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go to settings > dashboard > interface and turn on show timestamps. please. do this for me i'm begging

i'm so serious about this. without timestamps you don't know when a post was originally made. every day on this website i see people reblogging years-old articles, freaking out like something is recent news. i see people getting slammed for shit they long apologized for that's getting dragged out as if it just happened. old outdated science and history posts, recall warnings from five years ago, politics discussions that make no sense now.

this isn't just an issue with tumblr's settings, although the fact that timestamps are opt-in is fucking bonkers. people do not read dates on posts, on articles, on anything, and behave as if everything they see on the internet, now over 30 years old, is brand new and currently relevant. look at dates! remember that things from 2022 are not as relevant as they might appear to be! stop mindlessly repeating things you don't even pay enough attention to to know when they happened!

this is the only post of mine i've ever actually wanted to blow up please use your big beautiful brains to actually know when something happened

????????

the problem with autism is sometimes you want to do something (brave) but you need someone to gently walk you through each step so you know what will happen. and people don’t like doing that

i had to phone a taxi today, scary

every time i see this post i think of that person who posted on reddit that they wanted to go to subway for the first time but they were scared they would say the wrong thing so someone gave them step by step instructions for the entire process and what all the choices would be and when they would ask what question and i just think

someone will

someone out there will see you and say "yes. the world is scary. but let me hold your hand and show you how to do it anyways"

everyone needs that someone, and everyone can be that someone

The subreddit r/explainlikeimscared is a surprisingly good resource for this. People are always very kind and thorough from what I've seen, and I spend a decent amount of time there giving walkthroughs and answering questions when I know the process.

SHARING TO HELP SOMEONE ELSE OUT!

Returning color to my world

Thank god I have finally found a phrase for this phenomenon that's been on my mind for years now.

So I've thought about for a while now about how frilly and elaborate fashion vs. plain and practical fashion used to be more of a class marker than a gender marker.

At least up until the 18th century and at least in most of western society (but also in plenty of places outside of western society too) nobles of any gender wore bright beautiful colors, wore ribbons, wore floral prints and pastel, wore makeup, wore uncomfortable pointy heeled shoes.

Meanwhile working class people of any gender were generally prioritizing clothing they could easily do manual labor in without hurting themselves or without fashion getting in the way. No time for a frilly wig full of ribbons or pointed shoes hard to walk in when you had to milk the cows, shovel sheep poop, feed the hens, plow the field, and hand scrub all of your laundry.

But between now and the 18th century I always knew something had just changed because now you look at the most powerful men in the world, and what do you see? Plain, flat shoes in neutral colors. Plain trousers in neutral colors. Plain sweaters or suits in neutral colors.

And on the other hand you look at a working class woman barely scraping by, and she's wearing pointed heeled shoes even though she has to be standing on her feet at her service job all day, and she's wearing makeup even though in most cases the men of her same class standing aren't, and her clothes are elaborate the way an 18th century man's clothes are with frills and colors and patterns, but now only her clothes are and not the men of the same social standing.

It's always driven me a little crazy, when why and how did this happen? How and why was there such a big cultural shift that elaborate and colorful fashion went from a class marker to a gender marker?

So imagine how happy I am that I can finally put a word to it because I finally found the word for this phenomenon: the Great Male Renunciation. The wikipedia article only skims the surface, so I'm excited to read up on it more.

you're cute and it's tuesday

I'm cute and it's tuesday

i....found a rare shoegaze tape. legit. band does not exist online. tape is at least 20 years old. This is so Sam

rare tape.

ok ok....track for you from rare tape. ripped by me

I HAVE SOURCED MORE INFO!!!! from my friend who works at an nz audio archive and they HAVE THE TAPE THERE? COVER:

Final info ive put together after i have just looked over the insert notes (inside the other tape) sent to me by my friend:

This band had Steven Wells and Andrew Bain in it - they went on to be in a pretty popular NZ rock band called Fur Patrol from late 90s-2000s, so this is a precursor to that. in the notes they also thank Campbell Kneale, a prolific underground nz musician in bands like Birchville Cat Motel and Black Boned Angel. they also thank "Drinkwater".

alright everyone. after 33k+ notes on an obscure 90s indie song from Aotearoa i gotta admit many want to hear the rest, & as i cant think of a better format to supply this, here's the rest of the tape in this post. please let it stay here where it needs to be, don't spread it like its yours. its not mine either! i now present to you: Clayflower - Still (1993, Aotearoa, Cassette, Shoegaze/Indie Rock)

beautiful and cool obscure music like this is everywhere if you just wanna look for it even for a few minutes. dont let yourself think someone has to come along and show it to you <3

bro shut up i’m trying to recall the details of my prophetic dream

She makes me sick