand??? instead of trying to be reasonable in which he CAN be and somehow wasn't here?

this does result in haymitch punching him, and while it doesn't happen again it is an equally unprompted response. totally unneeded. but within the trilogy peeta seems to have this running gag of being empathetic to everything BUT alcoholism, calling katniss a "drunk" for drinking once out of stress, and dumping out all of haymitch's spare liquor which forces him to go turkey when he KNEW he was handling withdrawal.

regarding him throwing things in the room of the district 11 attic, that was after katniss told him about snow not believing the starcrossed lovers ploy & the fact that their families could be in danger. if peeta is ACTIVELY going to be violent in response to that over something she cannot control and HE actively pushed for the entire time, of course she wouldn't tell him. it was definitely inappropriate of him considering he had 1) offered the district money and 2) then decided to ruin their things as if?? this is his house or something??

what people don't seem to understand is that peeta has good traits. doesn't mean he's a good person. he's manipulative, explosive, and often more demanding than most would like to admit. being raised by an abusive parent, it would make sense why his emotions can be so bipolar. but again, he puts people in danger numerous times, and causes harm numerous times.

I got to say there's so many things wrong with this. first moments you about Peeta being "violent "

“That's very funny,” says Peeta. Suddenly he lashes out at the glass in Haymitch's hand. It shatters on the floor, sending the blood red liquid running towards the back of the train. “Only not to us.”

— THE HUNGER GAMES, FIRST TRAIN SCENE / BREAKFAST

“Then I made things worse, too. By giving the money,” says Peeta. Suddenly he strikes out at a lamp that sits precariously on a crate and knocks it across the room, where it shatters against the floor.

— CATCHING FIRE, POST D11 SPEECH

first of all these aren't even moments of violent this is Peeta getting legitimately mad about heymitch not being serious which I'm sorry but if you were their precision I'm sure the last thing you would want to hear is someone joking about it second the only thing he did was through the cup out of his hand at best it's just plain rude this so use claiming that this is an act of violence it just shows me you're just stretching

and as Peeta getting mad about katniss not telling him about Snow's visit he has legitimate reason to be mad at her even katniss herself so that it was wrong for not to tell him because he didn't know how bad things were he unintentionally made things worse because they did not give him. and even then the only thing he did was through vase against the wall something that katniss has also done when she was legitimately angry but I don't see you calling her violent. also you saying Peeta is manipulative, explosive, and often more demanding than most would like to admit. so laughably wrong like the only time you can say that Peeta is manipulative is when he is doing it to benefit katniss that's it. you call him explosive or demanding it's just also inaccurate because Peeta is one of the most patient and level-headed out of all three of them and Peeta has never demanded anything of katniss she was willing to be her friend without any expectations of anything more.

your examples of Peeta being violations so laughable and it really seems to me that you're trying to picture him as this horrible violent person because you ship gale and katniss wish I don't understand because not only is he a horrible love interest. I mean not only did Gale kiss katniss without her consent but he also made her feel bad about being in a relationship with Peeta even though it was to save her life. there are many more examples of him being just the worst but aside from all that the reason why gale would just not work out for is how both katniss and gale the war. katniss wanted to fight the war with as least loss of life as humanly possible whereas Gale want to in his own words use nose playbook. this is why we say that Gale is the violent one Peeta like katniss wanted to fight the war with at least loss of life as he only possible

HAHA are you that fucked up over your fav that you had to copy and paste the entire post into my inbox? no seriously, this is the best fucking ask i have ever gotten. let me set the record for you.

i'm not painting him out to be a “horrible, violent person,” but a lot of his tendencies are violent, to an extent where it has potentially put katniss in danger. and there's no WAY you're trying to justify him knocking a drink out of a grown man's hand??? it's disrespectful because he RELIED on that same guy to save him through and through. and it was a violent act. if i knocked a drink out of your hand you'd likely try and get to blows with me, too. what i'm saying is that his action led to a violent outcome.

and about gale. PLEASE tell me where it has ever said that gale kissed katniss without consent. are you getting confused with jacob from twilight, maybe? is it because they're both native american and easy to villainize? listen to yourself! i have said on this blog numerous times over that the way gale handles an attempt at romantic relations with katniss is POOR. it is detrimental to their friendship, and puts far more strain on katniss to try and be this dream girl, which both gale and peeta see in her.

but honey, out of the two? gale has always seen katniss for who she is. the hunter. the protector. the kind big sister. the one who lays her life down for those in need. he significantly sees her in the present at all times, knows her potential.

peeta acts out of love for who she was in the past, and acts around it.

examples: the valley song, the bread moment (which is a mutual remembrance,) mr. mellark loving ms. everdeen and the parallels he tries to make between them (e.g. “Just like your mother, I knew I was a goner.”)

peeta is a kind, protective and sacrificial person, but that does not take away the side of him prone to manipulation and violence. he is seen to all as good, which isn't false — but to dismiss the traits in which are his flaws creates a poor understanding of who he really is.

let's remember, PEETA starts the star-crossed lovers act in his interview to manipulate the crowd into feeling sympathy for him, and by way of katniss through mention. she didn't ask him to do that. THAT was without her consent. again, “If it wasn't for the baby,” WITHOUT her consent. you blab on about how it's for protection, it was for their survival but it was SELFISH of him to go up on stage and harbor a girl into his heartbreak of dying just because he had a crush on her, meanwhile she only ever had one interaction with him.

gale wanted to be katniss’ friend. that is all he was trying to be, and love entangled into it due to their years of history and the circumstances. i feel like you everlark fans will demean what they had to push your ship when you forget that gale knew her longer! it wasn't out of convention!

and “gale and katniss wouldn't work out due to them in the war!” so you're saying peeta, who strangled katniss and kept degrading her by referring to her as an animal/“mutt” would be better for her? the one whose brain was PROGRAMMED to hate her and wouldn't ever recover from that, and neither would she? get the fuck out of my face. i have never seen anyone so double standard. when it's gale, you find any reason to call him violent. when it's PEETA, you excuse it in any way because he's your perfect little boy.

You get to pick where one will go. No exceptions. And do you have a preference for the breed of dog?

I have notifs turned on for you and thank fuck for that because I almost had a “say drake!” 😃 moment over something that realistically isn’t that deep 😭💀

i hold grudges sooo hard sometimes so it helps to remind myself that choosing to pity someone and be nice instead is actually self care and not letting them off the hook (lowk i think it pisses some people off even more so win win id say) but also...as a certified hater at times, it is so valid to find ur inner kendrick levels of hate i just think it has to be worthy of the energy bahahah. life is all about finding that balance of knowing whats worth your attention and time

asked to speak at two conferences, but denied financial assistance to do so from my supervisor. so now I either have to pay ~1k+ out of pocket AND use PTO to further my professional development or just…not go.

still haven’t gotten notes from my advisor for my thesis, but received a vague message of how it needs work

what should’ve been routine bloodwork had concerning results that my doctor is trying to downplay. given the urgency of her request for me to get retested asap…well, I might be in for a really harrowing journey of health complications