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There are more switches out there. In fact, someone said that he thought most folks in
the community these days were some degree of switch. There was some debate over
this.
Some of it is cultural -- every major geographical area seems to have its own flavor
and code of BDSM.
When folks first become involved in this lifestyle, they tend to focus on the physical
aspects, then learn about and appreciate the mental aspects (there are exceptions, of
course). Since we have so many folks who are new to the scene, there's more
emphasis on the physical, which is mostly confined to the play areas, than the mental
control.
New folks don't have role models.
Doms are willing to lower their standards to get a date.
Doms are too accommodating and not strict enough.
Smart-assed masochists (SAMs) are enabled and encouraged, rather than taken in
hand.
Society in general is less formal now.
The online community has had a tremendous impact, for better or worse.
Prevalence of the belief that acting submissively is the same as submitting to
everyone in the room or that it means being a doormat.
Some misinterpretations of Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC) have gone to such an
.extreme that subs are essentially topping from the bottom