Mostly Discourse (and controversial topics)

About OP:

I'm a legal adult living in the USA. I'm bigender, and I use (he/him) and (she/her) pronouns. Just call me OP or Sage if need be.

Additionally, I'm not a trained psychologist, I'm just a mentally ill person with at least five different trains of thought going per minute. On the front of I'm formally diagnosed with depression, and somewhat formally diagnosed with autism. I've also got OCA2 albinism.

Lastly, I'm a singlet, so I'd prefer not to get into syscourse here.

About This Blog:

Use the block button if my blog upsets you in a way that you don't want to have a discussion about. Or block for whatever reason you have, really.

I'd prefer if the people interacting with this blog are over the age of 15, as I just don't really want to do discourse with somebody that young for a handful of reasons.

I dislike echo-chambers and I'm opinionated, which is why I engage in discourse. To me, it's a form of field research done through the sharing of opinions.

The ask box is open, and anon is enabled. I will happily have a civil discussion-- one that's free of ad hominem remarks and one in which all parties involved are aware that they could be disagreed with-- from all sides of discourse. Anon-hate will either be deleted, or, if I feel like it, countered back.

This blog's activity is according to me and nobody but me. So this blog will inevitably drop in activity if I don't have any spoons to spare (Spoon Theory), or if I'm just busy.

This isn't my main-- I personally can't imagine having a legit discourse blog for a main /lh-- but I'm not linking my main from this blog. If you find my main from here, nuh-uh, no you didn't.

Also, here's a hyperlink to the first post I had to mute notifications on: it got raided by pro-sexism radfems (within 20 minutes of me posting it, might I add)... I've never felt relief so instant until that event taught me the joys of muting notifications.

About Some of OP's Views:

Against the concept of the Oppression Olympics.

Anti-harrassment. Engaging in discourse is not harassment until the arguments "break containment," such as with ad hominem attacks. Again, I hate echo-chambers.

Anti-radqueer, anti-transID, pro-alternatives, pro-recovery.

Pro-para, but harmful paraphilias shouldn't be any contact stance besides no-contact.

Pro-radinclus, pro-LIOMOGAI.

Pro-selfdx, so long as the due research has been done.

Not all coping mechanisms are healthy and productive, and not all facets of the human mind are beneficial-- however, neither is repression.

I find shipcourse labelling more harmful than helpful, but to put a label on myself based squarely on beliefs: neutralship, leaning antiship (mostly due to anti-proship sentiments.)

Pushing "child-coded" and "relative-coded" is harmful. One can absolutely have headcanons, but one's headcanons are not fact, and they do not reign supreme over canon OR other people's headcanons, no matter how many popular they are in fandom spaces.

Pro-selfship AND pro-fictosexual/fictoromantic, so long as all parties involved would be able to consent. I personally believe it's generally okay to age-up a character-- no longer viewing the character as a minor-- for the purpose of selfshipping, since I know most people can't turn off their attractions and (f/o)s oftentimes don't age in canon.

Pro-objectum. Just be mindful if the object isn't in your personal possession.

Kink should be done with all participants aware of risks and consenting. RACK >>> SSC.

You can be both sexually active and asexual.

You can be homosexual but have experience with the opposite gender.

Transandrophobia is real, as is transmisogny. Trans people do experience unique struggles that even the gender they identify as doesn't usually experience. There is also no such thing as "becoming the oppressor" outside of actively perpetuating cycles of abuse (which anybody of any orientation can do). Additionally, abuse is not exclusive to anybody.

Benevolent sexism is real and harmful.

Men (in the USA) can benefit from the patriarchy only if they participate in it. The patriarchy hurts people of different genders differently, but everybody is hurt by it in some way or another. It's better to view this through the lens of the kyriarchy.

White people (in the USA) can be hated and treated indecently, but they are not oppressed.

One's religious beliefs (or lack thereof) should not affect the people who don't share those beliefs.

Pro-choice. People should be allowed to do with their own bodies what they want, ESPECIALLY if it's to protect themselves and their livelihoods. This includes that sex-change surgeries should not be forced upon intersex people.

Pro-voting. Statistically, in the USA's two-party system, every person that doesn't vote may as well be considered a vote for the Republicans, simply because the Republicans have a more active voter-base than the Democrats, despite the USA being more liberal than conservative. Voting third-partiy in presidential elections is ineffective.

The USA government is insanely flawed, especially the judicial branch. Most of this is intentional.

So, I like lurking on the Infinity Nikki subreddit, because it's a really cute game and people love sharing their outfits on there. But man, some people can be REALLY petty there.

Case in point: this one guy just posted about feeling alienated from his male friend group because he likes Infinity Nikki, and they keep making fun of him for it. In posting, he wanted to feel a sense of community that his friend group was depriving him of.

After that post, a bunch of other posts cropped up like "am I the only 25-year old midwestern Leo with brown eyes playing Infinity Nikki?" and "am I the only Dalek playing Infinity Nikki?" That's just giving wayyyy too much of a shit in my opinion.

And these same posters want to bring up how at the dawn of the Infinity Nikki subreddit, there were a lot of posts like this: "I'm a guy and I play this game, am I valid?" After the first couple of those posts, yes, it was just karma-farming (the act of making a nothing-burger post for the sole purpose of getting interaction). But it was just this one post now, and the dude admitted in the comments that he was unaware of all the other old posts like that.

(Also, I'd just love to point out the irony of this guy being called a karma-farmer by folks literally karma-farming.)

Honestly, just chill out, damn; it's not like he said he has his Nikki running around in the least amount of clothes he can dress her in or something. Besides, I dress my Nikki up like a goth hooker anyways.

Personally, I've been scoffed at aplenty for some of my own interests because of how society perceives me, or how society feels somebody like me should be. Like, I'm a grown-ass adult that collects Pokémon cards and has a bed covered in cute plushies. I'm also seen as a God-fearing ciswoman (no.), and so people also tend to find it strange that I play video games, listen to metal, and enjoy fishing.

Nobody should be made to feel "wrong" for this kind of stuff. But that's what society tends to do. And so, to me, it's more than understandable to feel a little self-conscious when society incentivizes cismen to be misogynistic, and yet you're a cisman doing "girly shit," making you a social failure in the eyes of anybody who pays gender norms any ounce of respect.

Also, this is something that personally warms my heart: knowing that dudes play this feminine game, having a really good time as they flip the bird to gender-norms. I fucking love gender equality, systemically AND socially.

Also, just gotta love this sexual harassment of a complete-stranger (/sarcasm):

Not you using the name I prefer on my main, wowza.

Anyways, gee, what a fascinating question this is?..

I think I best answered this literally just the last ask I've answered, two or three posts ago. Really, I'm not sure how much better I can answer the same strangely worded question, just going off of personal opinion and psychology. [1] [2]

Do I think pedophilia is a good thing, no matter if they offend or not? No.

Do I think non-offending pedophiles should be punished (read: just because somebody isn't being punished doesn't mean they are being rewarded) with refusal of mental health treatment, prison, and/or death? No.

It also has meaning in radqueer and anti-radqueer discourse-- primarily that specific line of discourse, actually.

Pro-para can mean a plethora of things to a plethora of different people, but at its core, it's destigmatizing all paraphilias. That's what I mean.

And by also being pro-recovery, I wish people with harmful paraphilias will be able to manage their attractions in ways that don't hurt others or themselves. And it's easier to seek help when you're not being weighed down by a society that sees the best solution in putting you to death or locking you up indefinitely.

Take depression, for example. If somebody lives in an area where mental health isn't taken seriously, but they're severely depressed, they're likely to feel ashamed and not seek treatment. Almost always, this will lead to their mental condition deteriorating. This can also lead to a vicious cycle of the person feeling even more ashamed and undeserving of help. That's really not good.

On the flipside, however, you also have communities that idealize and romanticize depression and self-harm. This is also really not good. The radqueer and xenosatanism (an even worse offshoot of the radqueer community that's inherently pro-contact) ccommunities-- as well as sections of the proship community, to go back to you referencing shipcourse-- are like this for people struggling with harmful paraphilias.

By being over the age of 18 in my country..?

White people should not be making the assertion that all racism, no matter the target, looks the same. One should not assume that antiblackness manifests just the same as sinophobia (discrimination against Chinese people), and thus, that these specifications don't need to exist.

And while I'm using racism as an example (because I just saw an instance of this occurring), this applies to all discussions of oppression.

This post isn't to say, "don't form an opinion on oppression you're not affected by," by the way. Quite the opposite-- doing just that is very important.