PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

1. Relationship is a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional

connection)
2. Personal relationships are relationships between people, especially those between friends,
lovers and family members
3. Love is a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities
 maternal love for a child
4. Commitment is the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of
action and a message that makes a pledge
5. Attraction is the act, power, or property of attracting
 Attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement
 A person or thing that draws, attracts, allures, or entices
6. Responsibility is the social force that binds you to the courses of action demanded by
that force
 A form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or
being responsible for one’s conduct

WHAT DO WE MEAN BY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS?

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model, personal
relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and
interactions. These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and
benefit from them, we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support. In
our model, there are three kinds of personal relationships:

Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of relationships,
but this varies greatly from person to person.
The Bureau of the Census defines family as "two or more persons who are related by
birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household." But many people
have family they don't live with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles of
family vary across cultures as well as throughout your own lifetime. Some typical
characteristics of a family are support, mutual trust, regular interactions, shared beliefs
and values, security, and a sense of community.
Although the concept of "family" is one of the oldest in human nature, its definition
has evolved considerably in the past three decades. Non-traditional family structures and
roles can provide as much comfort and support as traditional forms.

Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built
upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding. Friends are
able to turn to each other in times of need. Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler, social-
network researchers and authors of the book Connected, find that the average person has
about six close ties—though some have more, and many have only one or none. Note that
online friends don’t count toward close ties research indicates that a large online network
isn’t nearly as powerful as having a few close, real-life friends.

Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between
two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We usually
experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time.
ACCEPTABLE and UNACCEPTABLE expression of attractions.

ACCEPTABLE WAYS TO EXPRESS UNACCEPTABLE WAYS

YOUR ATTRACTION TO EXPRESS YOUR ATTRACTION

 Offer the gift of listening.  Acting that you own him/her

 Say please and thank you.  Acting weird when you are with
 Tell your loved ones how much you him/her
love and appreciate them.  Stalk him/her on social media.
 Offer to help someone need.  Obsession
 Write a letter or send a card to
someone you love and mail it.
 Write your loved ones a poem of
gratitude.
 Practice the art of forgiveness.

Social Relationships in Middle and Late Adolescence

The relationships adolescents have with their peers, family, and members of their
social sphere play a vital role in their development. Adolescence is a crucial period in
social development, as adolescents can be easily swayed by their close relationships.
There are four main types of relationships that influence an adolescent: parents,
peers, community, and society.

Thus, as they growing up they become more involved in community activities

that test their leadership capabilities and also if they truly adhere following the laws.

Parental Relationships

When children go through puberty, there is often a significant increase in parent-

child conflict and a decrease in cohesive familial bonding. Arguments often concern new
issues of control, such as curfew, acceptable clothing, and the right to privacy. Parent-
adolescent disagreement also increases as friends demonstrate a greater impact on the
child; this is especially true when parents do not approve of new friends' values or behavior.

While adolescents strive for freedom, the unknowns can be frightening for
parents. Although conflicts between children and parents increase during
adolescence, they are often related to relatively minor issues; regarding more
important life issues, many adolescents will still share the same attitudes and
values as their parents. Adolescents who have a good relationship with their parents
are less likely to engage in various risky behaviors, such as smoking, drinking,
fighting, and/or unprotected sex.

Peer Relationships

As adolescents work to form their identities, they pull away from their
parents, and the peer group becomes very important. The level of influence that
peers can have over an adolescent makes these relationships particularly important
in personal development. As children begin to create bonds with various people, they start
to form friendships; high quality friendships may enhance your development regardless of
the particular characteristics of those friends.
 Peer groups offer members of the group the opportunity to develop social skills
such as empathy, sharing, and leadership. Peer groups can have positive influences
on an individual, such as academic motivation and performance; however, they can
also have negative influences, such as peer pressure to engage in drug use, drinking,
vandalism, stealing, or other risky behavior. Susceptibility to peer pressure increases
during early adolescence, and while peers may facilitate positive social development for
one another, they may also hinder it.

Community, Society, and Culture

There are certain characteristics of adolescent development that are more

rooted in culture than in human biology or cognitive structures. Culture is learned and
socially shared, and it affects all aspects of an individual's life. Social
responsibilities, sexual expression, and belief-system development, for instance, are
all likely to vary based on culture. Furthermore, many distinguishing characteristics
of an individual (such as dress, employment, recreation, and language) are all
products of culture.
The lifestyle of an adolescent in a given culture is also profoundly shaped by the roles
and responsibilities he or she is expected to assume. Adolescents begin to develop unique
belief systems through their interaction with social, familial, and cultural
environments. These belief systems encompass everything from religion and
spirituality to gender, sexuality, work ethics, and politics. Community activities and civic
responsibility Community activity is part of ‘civic responsibility’. It’s about doing things in
our community because we want to give back to our communities, or help others, rather
than because we have to by law.

Community activities and civic responsibility

Community activity is part of ‘civic responsibility’. It’s about doing things in our
community because we want to give back to our communities, or help others, rather than
because we have to by law.
a) Role models
By getting involved with community activities, you can come into contact
with like-minded peers and positive adult role models other than their
parents. Interacting and cooperating with other enable you to see the world in
different ways.
b) Identity and connection
Young people are busy working out who they are and where they fit in the
world. Being involved in community activities can give you a positive way of
understanding who you are. As a result, you might come to see yourself as
helpful, generous, political or just a ‘good’ person in general.
c) Skills
Community activities give you the chance to apply the skills you already
have. Volunteer work and community activities are also great
opportunities to show initiative and develop skills to get a job.
d) Self-confidence, mental health and wellbeing
Community activities can boost your self-confidence and self-esteem. You can
learn to deal with challenges, communicate with different people and
build up her life skills in a supportive environment.
Personal Leadership and applying it in your social relationship with others

While the idea of servant leadership goes back at least two thousand years, the
modern servant leadership movement was launched by Robert K. Greenleaf in 1970 with
the publication of his classic essay, The Servant as Leader. It was in that essay
that he coined the words "servant-leader" and "servant leadership." Greenleaf defined
the servant-leader as follows:

"The servant-leader is servant first... It begins with the natural feeling that one
wants to serve, to serve first. Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead.
That person is sharply different from one who is leader first, perhaps because of the need
to assuage an unusual power drive or to acquire material possessions...The leader-
first and the servant-first are two extreme types. Between them there are shadings and
blends that are part of the infinite variety of human nature."
"The difference manifests itself in the care taken by the servant-first to make sure
that other people's highest priority needs are being served. The best test, and difficult to
administer, is: Do those served grow as persons? Do they, while being served, become
healthier, wiser, freer, more autonomous, more likely themselves to become servants?
And, what is the effect on the least privileged in society? Will they benefit or at least
not be further deprived?"
Robert Greenleaf described a philosophy, not a theory. However, based on the
views of a number of scholars, the elements that are most unique to servant
leadership compared with other theories are:
(1) the moral component, not only in terms of the personal morality and
integrity of the servant-leader, but also in terms of the way in which a servant-
leader encourages enhanced moral reasoning among his or her followers, who can therefore
test the moral basis of the servant-leader's visions and organizational goals;
(2) the focus on serving followers for their own good, not just the good of the
organization, and forming long-term relationships with followers, encouraging their growth
and development so that over time they may reach their fullest potential;
(3) concern with the success of all stakeholders, broadly defined—
employees, customers, business partners, communities, and society as a whole—including
those who are the least privileged; and,
(4) self-reflection, as a counter to the leader's hubris.

RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES IN A RELATIONSHIP

For the relationship to last and become beneficial is it important that responsibilities had to
be well-performed and basic rights had to be respected and protected.

Responsibilities in a Relationship Basic Rights in a Relationship

1. Be responsible for what you think and 1. The right to emotional support
say to the other person. 2. The right to be heard by other and to
2. Be responsible for what you promise to respond
do or not do. 3. The right to have your own point of view,
3. Ensure the relationship is mutually even if this differs from your partner’s
beneficial. 4. The right to have your feelings and
4. Respect the other party or parties experiences acknowledged as real
involved. 5. The right to live free from accusation and
5. 5. Be ready to provide support when blame
needed. 6. The right to live free from criticism and
judgment
7. The right to live free from emotional and
physical threat
8. The right to live free from angry
outbursts and rage
9. The right to be respect.