A Message Exclusively To The Muslim Woman Sh. Jamal Al Harithi
A Message Exclusively To The Muslim Woman Sh. Jamal Al Harithi
A Message Exclusively To The Muslim Woman Sh. Jamal Al Harithi
MUSLIM
WOMAN
BY SHAYKH JAMAL AL-HARITHI
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T h ir d A d v ic e : Seek K n o w ledge........................................................................... 1 7
I made this into concise points and sections. And the best speech
is the speech of Allah and the best guidance is the guidance of
M uham m ad Ife. As for the references from me— I shall suffice in
some places by listing some verses that clarify the intent. I purpose
fully used easy phrases and straightforward words in m y advice while
avoiding complex language (as much as possible) so that m y advice
can touch the hearts. And perhaps Allah w ill benefit the w riter and all
1 T ranslator’s N ote: This book was ori gi nal l y placed on the i nternet.
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: Translator’s Note: Shaykh Fawzan (m ay Allah preserve him ) said, “The S alaf explained
the m eaning o f 'taqw a o f Allah’ as: A com prehensive phrase that means to obey Allah
seeking His reward and avoid disobeying Allah fearing His punishm ent. Taqwa is a com
prehensive phrase that comprises good actions, including statem ents, actions, beliefs, and
intentions. Thus, it contains all good actions o f the slave, apparent and hidden." (Taken
from the sermon “The M eaning o f Taqwa o f Allah and Its Fruits.”)
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First Advice: Lower Your Gaze
The woman should not speak w ith a soft voice in front o f non-related
men, whether she is speaking to them directly, such as buying and
selling in the marketplace, or she is speaking to her husband’s broth
ers or one o f his relatives or one o f her m arriageable relatives. This
practice has become com monplace in some societies. And this applies
even if she is speaking to men from behind a barrier, on the phone,
through Paltalk, or through Messenger. And this applies even if she is
speaking w ith students o f knowledge, shuyukh, or scholars. Allah the
Exalted said:
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O wives o f the Prophet! You are not like any other
women. I f you have taqwa (of Allah), then be not soft
in speech, for fear that he in whose heart is a disease
should be moved w ith desire, but speak in an honor
able manner.
[Surah al-A hzab 33:32]
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— SECOND A D VICE —
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Second A dvice: A dorn the Proper A ttire
It is upon every M uslim wom an who really loves Allah and His
Messenger— not those who m erely claim such— to adhere to the
legislated hijab. This includes covering her face and wearing loose-fit
ting, long garments that are not tight, short, or see-through. This is
the proper attire if she wants to leave the home to take care o f her
needs. Allah the Exalted said:
‘Um ar 0 . said, “If the woman has a need, she is not prevented from
leaving the home in her tattered garm ent or in the tattered garm ent
o f her slave girl, clandestinely such that no one recognizes her, until
she returns to her home.”4
All of this— i.e., staying in the home and adhering to proper hijab —
results from the fruits o f legislative knowledge extracted from the
Book and the Sunnah. Allah the Exalted said:
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And know, O M uslim wom an, the greatest obligation upon you
to know and study is the oneness o f Allah the Exalted and direct
ing all aspects of worship to H im alone. You must also study that
which opposes it, which is polytheism and innovation. This is so your
worship will be accepted, and [this way] the M uslim woman will
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Second A dvice: Adorn the Proper A ttire
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— T H IR D A D V I C E —
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She should begin with the foundational matters by learning taw hid
and its opposite, which is shirk, and that which nullifies Islam. Next,
she should learn the affairs connected to establishing her prayer, and
likewise the matters particular to the women regarding purification.
It is obligatory upon her to learn when it is obligatory for her to pray
and when it is obligatory for her not to pray. Likewise, she must learn
when it is obligatory for her to fast and when she is not allowed to
fast. In addition to this, she should study that which w ill grant her
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I advise the M uslim women to leave off argum entation in the religion
and refutations, which has busied some of the women who claim to
be students of knowledge. They compete with the students of knowl
edge and the scholars in the affair of refuting those in opposition.
This woman writes against this one and that woman writes against
that one. Thus, they have busied themselves [away] from their obliga
tions which they w ill be questioned about.
Wahb bin M unabbih 'J.®- said, “Leave off debating and argum en
tation concerning your affair, for surely you w ill not defeat one of
two men: A man who is more knowledgeable than you, how w ill you
debate and dispute someone more knowledgeable than you? And a
man who is less knowledgeable than you; how w ill you debate and
dispute someone who is less knowledgeable than you who w ill not
listen to you? Thus, desist from that.”
O M uslim women, leave off “he said, she said” amongst each other
Third A dvice: Seek Know ledge
and do not judge each other with deviance until it has been affirmed
and you have asked one of the scholars, shuyukh, or some o f the
students o f knowledge known to be upright upon the m ethodol
ogy of the Salaf—those students who are known for deliberateness
and prudence, not those who are hasty and deluded, even if they are
Salafi. These steps must be taken concerning the one you believe has
deviated so that the unity is not split and the hearts are not divided.
The one am ong you who has placed herself as a caller must fear
Allah the Exalted concerning her d a ’w ah and adorn herself with the
manners o f the one who calls to Allah. She must have patience with
those who oppose her, and likewise with the ignorant. And before
that, she must arm herself with the weapon o f knowledge concern
ing the matters she wishes to call to. Her d a ’wah must be upon the
methodology o f the pious predecessors; thus, she must not invent her
own methods which she views to be correct and more appropriate
for her time w hile knowing that it contradicts the path of the pious
predecessors. From his deep knowledge and sound understanding of
the Book and the Sunnah, Imam al-Bukhari placed a chapter in his
collection of authentic ahadith entitled “Knowledge Before Statem ent
and Action.” Allah the Exalted said:
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— FOURTH A D V I C E —
The fitn a h comes from being amazed by the voice, flowery speech, or
soft mannerisms. This woman or young lady is in her twenties and
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Fourth A dvice: The D anger o f Private Classes Between Men <& Women
this shaykh is in his thirties or forties!! So who is the one who feels
that he is safe from fitnahV.
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— FIFTH A D V I C E —
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Fifth A dvice: Know the Rights o f Your Husband
Therefore, O M uslim wom an, if you know and are certain of the
rights your husband has over you, then seek to please him with various
means. If you have exhausted one way, em ploy another creative way
to make him happy. This will reflect back to you if he feels ease in
his home after the weariness he experiences outside the home. Be a
righteous woman who pampers her husband and brings ease to the
difficulties he finds in life, a woman who looks at what makes him
happy and implements it w hile easing the hardships according to her
ability.
(' Collected by Ahmad and others w ith sim ilar wording, and authenticated by al-Albani
(1203).
Collected by Ahmad (12153); Sahih a l-Jd m i’7725.
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home on the day revelation was revealed to him with the words of
Allah the Exalted:
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Then the Messenger of Allah % went back with his heart beating
wildly, until he came to Khadljah and said, “Cover me! Cover m e!”
She covered him till his fear went away. Then he said to Khadljah,
“O Khadljah, I fear for myself,” and he told her w hat had happened.
Khadljah said, “No, be o f good cheer, for by Allah, Allah w ill never
disgrace you. You uphold the ties of kinship, speak truthfully, help
the poor and destitute, serve your guests generously, and assist those
who are stricken by calam ity.”8
Look at these beautiful words from this pure, pious wom an; they
had a major effect in calm ing the fear from the heart of the best of
m ankind iig. Therefore, let Khadljah, the M other of the Believers, be
an example for you.
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The Story o f
Zayna6 (Bint Jarir
Be, O female slave of Allah, like this wom an: Zaynab bint Jarir, a
woman from Bani Hanzalah of Bani Tamim. Ash-Sha’bi said,'1
“Shurayh said to me, ‘O Sha’bi, I advise you to m arry the women
of Bani Tam im, for surely I have found them to be intelligent.”’
Ash-Sha’bi said, “And what is it about their intelligence?”
Shurayh said:
11 Collected in the book 7h e H istory o f D amascus by Ibn Asakir, narrated from al-H aytham
bin Adi.
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free or occupied (i.e., single or m arried)?’ The old woman said, ‘No,
she is free.’ I said, ‘1 would like to m arry her.’ She said, ‘If you are
com patible.’
“So I went home to take a nap, but I was not able to sleep. After I
prayed Zuhr prayer, I took the hand o f some o f m y brothers from
the noble reciters— ‘A lqam ah, al-Aswad, al-M usayyib, and M usa
bin ‘Urfutah— intending to meet her uncle. W hen I met her uncle,
he said, ‘O Abu Um ayyah, what is your need?’ I said, ‘Zaynab, the
daughter of your brother.’ So he married me to her.
“O Sha’bi, if you could have seen the women leading her to my house
until she entered upon me! I said to her, ‘It is from the Sunnah when
a woman enters upon her husband that he should pray two rakaat
and ask Allah for the good of her and seek refuge from the evil in
her.’ Thus, I prayed, and when I completed m y prayer, I noticed her
praying behind me. Then her slave girls brought m y garments for me
to wear, and they had dyed them with saffron. W hen the slave girls
left the home, I sat next to her and extended m y hand in her direc
tion.
“She said to me, ‘W ait a moment, Abu Um ayyah. All praises belong
to Allah, I praise Him and seek His help, m ay peace and salutations
be upon M uham m ad and his family. Surely, I am a woman who is
unknown to you and I do not know your etiquette, so clarify to me
what you like so I can do it for you, and tell me what you hate so
I can stay away from it. There are women from your people whom
you can m arry and likewise men from m y people whom I can marry,
but Allah has decreed for us to marry. Thus, do what Allah has
commanded you— keep the woman in kindness or let her go with
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The Story o f Zaynab Bint Jarir
“She said, ‘Tell me about the in-laws, do you like for them to visit
you?’ I said, ‘I don’t like to bore m y in-law s.’
“She said, ‘W hich of your neighbors do you like to enter your home,
then I will perm it them, and who are those you dislike?’ I said, ‘The
people of so-and-so are righteous people w hile the people o f so-and-so
are evil.’
“O Sha’bi, I had the most blessed night. And she remained with me
for a year, and I only saw from her that which I love. W hen the next
year came, I arrived from m y duties as a judge and found an old
woman in the home giving orders. I said, ‘W ho is this?’ She (his wife)
said, ‘This is your m other-in-law.’ Thus, m y worries left me.
“She said, ‘How do you like your wife?’ I said, ‘She is the best w ife.’
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Allah, a man does not possess anything in his home more evil than a
pampered wom an.’
“I said, ‘By Allah, she has the best manners, and I am tremendously
pleased.’
“She said, ‘Do you like for your in-laws to visit?’ I said, ‘Visit
whenever you please.’
“Thus, she would visit at the beginning of each year and give her
daughter advice. I remained with m y wife for 20 years and I did not
criticize her for anything except for one time, and I was in the wrong.
“The m u'adhdhin (caller to prayer) made the call for the establish
ment of the prayer after I had prayed the two raka'dt before Fajr,
and I was the imam of the village masjid. All of a sudden, a scorpion
appeared crawling on the floor. I grabbed a container and trapped
the scorpion, and I said, ‘O Zaynab, don’t move until 1 get back.’
W hen I returned, the scorpion had escaped and stung Zaynab. So
I began sucking the poison out of her finger and reciting upon her
Surah al-Fatihah, Surah al-Falaq, and Surah an-Nas.”
Take the example from this lesson of this righteous woman and her
mother.
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A M other’s Advice to Her
(Daughter (Before Marriage
Take this advice, O M uslim wom an, from the story of a mother as
she gives advice to her daughter. This advice is for every intelligent
daughter and every married woman. The Arabs made a proverb based
on this story:
10 Translator’s Note: Ihere are various accounts o f this story; the version m entioned in
this book is the one chosen by the author.
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Thus, she (‘Isam) entered upon her and saw a young lady like she had
never seen before. W hen she left her, she said, “Deception is removed
by uncovering.” She left and went back to al-H arith. W hen he saw
her coming, he said, “W hat information do you have, O ‘Isam?”
She said, “That which is churned becomes clear from the butter.” And
she described the girl in detail to the king. After hearing this, the king
sent a proposal to her father to m arry his daughter, along with her
dowry. After the marriage was agreed upon and she prepared to go to
her husband, her mother gave her some words of advice.
She said:
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A Mother's Advice to Her Daughter Before M arriage
to a den you do not know and a companion you are not fam iliar
with. By marriage, he has become a watcher and master over you, so
be a servant to him and he w ill be a servant to you.
• One: Accompany him with contentm ent and live with him in
a good manner.
• Three and four: Take care of his eyes and take care of his nose,
so do not let him see anything ugly from you and only let him smell
pleasant smells from you. Kohl is the best beautification while water
is the sweetest of the rare perfumes.
• Five and six: Pay attention to his meal times and be quiet
during his sleep times, because the heat of hunger is like a burning
flame and disturbing his sleep w ill anger him.
• Seven and ei ght: Take care of his home and his wealth and
look over him , his servants, and his children. Protecting his wealth
shows good judgm ent, w hile w atching over his servants and children
shows good management.
• Nine and ten: Do not expose his secrets and do not disobey
his command. If you expose his secrets, he w ill never feel safe with
you, and if you disobey his com mand, his heart w ill boil with anger
towards you.
“Show him the utmost respect and the utmost honor, and agree with
him as much as possible; this w ill increase your companionship. And
know— you w ill not attain what you love until you prefer his happi
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ness over your happiness and his desires over your desires concerning
what you like and dislike. M ay Allah grant you what is best.”
So she went to her husband and she had a tremendous position with
him. She gave birth to seven kings who ruled Yemen after him.
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— SIXTH A D V I C E —
It is upon the M uslim woman who desires what is with Allah to guard
her tongue from backbiting, tale carrying, “he said, she said,” asking
too m any questions, and ingratitude. Most of the gatherings of the
women are spent engaging in these matters. It is like salt on food—
the gathering is not sweet w ithout it.
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“Verily, some o f you women w ill enter Paradise.” And he joined his
fingers. “And some o f you women w ill be firewood in the Hellfire.”
And he separated his fingers. A woman named al-M aridiyyah said,
“W h y is that, O Messenger o f Allah?” He responded, “Because they
are ungratefid, curse a lot, and procrastinate doing good.”"
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— SEVENTH A D V I C E —
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There are two types o f the people o f the Hellfire that I have not seen
yet: men with whips like the tails o f cattle, with which they strike the
people, and women who are clothed yet naked, inclining (towards
evil) and inclining others, w ith something on their heads that looks
like the humps o f camels, leaning to one side. They w ill not enter
Paradise or even smell its fragrance, even though its fragrance can be
detected from such-and-such a distance.13
This hadith is from the miracles of prophecy, as this has occurred just
as the Prophet 0 said it would.
“Inclining and inclining others”: It has been said that this means
deviating away from the obedience o f Allah the Exalted and not
being diligent in guarding their chastity.
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As for “their heads that look like the humps of camels,” this means
they gather the hair with head covers in such a manner that there
is more hair on one side than on the other, such that it resembles a
cam el’s hump.
It can also mean they look at men and do not lower their gaze or lower
their heads. Ibn al-‘A rabi said, “They have only been called ‘clothed’
because they are wearing garments, and they have been described as
‘naked’ because the clothes are thin and thus show their bodies, and
this is not permissible.”
Al-Q urtubi said, “One m eaning is that they are clothed with garments
but naked and void of the garm ent o f piety which Allah mentioned
in His statement:
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When the person does not wear the ga rm en t o f piety, he becom es naked
even i f he is w earing clothes.
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— THE FINAL A D V I C E —
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The Final A dvice: Seek Know ledge Inside the Home
I say— and with Allah is all success: In all the ahadith in which the
Messenger of Allah % encouraged seeking knowledge— and in some
cases commanded with seeking knowledge— the address was directed
towards the men, w hile there is no doubt that the female student of
knowledge will likewise receive this reward. But the com mand was
addressed towards the men because they are the inheritors o f the
prophets mentioned in the narration:
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There is no doubt that he did not intend the women by his state
ment “the scholars,” and whoever tries to argue this is ignorant of
this matter. And give attention to the gesture in this hadith. Safwan
bin A.ssal said to the Prophet sfe, “I came to seek knowledge.” The
Prophet Ife responded:
Everyone among you should use water (mixed w ith the leaves of)
the lote tree and cleanse herself well, and then pour water on her
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head and rub it vigorously till it reaches the roots o f the hair. Then
she should pour water on it. Afterwards, she should take a piece o f
cotton smeared with musk and cleanse herself with it.20
So he gave her the ruling w ithout welcom ing her for seeking knowl
edge, even though the m atter she asked about was a women’s issue
that perhaps m any o f them fell into. Sim ilar to this is the hadith of
Asma bint 'Umays. Jabir bin 'Abdillah said:
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The Messenger o f Allah stayed for nine years during which he did not
perform Hajj. Then it was announced among the people that he was
going for Hajj. No one who was able to come riding or on foot stayed
behind, and the people rushed to go out with him until he came to
Dhul-Hulayfah. Asma' bint ‘Umays gave birth to Muhammad bin
Abl Bakr and she sent word to the Messenger o f Allah (asking what
she should do). He said, “Perform ghusl and wrap a cloth around
your private parts, then begin the talbiyah .”21
Ponder how she did not go to him herself to seek knowledge, and he
did not hold a lesson of sitting for the women. Someone m ay say:
W hat do you say about the hadith o f Sa'Td al-Khudri? He said:
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The Final A dvice: Seek Know ledge Inside the Home
Some women said to the Prophet •§?, “The men are taking all your
time away from us. So make a day fo r us.” On that, he promised them
one day for religious lessons and commandments. Once, during such
a lesson, the Prophet said, “A woman whose three children die will
be shielded by them from the Hellfire.” On that, a woman asked, “If
only two die?” He replied, “Even tw o.”22
Isn’t this specifying a tim e for the wom en to come and seek knowl
edge? We say: Yes and no. Yes, he specified a day for them to come
after they asked him , but there are some points concerning this
hadith :
1) It is not affirmed that the Prophet ife held this gathering for
them again, except when he gave them a specific advice during Eid.
And whoever claims that he did this continuously, let them affirm
this.
2) He did not enter them into the affairs o f praise and criticism ,
science of hadith, knowledge o f inheritance, the detailed matters of
jurisprudence, abrogating verses and abrogated verses, or even the
details of tafiir. He did not adhere to a specific issue and continue
teaching it like an ongoing class, not even w ith the matters concern
ing the women. This is because the Prophet % taught the men, and
they would dissem inate the knowledge that was obligatory for the
women to know, from inside their homes.
Today— and to Allah belongs the praise and the favor— the paths
to study and removing ignorance are numerous. There are tapes and
books, small and large, radio broadcasts, television, and websites
on the internet, and the well-known trusted scholars have websites.
Tikewise, there is Paltalk, with the condition that you enter it only
to [learn from] the known scholars. Therefore, if there are num er
ous paths to attain knowledge, then w hy leave the home or open
the phone to take lessons? If you desire the Face of Allah and the
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Sin is what causes discomfort in the soul, and it is what you would
hate for the people to see you doing.
4) Leaving the home during those days was safe from fitnah, in
contrast to this present era. And no one can argue with me concern
ing this inshdAllah. There is a well-known principle that states,
“Preventing an evil takes precedence over bringing about good.”
As for our statement that he did not specify tim e for them to seek
knowledge, then we intend that he did not initiate this; rather, it was
only after they requested it. Furthermore, he did not continue upon
this. And whoever says that he did, then the burden of proof is upon
them.
Perhaps someone w ill say, “The women used to go to the m asjid and
attend the two Eid prayers. And the narrations concerning this are
well-known and authentic.”
Do not prevent the female servants o f Allah from going to the masajid
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The unmarried young virgins, the mature girl who stays often
screened, the young unmarried virgins who often stay screened, and
the menstruating women should come out and participate in the
good deeds as well as the religious gathering o f the faithful believ
ers, hut the menstruating women should keep away from the prayer
area. 24
But we say that leaving the home has conditions and guidelines, such
as not displaying their beauty, not wearing perfume, not speaking
in a soft voice, not stom ping the feet, not wearing clothes that w ill
draw the attention of men and stir their desires, and not wearing high
heels.
If these conditions are missing, then the premise is that the woman
should remain in the home. Allah the Exalted said:
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W hen ‘A ’ishah ^ saw the change in the women during her tim e, she
said:
If the Messenger o f Allah % had lived to see from the women what
we have seen, he would have prevented them from the masajid as the
women o f the Children o f Israel were prevented.25
Therefore, if the affair changed during the tim e o f A ’ishah such that
it caused her to make this statement, then how about a tim e when
corruption is widespread and sins m ajor and m inor have erupted?
The women during the tim e of A 'ishah started wearing decorated
garments and jewelry, so ‘Um ar OHa prevented them from going to
the masjid, and he was not blamed for altering the ruling due to the
changing times.
Before closing, I have one clear question for some of the women.
W hen the woman— whether m arried, single, divorced, or virgin—
attends lessons by w ay o f phone or Paltalk night and day, is her
guardian— her father, brother, or husband— aware o f this? If the
answer is yes, her guardian is aware that she speaks with this shaykh —
whether young or old— with long discussions, then is her guardian
pleased with this?
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The Final A dvice: Seek K now ledge Inside the Home
W hat’s the difference between the wom an who speaks freely w ith a
shaykh, student o f knowledge, or a da'i (caller) like he is from her
unm arriageable kin and the wom an who speaks with the vendor in
the marketplace? O r are we free from the fitn a h that the Prophet
warned against in his statement:
I have not left behind me any trial more difficult upon the men than
the women.26
This does not mean that the Prophet % was accusing his Com panions
of evil; thus, no scholar or da'i should think we are accusing them of
evil, nor are we accusing the wom en o f evil. But the phone conversa
tion, Paltalk, and Messenger are forms o f seclusion. And the Prophet
% said:
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There is no man who is secluded w ith a woman except that the third
party is the Shaytan.28
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I ask Allah the Exalted, the A ll-M ighty, to make m y actions righteous
and sincerely for His Face and for none other than H im . I ask H im to
accept me among the righteous and to bring about benefit from what
I have written. Amin.
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The Final A dvice: Seek Know ledge Inside the Home
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— A P P E N D IX —
1 Translator’s Note: This appendix was taken from the website o f Shavkh Jam al al-H arithi.
: Taken from the book F ood f o r th e H eart in Treating the B eloved by Shaykh M uham m ad
'All bin 'Arivyah (386 AH).
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A ppendix: Do Not M arry Six Types o f W omen
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— A P P E N D IX —
(Protecting t
• W hile they were praying and not able to see or look at her.
1 Translator’s Note: This appendix was taken front the website o f Shaykh Jantal al-H arithi.
J Snhih al-B ukhari 1626
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A ppendix: Protecting the Women
• It was the tim e for Fajr prayer, and most o f the tim e the
Prophet -Ute would pray Fajr prayer w hile it was still dark, as it has
been reported in authentic narrations.
• Ponder the fact that his wife was not a young wom an She
was born around 17 years before the Messenger became a prophet
% . She m arried the Prophet % during the month of Shawwal four
years after the m igration, after observing the m ourning period o f her
husband, Abu Salam ah. And the final pilgrim age took place during
the tenth year after m igration.
All o f this was to protect the wom an, and safeguard her from crowd
ing with men. W hat would the Prophet % say if he saw our women
today? Not just inside the m asjid but in other places as well, they are
a tem ptation for the men, especially the young men.
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“I know that you love to pray with me, but praying in your house is
better for you than praying in your courtyard, and praying in your
courtyard is better for you than praying in the masjid o f your people,
and praying in the masjid o f your people is better for you than
praying in my m a s j i d So she ordered that a prayer place be built
for her in the furthest and darkest part o f her house, and she always
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prayed there until she met Allah (i.e., until she died).3
Look and ponder how the Prophet %, directed her to the darkest place
in the house to pray in. And ponder how quickly she responded and
obeyed, in obedience to Allah and His Messenger. She did not delay
or search for an excuse as some o f the wom en do today. M any of
them say, “Praying in the m asjid gives me determ ination and vigor.”
Ponder how the Prophet made this better for the wom an. Prayer
in her home was better than praying in his m asjid w ith the Prophet
it!
O M uslim wom an, picture the crowding and m ixing along with the
arrows of the Shaytan, which is the [men] looking as the women
enter and exit the m asjid!
’ C ollected by Ahmad (26550); classed as sahih by Ibn Khuzaymah (3/95), Ibn H ibban
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(5/595), and by al-Albani in Sahih at-T arghib w at-T arhib (1/135).
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