The 25 Most Helpful Things Ever Said About Love, Marriage, and Relationships
The 25 Most Helpful Things Ever Said About Love, Marriage, and Relationships
The 25 Most Helpful Things Ever Said About Love, Marriage, and Relationships
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As a psychotherapist I have been helping people find, keep, and develop healthy loving
relationships for more than 40 years now. Carlin and I have been married (third marriage
for each of us) for 30 years now. It hasn’t always been easy but it has always been
enlightening. I’d like to share some words of wisdom that have been helpful to us along
the way. Here are the 25 most helpful things that wise men and women have shared on
the subject of love, marriage, and relationship and how to have happy and long-lasting
ones.
25. Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for
breakfast. ~Marlene Dietrich
24. That quiet mutual gaze of a trusting husband and wife is like the first moment
of rest or refuge from a great weariness or a great danger. ~George Eliot (Mary
Ann Evans)
22. The way to hold a husband is to keep him a little jealous; the way to lose him
is to keep him a little more jealous. ~H.L. Mencken
21. The concept of two people living together for 25 years without a serious
dispute suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep. ~A.P. Herbert
20. Affairs are just as disillusioning as marriage, and much less restful. ~Mignon
McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
18. In the early years, you fight because you don't understand each other. In the
later years, you fight because you do. ~Joan Didion
17. Pity all newlyweds. She cooks something nice for him, and he brings her
flowers, and they kiss and think: How easy marriage is. ~Mignon McLaughlin,
The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960
16. Marriage is a lottery in which men stake their liberty and women their
happiness. ~Virginie des Rieux, Epigrams
13. Women hope men will change after marriage but they don't; men hope
women won't change but they do. ~Bettina Arndt, Private Lives, 1986
12. Being divorced is like being hit by a Mack truck. If you live through it, you
start looking very carefully to the right and to the left. ~Jean Kerr, Mary, Mary,
1960
11. In marriage there are no manners to keep up, and beneath the wildest
accusations no real criticism. Each is familiar with that ancient child in the other
who may erupt again.... We are not ridiculous to ourselves. We are ageless. That
is the luxury of the wedding ring. ~Enid Bagnold, Autobiography, 1969
10. The problem with marriage is that it ends every night after making love, and
it must be rebuilt every morning before breakfast. ~Gabriel García Márquez
9. I figure that the degree of difficulty in combining two lives ranks somewhere
between rerouting a hurricane and finding a parking place in downtown
Manhattan. ~Claire Cloninger, "When the Glass Slipper Doesn't Fit and the
Silver Spoon is in Someone Else's Mouth"
6. Getting divorced just because you don't love a man is almost as silly as getting
married just because you do. ~Zsa Zsa Gabor
2. When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane,
most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that
they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition
continuously until death do them part. ~G.B. Shaw, Getting Married, 1908
And the most helpful thing that has been said about the secret of a happy
marriage is…..