How To Please A Woman 101

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Jul 9, 2016 · 9 min read

The female anatomy is such a beautiful thing and it is a shame that most men don’t
know anything about it. I read an article related to this topic and the writer’s boyfriend
said something funny. He got into a rant on how some men are horrible at sex and how
they feel women are being needy when they want to cuddle right after sex.

She’s not needy, you idiot, she’s horny! Because you

did nothing for her. You did absolutely nothing.
Her p*ssy is on fire. ’Cause it’s gone unf *cked
completely!

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The first rule would be to ask questions in a genteel and refined way. Do you like this? Do
you like that? You should ask what pleases her when you touch a certain area. It is all
about looking for feedback. To please a woman, you need time and effort. Women aren’t
like men. We don’t get turned on like men do. These days, we have men use the “every
man for himself” rule in the bedroom. The “as long as I get off, I’m good.” Uh, no! False...
Enough is enough. You have got to please a woman as she pleases you. It is a rule. I
promise I’m not just making this up. Don’t be that lazy predictable man in the bedroom.
You need to take time out to tease, please and eventually satisfy all her needs or she is
going to be as dry as the sahara desert. When it comes to pleasing a woman, you need to
pay full attention to her body language. That is your cue. Don’t act like a sex maniac
trying to get it over with in five minutes. Could you guys also please stop watching porn
to please women? Porn is a fake representation of sex, it is unrealistic.

Take her by surprise. Push her against the wall and whisper dirty things in her ears and
nibble on them gently. Lift her up and take her to wherever you want to please her. It
could be the bedroom, floor, couch, kitchen counter top or stairs because you want to
have a quickie. If you are in the bedroom, you can set the mood right. Dim the light if she
wants you to and you could also play your amazing sex playlist. Only if you have one.
Anyway, go back to kissing her..lightly massage her ass with your hands or run your
fingers all over her body. Explore her body, it is your playground. The kiss has to feel
passionate, so try to kiss her slowly. The kissing stage is always rushed. It is an important
step that cannot be skipped or rushed. Plant gentle kisses on her lips, along her neck and
collar bone. Grab her hair gently as you put your mouth on her ear. Breathe over her ears
and lick outside her ear lobe and bite gently. Whisper nasty things into her ears and
switch it up quickly. Grab her by her neck and make out with her passionately. Pay
attention to how she kisses you back. Put a bit of your tongue in her mouth and out
quickly. Bite her lower lip gently and continue kissing her. Put your tongue in her mouth
again. She will notice this and try to mimic you. Enjoy the tongue action and take your
time.

Tip: Not every woman is comfortable with a tongue down their throat. So pay attention to
how she reacted when you first put your tongue in her mouth. This is will determine if there
will be a second time
Lightly run your fingers across her back. Go over all her curves. If she has a shirt or a bra,
take them off but leave her panties on. Let the beauty free. For every clothing you take
off her, pause and take it all in; savour the moment. Appreciate and compliment her.
Run your fingers around them and use your thumb to lightly caress her nipples. Breathe
warm air over her nipple and massage them gently. When you play with a woman’s
breasts, her brain releases oxytocin — also known as the love hormone. It is a chemical
hormone that is associated with happy feelings that make women feel good. Suck on her
left breasts and use your hands to gently massage the right. Don’t forget to alternate.

Don’t give your attention to one breast and neglect the other.

You can get creative. You can play around with some whipped cream, nutella, honey or
peanut butter. Put them on her breasts and lick them off. You may also play around with
ice but some women might not be comfortable with the sensation. Nipple arousal is very
important to get her to climax. It is weird because people often forget the breasts. They
still exist and want to be touched. Gently bite one nipple as you twiddle the other. Take
your time.

Fingering, not poking or stabbing

First of all, never touch a woman’s vagina with long finger nails. Long finger nails are
sharp and the vagina is really soft and sensitive. If not groomed properly, long nails tend
to carry germs and that is something a woman doesn’t want in her personal space called
vagina. So trim and clean your nails before you proceed. Women are different. What
pleases one woman isn’t necessarily going to work on the next one. Remember she is still
wearing her panties because you haven’t taken them off yet? Well there is a reason.
Lightly rub your fingers in a circular motion on her clitoris and outer lips through her
panties. Use your fingers to tap on her clit gently. You can increase your tempo but
please keep a steady rhythm. Ask her what feels good for her. Slide her panties to the
side and rub on her clit gently. Insert middle finger and massage the entrance of her
vagina.

Note: If your middle finger is dry, you can either lick it or rub her wetness all over it. Never
put dry finger in a woman.

You can either finger her with her panties still on or you could take it off. Fingering
shouldn’t be rough, take it slowly with a little pressure and steady rhythm. When it
comes to fingering, you need two friends. You need your “index” and “middle” finger.
Start by gently rubbing her clitoris with your two friends. It is very sensitive remember?
Rub it gently in a circular motion. While rubbing, don’t forget to continue kissing her. Do
this for about three to four minutes. Insert your middle finger (about 3 centimeters in).
Gently massage your finger around her walls so the juices can come out which would
allow fingering her easier. Do this for five minutes till you think she is wet enough for
the other action to take place. There are two ways to know when she wants you to finger
her. She is either going to beg you to put your finger in or her wetness will tell. Her
wetness will be your lubrication. As soon as she is wet enough, slide your middle finger
in her towards her belly button and keep thrusting in and out of her.

P.s if she isn’t wet enough, don’t go in

While this is happening, you can either kiss her, suck on her nipples, talk dirty to her or
make intense eye contact. You can also alternate and stare at her vagina and pay
attention to how your fingers are thrusting in and out of her. Don’t continuously poke
the vagina hoping she will climax. She won’t.

News flash: Her g-spot is not outside her vagina, it’s inside.

It is shocking how many men don’t know this.

Women can’t reach orgasm without certain areas being stimulated and the best way to
stimulate these areas are with your fingers. Fingers hit senstive areas that dildos and
penises can’t. Finger with your middle finger in a “come hither” motion till you find an
area that feels different. That is the G-spot. The G-spot is located about one to two inches
inside and at the front wall of vagina. It feels puffier and more ridge. As soon as you find
the g-spot, insert the index finger in and experiment with tempo and pressure. Hitting
the g-spot continuously brings intense pleasure and can bring a woman to climax. Ask
her how she feels because you can’t just finesse your way and assume she likes it.
Communication is key. Take out your fingers and make her lick her juices off them.. That
is if she is comfortable with it.

Note: You can bring toys into this.

Eat your girl

“My dick will make up for not going down on you.”

See, I hate to break it to you but your penis isn’t going to make up for not eating your
girl. It really can’t because nothing compares to it. Sadly if you don’t eat your girl,
someone else will. You have got to eat your girl like she is a dessert. One that you have
been craving the entire day. The smell of her hair, her soft smooth skin, curves, taste of
her mouth and her perfect ass. Start by kissing her inner thighs, her abdomen then back
to her thighs. Literally anywhere that isn’t her clitoris. Plant soft kisses on her vagina lips
and go back to kissing her thighs. This builds up excitement in her and anticipation for
what’s to come . She will beg you to take her. Do not listen to her. You have all the time
in the world, make her wait. Grab her boobs at the same time. Do this for about for
about four to five minutes. then use your mouth to nuzzle gently on her clitoris and your
tongue to lick upwards slowly. This should be done with a good amount of pressure. To
eat your girl right, it needs to feel like you are making out but instead of her lips, you are
making out with her other lips. Use your tongue to tease the entrance of her vagina. Your
tongue isn’t a mini penis so please don’t treat it like one. You have got to use your tongue
like you are licking clean the most tasty plate ever.

Women love to be teased. This is where it gets interesting. Don’t be afraid to use your
fingers. She is going to be dripping wet by now so easing your fingers into her won’t be a
problem. While eating her, insert your index finger and for a fuller effect, you can insert
your middle as well. You always have to keep your antennae tuned in, so that you can
pick up on the most subtle signals. A little shiver here, a little quiver there could lead you
to the promise land.

Be more vocal. The moaning, heaving breathing, groaning.. Let it all out. It is extremely
sexy because she feels more confident and this always works in your favour because she
would want to please you even more. You can’t be quiet.

Note: Not every woman likes aggressiveness in bed.

Please don’t expect to learn all of this in one night. Pleasure for both partners comes
with time, plus practice makes perfect. Getting to know each other is probably the best
aphrodisiac because as you get to know the person, you can take advantage of the fact
that you are actually having sex with the persons brain and not their genitalia. Your
brain plays the most important role when it comes to having amazing intimacy. Your
brain and your genitalia work together. The greater the emotional connection, the
greater the pleasure. Don’t skip these steps, they should be done accordingly.. Pleasing a
woman and getting her to climax is the most selfless thing you can do. Try getting her to
orgasm before you do because we all know, when a man reaches orgasm, it is a wrap.

Disclaimer — This article is subjective and open to interpretation. Feel free to tweak it to
your own satisfaction.

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