Emotion and Copin1
Emotion and Copin1
Emotion and Copin1
Specific emotions
1. Anxiety
Anxiety is the vague, unpleasant feeling that serves as an
emotional alarm signal, warning us of an impending threat
to danger. Anxiety may be evoked by natural disasters,
predators, or inter-clan hostilities; its arousing nature may
have been adaptive in that it helped human’s survive. Our
worries tend to be related less to survival and more too
everyday frustrations, bureaucracies, personal
achievements, and other non- life threatening issues.
When a threat is real and can be pinpointed, such as fear of
failing an examination, moderate levels of anxiety may
motivate us to take the necessary steps to avoid the gaffe.
People who ae prone to unusually high, chronic, free-
floating anxiety tend to overreact to stressful situations,
frequently making the situations worse. High levs of anxiety
can distort our perception and thinking so much that our
performance is impaired.
2. Anger
Anger- feelings of displeasure or resentment over
mistreatment. Psychologist have been investigating whether
holding anger in or venting anger out- catharsis- is the best
way to deal with this type of negative emotion. Holding
anger in, goes the popular notion, leads to all kinds of
problems- high blood pressure, increased risk of heart
attacks, depression and suicide.
Deciding whether venting anger is healthful or hurtful
actually depends on how you vent your anger. Venting anger
through actions or words results in more anger and
aggression. Venting anger through expressive writing can
actually help lower blood pressure. At times doing nothing
or displacing anger onto a more productive project may be
an effective way to manage ager.
Anger issues often develop during childhood. Certain child
rearing practices can go a long way toward preventing
inappropriate forms of anger expression. Developmentally
appropriate strategies for encouraging children to
responsibly handle their anger include modelling by parents
of appropriate anger management avoiding shaming a
child’s anger and increasing the child’s understanding of
anger as well as the sense of control over anger arousing
events. There is so much evidence that watching television
violence, playing violent video games, and the like, increases
aggressive feelings, aggressive thoughts and aggressive
behaviours and desensitizes us to its effects. From childhood
through adulthood, increasing social support and providing
opportunities to discuss negative emotions often improves
anger management. Training in social skills is another option.
Lessons in social skills can also help individuals find
alternative’s solutions to provocation. Therapy should
convey the sense that anger is destructive and that better
communication and problem solving skills and increased
empathy for the target to the anger all reduce anger.
3. Jealousy
Jealousy is a complex emotion that occurs when we fear
losing a close relationship with another person or have lost it
already. Jealousy is characterized by fear of loss, distrust,
anxiety, and anger. Jealousy is apt to occur in romantic and
sexual relationships so that it is popularly known as romantic
jealousy. Jealousy can be contrasted with envy, which is
distinguished by feelings of inferiority, longing, resentment
and disapproval. Some situations likely to trigger romantic
jealousy:
1. The person you like goes out with someone else.
2. Someone gets closer to a person whom you are attracted
to.
3. Your lover or spouse tells you how sexy a former
boyfriend/girlfriend was.
4. Your lover or spouse visits a person he or she used to go
out with.
5. You see that your partner is having an affair
6. You are the second spouse of your mat and he or she has
to support to the first spouse.
Jealousy in men and women is activated by different
types of situations. Men are more likely to get jealous
when their significant other is talking to potential suitor
that is physically imposing. Women tend to get jealousy
the most when their partners are interacting with
physically attractive and socially powerful rivals. Men are
concerned with sexual fidelity while women are upset
over emotional betrayals. Some people with low self-
esteem, high levels of anxiety , a negative view towards
the world, low levels of life satisfaction, little control over
their lives, low threshold of emotional arousal, and a
greater sensitivity to threatening stimuli in social
environment. Those with pathological jealousy possess
repeated and unfounded, suspicion of a partner’s fidelity.
These suspicions modify thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
4. Happiness
Happiness or as psychologists refer to it, subjective well-
being, includes a prepondence of positive thoughts and
feelings about one’s life. People high in SWB have a global
sense that work, marriage and other life domains are
satisfactory. They experience and report pleasant rather
than anxious, angry or depressive emotions. Happy people
are less self- focused, less hostile and less vulnerable to
disease. They are more loving, forgiving, trusting, energetic,
decisive, creative, helpful and sociable than unhappy people.
Happiness does not discriminate between genders; across
cultures, both men and women have equal opportunities to
find happiness. The sources of happiness for each gender
often differ, with men’s SWB being predicted by self-esteem,
and women’s happiness resulting from both self-esteem and
relationship harmony. Aging does ‘not involve a decline in
happiness either.
Expressing emotions
Emotions not only motivate us to do certain things and to
approach or avoid particular situations thy also suffer a
primary means of communicating with others. Sharing our
feelings is risky and makes us vulnerable to the judgements
of others. Some people are so afraid of their inner feelings
that they are unable to experience, much less express, their
deeper emotions disclose emotions, such as in times of great
joy or profound sorrow. They are more in touch of their
emotions disclose their feelings freely, whether the emotion
be anger or love.
Emotional balance is all the more difficult because of some
of the individual differences in emotional experiences.
Across a wide variety of cultures, men more frequently
report powerful emotions while women are more likely to
report powerless feelings. Scientists have yet to test out
whether such differences are learned or biological. Other
studies that culture can influence the expressions of emotion
known as cultural display rules.
Recognizing emotions
1. Self-recognition of emotion
Men are more so than women to ruminate about upsetting
events and report more inhibition of hostile feelings. Across
adulthood, whereas older person think more about
upsetting events than their younger counterparts, they
express emotions less frequently than younger individuals.
The elderly are still highly capable of experiencing
profoundly positive emotions.
3. Issues of diversity
In comparison to men, women decode emotions more
accurately. Everyone is a better decoder of emotions
expressed by members of their own culture, relative to
those displayed by people of a different one. Such
differences occur because same race faces and other race
faces activate different parts of the brains. Race appears to
influence emotion recognition in others.
4. Detecting deceit
Identifying deception in others is a difficult task with the
ability to accurately judge whether someone is lying
hovering around 50%. One helpful aid is micro-
expressions, or fleeting facial expressions that last only a
fraction of a second. Micro-expression may be
momentary but they are still detectable by the astute
observer. Many people try hard to control their outward
facial expressions because they believe we think the ace is
the primary clue to their secret deceivers may blink more
or smile more broadly in an effort to mislead and thus can
be exposed.
Some individuals are also good at monitoring and
controlling their faces that their true feelings are difficult
to detect. Watching for body leakage, where body
postures rather than the face leak the truth, can one just
as revealing of emotional deceit. While individuals are
concentrating on monitoring their words and their facial
expressions, they attend less to their bodies, which
consequently betray their true feelings.
Managing emotions
Emotional self-regulation refers to the process by which
one inhibits or moderates ones emotional responses in
order to remain engaged in thoughtful interaction. Areas
of emotional management needing improvement vary
somewhat from one person to another. Some people who
are very emotional and impulsive may blurt out their
feelings without much thought, they need to develop
better self-control. Those who keep their emotions under
tight control may need to loosen up to become more
aware of their feelings and more comfortable expressing
them appropriately to others.
Risks of dying
Health habits and lifestyles are especially important.
People who smoke a pack or more of cigarettes a
day can expect to die 6- 9 years sooner than those
who don’t smoke. Personality and stress
management are also important, as individuals who
are intense, hostile and easily angered tend to die
sooner than those who are relaxed and easy going.
Heredity also affects our life expectancy. It is well
known that people with long- lived parents and
grandparents tend to live longer than those close
relatives die young. If your relatives are not noted
for their longevity, you need not become fatalistic.
Awareness of death
National and international tragedies, accidents and
homicides, as well as the death of family members
and friends can increase our own mortality salience.
Being aware of our own mortality is one thing;
understanding what it means to be dead is quite
another.
Death anxiety
Simply thinking about death, at times people fear
death, a phenomenon called death anxiety.
Although death anxiety can occur at any age, people
in their 20s are typically the most fearful. This occurs
because young adults have their whole life ahead of
them and that the leading causes of death for this
age group- accidents, homicides, and suicide-
emphasize the cruel and tragic nature of death.
Similar to mortality salience, large scale disasters,
terrorist attacks and the deaths of those around us
can increase death anxiety for everyone. As
individuals reach late adulthood, they generally
think about death more often and talk about it
more.
The experience of dying
Death is a journey in life, and one that each person approached in
their own unique way. During the experience of dying- the physical
and psychological changes experienced by individuals nearing death-
nothing is set in stone. There are some common experiences shared
by many named coming to terms with mortality and the physical and
cognitive changes that occur at the very end of life.
Advanced directives
Advanced directives allow patients to communicate health care
preferences in advance in the event that they are no longer able to
make these decisions. The most comprehensive type of advanced
directive is the living will, which instructs doctors and the type of life
sustaining procedures that should be stopped or prevented in the
event of a terminal conditions. Living wills cover a wide range of
health care procedures, including those affecting brain, liver, kidney,
heart, and lung functioning, as well as the provision of food and
water. Another type of advance directive, but one that is far more
limited in scope, is a do not resuscitate order, which prohibits
doctors from using advanced cardiac life support and cardio
pulmonary resuscitation should the patient have a cardiac arrest or
stop breathing.
Hospice care
The term hospice refers to a place or method of taking care of those
approaching the end of their lives. Hospice is a system of a care that
integrates a physical facility for the terminally ill with the patient’s
family and home to enable the patient to die with dignity. Much of
the suffering of the terminally ill consists of the treatments, the
impersonal atmosphere and the sense of isolation experienced in
hospitals. The hospice is a community that helps people to live, not
merely exist, while they are dying. The aim throughout is to provide
a humane and supportive community in which the patient may die
with dignity.
Although beneficial for both patients and their families, hospice stays
are often too short. The recommended amount of time necessary to
provide adequate physical and psychological support in 3 months on
reason is that exact time of death is never clearly predictable in
terminal illness. Physicians may be reluctant to make early referrals
to hospice because the patient and their family have not fully
accepted that the illness is terminal.
Caregiving in numbers
Caregivers are frequently family members- typically women or grown
daughters. Caregivers might also be neighbours, friends, or other
members of the community. There are more unpaid caregivers than
paid or professional caregivers.in addition to providing 20 hours of
care per week around 60% of caregivers are also employed. Paying
jobs do not provide enough income to cover the financial expense of
caring for a loved one. Nearly 47% of caregivers use up all or most of
their lifesavings ending to a family member. Because the financial,
emotional and psychological stress of long term caregivers can be
enormous, individuals who have been caregivers for extended
periods of time report high levels of stress, depression, poor eating
habits, and hostility.
Grief work
Grief work consists of the healthy process of working through the
emotions associated with the loss, freeing ourselves emotionally
from the deceased, readjusting to life without that person, resuming
ordinary activities, and forming new relationships. The grief process
can parallel the experience of dying and involves many of the same
stages.
People may react to a person’s death with a sense of shock and
disbelief especially when death occurs unexpectantly. When death
has been anticipated, as is the case of terminal illness, the initial
response may be subdued and accompanied by a sense of relief,
which may then turn to guilt as a result of feeling relieved at the
loved ones passing. People undergo survivor guilt defined as feeling
guilty because on is still alive while others are not.
The emotional intensity of grief in the early stages often appears in
the disguise of physical symptoms such as crying, depressed feelings,
lack of appetite, and difficulty concentrating at work or at home.
Another common symptom of grief is lack of interaction with others.
In order to avoid the negative emotions and physical symptoms
associated with grief, some people rely on sleeping pills, tranquiller
and alcohol during their bereavement, also of which can pose health
risks of relied on too much or too often.
In the final stage of grief, we usually come to terms with our loss and
resume our everyday activities. This task may occur anytime from a
few months to a year or more after the initial loss, depending on
how close we were t the person and the circumstances surrounding
their death. About 1 year is the normal length of time required or
grief work, with the most intense and negative emotions peaking by
6 months. For many normal grief can be present for an extended
period of time intensifying on important dates, such as birthdays,
weddings and the death date of the loved one. Depression and other
emotional reactions generally to decline over the 1st year.
Unresolved grief
Unresolved grief is a psychological state in which a person’s
emotional reaction to loss remains repressed, often being
manifested in unexplained physical or psychological symptoms. It is
also called as complicated grief, this prolonged and impairing type of
grief may assume a variety of forms, from unexpected physical
complaints to psychological symptoms suh as anxiety and
depression. The psychological reactions are related to loss.
Some individuals do just the opposite. Instead of thinking to little
about their loved one or their death, they think too much about their
grief and the loss they have experienced. Rumination or
preoccupation with the death of a loved person can be detrimental
to well- being, though suh cases rarely occur, individuals who
ruminate or constantly rehash details of the death experience ore
depression and pessimism than those who don’t ruminate.
Bereavement experts suggest that this type of prolonged or complex
grieving is problematic for well- being and thus requires special
attention.
Good grief
Grief and personal growth
There are some positive aspects of grief. Grief can increase our
appreciation of loved ones and friends more fully, despite their
shortcomings. Grief also helps us value our relationships with hose
still living. Good grief means that we have learned and grown in our
bereavement. Bereavement, has the potential to contribute to
personal growth. Know that personal oriented theories of
bereavement contend that grief represents only a part of the self,
the emotional self. Grief doesn’t just involve mourning; it also
concludes reflecting on the person who died as well as the
anticipated changes for the bereaved. In this model this survivor
assimilates the reality that the deceased is gone, expresses the
emotional pain of the loss, cultivates new strategies for coping in a
world without the loved one, and develops new beliefs and attitudes
about life, death, love and compassion.