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uk Sex Menu Template

A sex menu is a way to express your wants and desires in an objective way, disco
About
what makes you tick, and improves communication and consent with partners.

1. Select a rating (column C) for each activity listed

2. Make notes when required
Instructions
3. Have your partner complete their own copy
4. Have an open and honest discussion about similarities and differences
Hard limit

Soft limit

Indifferent
Rating system
Try it

Yes please

Need it

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Activity Rating

AFFECTION
Aftercare Yes please
Bath time Yes please
Bed sharing Yes please
Cuddles Need it
Public Displays of Affection Indifferent
ANAL PLAY
Anal dildos
Anal fingering
Anal fisting
Anal hooks
Anal plug tails
Anal plugs
Anal plugs - public under clothes
Anal sex
Anal spreader
Anal torture
Anal vibrators
Enemas - for cleansing
Enemas - retention/training
Rimming (oral/anal play)
APPEARANCE/CLOTHING
Collars
Corsets
Cross dressing
Dressing up to please Dom
Fur (fake)
Fur (real)
Hairy genitals
Latex
Leather
Lingerie
Provocative clothing
PVC
Rubber
Shaved genitals
Spandex
Suits
Uniforms
BLINDFOLDS/GAGS/BREATH PLAY
Bagging
Ball gag
Blindfolds
Bondage for prolonged periods of time
Bondage/sensory deprivation
Breath play
Chains
Chastity device/belts
Choking
Cloth gag
Drowning play
Hand/Ankle cuffs
Harnesses
Hog ties
Hoods
Inflatable
Leather Gag
Leather restraints
Masks
Mental bondage
Metal gag
Metal restraints
Mouth Bit
Mouth hook
Nose hook
Open Mouth gag
Phallic gag
PVC Gag
Rope Gag
Rope restrains
Rubber gag
Smothering
Spreader Bars
Straight jackets
Suspension
Tape gag
Using hands as a gag
Vaginal hook
BREASTS
Breast binding
Breast caning
Breast press
Breast scratching
Breast spanking
Breast torture
Breast whipping
Breast/nipple biting
Breast/nipple kissing
Breast/nipple licking
Nipple clamps
Nipple Piercing
Nipple Play - Pulls, Tugs, Twists
Nipple torture
Nipple weights
COMMANDS - Domination/submission
Aggressive dominance
Assignments
Bathroom control
Begging
Behaviour control and Modification
Blackmail
Brattish behaviour
Chastity
Contract slave
Corner time/naughty step
Crawling
Degradation
Diet plan
Emotional masochism
Emotional sadism
Enforced Bedtime
Eye contact restrictions
Fear
Financial submission
Following orders
Funishment
Honorifics (Sir, Master)
Humiliation in private
Humiliation in public
Hypnosis
Ignoring/being ignored
Kneeling
Lead/leash
Lecturing for misbehaviour
Mentoring
Obedience training
Pet/diminutive Names
Power exchange
Punishment
Resistance play
Rewards
Rough play
Serving other Doms (supervised only)
Slave positions
Sleeping on the Floor
Speech Restrictions, what and when..
Submitting to a submissive
Threats
DISTANCE
Cybersex
Email sex
Phone sex
Text sex
Web cam/Skype sex
ELECTRICITY
Electricity - TENS unit
Internal electrical play
Violet wand
FLUIDS
Blood letting
Blood play
Chamber-pot use
Coming in partner
Coming on partner
Cum on face
Cutting
Drinking semen
Female ejaculation
Lactation
Play during menstruation
Spitting
Sucking licking sperm from a partners orifice
Sweat
FURNITURE
A-Frame
Bondage chair
Box stocks
Cages/Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Coffin
Flogging horse
Grope box
Latex vacuum bed
Queening stool
Saint Andrews Cross
Sex stool
Spanking bench
Stocks
Vacuum bed
Whipping post
GENERAL
Angry sex
Breast fucking
Clitoris stimulation with hand/finger
Cunnilingus (oral on female genitalia)
Deepthroating
Double penetration
Face fucking
Face sitting
Fellatio (oral on male genitalia)
Fingering - vaginal
Fisting - vaginal
Hand jobs
Kissing
Masturbation
Mental orgasm
Mutual masturbation
Neck kissing/biting
Neck kissing/biting
Scissoring
Sex
Sex while asleep
Tantric sex
Tea bagging
Triple penetration
Urethral play
GENITAL TORTURE
Ball busting
Ball stretching
Ball weights
Clit spanking
Clit torture
Clit weights
Cock and ball torture
Genital clamps
Genital whipping
Labia stretching
Labia weights
MARKS
Branding
Bruising
Burns
Flesh hook
Piercings (permanent)
Piercings (temporary)
Scarification (cutting,making scars)
Tattoos
MEDICAL
Douche
Examination gloves
Injections
Speculums
Urethral play
ORGASM
Delay methods (creams etc)
Multiple Orgasms
Orgasm control
Orgasm denial
Orgasm on command
OTHER
Abusive language
Condoms
Crying
Dirty talk
Dirty talk (involving extreme taboos e.g. being fucked by a dog)
Edge play (risk taking)
Feather play
Food play ('Splosh play')
Initiation rites
Knife play (no blood)
Outdoors Sex
Sleep deprivation
Tickling
Wet and Messy
Wrestling
PAIN
Abrasion (scraping, sanding)
Biting (being bitten)
Caning
Clothespins/pegs
Evil stick
Face slapping
Fire play
Flogger
Hair pulling
Hot wax - dripping on body/genitals
Ice cubes
Needle (sewing) play
Paddles
Punching
Riding crops
Scratching
Spanking
Trampling
Wartenburg Pinwheel
Whips
PORNOGRAPHY
Being filmed during sex acts
Being photographed naked/erotic by someone else
Erotic self photography (sending pictures)
Looking at pornographic images
Looking at pornographic films
Reading pornography
ROLEPLAY
Age Play (not pedophilia)
Boss/secretary
Consensual non-consent/rape
Eating from the hand
Impregnation fantasy
Incest (roleplay)
Interrogations
Kidnapping
Livestock market and auctions
Maid
Medical
Pet beds
Pet bowls
Pet lead
Pet litter tray
Pet play
Prison scene
Prostitution
Religious Scenes
Schoolgirl play
Taking on the role of an animal
Teacher/pupil
SERVICES
Chauffeuring (driving)
Chores (domestic service/housework)
Erotic dance
Grooming
Manicures
Massage
Objectification (Serving as art)
Objectification (Serving as furniture)
Pedicures & Foot massages
INVOLVING THIRD-PARTIES
Cuckold
Dogging
Encounters with strangers
Exclusivity
Exhibitionism (before friends)
Exhibitionism (before strangers)
Fetish clubs
Fetish parties (non-play, being served)
Friends with benefits
Given away (to another Dom)
Glory hole
Group play - gang bang (multiple men)
Group play - multiple women
Group play - Orgy
Harem
Humiliation in public
Including others (in a scene)
Monogamy
Multiple play partners/lovers
Munches
Pansexual
Play parties
Polyamary
Public exposure/flashing
Public play
Shared (given to another temporarily)
Slave market and auctions
Swapping (with one other couple)
Swinging (multiple couples)
Triple penetration
Watching sexual acts
TOYS
Ben Wa balls
Cock ring
Dildos
Double-ended dildos
Fleshlight
Fucking machine
Hitachi Magic Wand
Inflatable toys
Love doll
Penis pump
Plugs
Remote-controlled toys
Strap-on-dildo
Suction Cups
Suction toys
Vibrator
ADDITIONAL NOTES
List any allergies (e.g. Latex, food, scents, oils, lotions, wool,
feathers, etc)
Any medical problems/issues? (if yes, give details:)

Do you have any known sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)?

When were you last tested?

Do you practice safe sex?

Any specific subject not described in this list that you wish to
note?

Any thing else you'd like to share:

Events.co.uk Sex Menu Template

menu is a way to express your wants and desires in an objective way, discover more about
makes you tick, and improves communication and consent with partners.

ect a rating (column C) for each activity listed

ke notes when required
e your partner complete their own copy
e an open and honest discussion about similarities and differences
Under no circumstances do you want this

Not ruled out completely, but would probably only do it if your partner really wanted it

You don’t have any objections to it, but can’t say it turns you on
Your interested in doing this (and may have in the past already)

You really enjoy this and want to do lots of it

You can't go without this. You NEED it as part of your sex life

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Soft limit
Indifferent
Try it
Yes please
Need it
Under no circumstances do you want this
Not ruled out completely, but would probably only do it if your partner really wanted it
You don’t have any objections to it, but can’t say it turns you on
Your interested in doing this (and may have in the past already)
You really enjoy this and want to do lots of it
You can't go without this. You NEED it as part of your sex life