Are You Feeling Suicidal?
Are You Feeling Suicidal?
Are You Feeling Suicidal?
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more pain than you can cope with right now. But with time and support, you can overcome
your problems and the pain and suicidal feelings will pass.
Some of the finest, most admired, needed, and talented people have been where you are
now. Many of us have thought about taking our own lives when we’ve felt overwhelmed by
depression and devoid of all hope. But the pain of depression can be treated and hope can
be renewed.
No matter what your situation, there are people who need you, places where you can make
a difference, and experiences that can remind you that life is worth living. It takes real
courage to face death and step back from the brink. You can use that courage to face life, to
learn coping skills for overcoming depression, and for finding the strength to keep going.
Remember:
1. Your emotions are not fixed—they are constantly changing. How you feel today may
not be the same as how you felt yesterday or how you’ll feel tomorrow or next week.
2. Your absence would create grief and anguish in the lives of friends and loved ones.
3. There are many things you can still accomplish in your life.
4. There are sights, sounds, and experiences in life that have the ability to delight and lift
you—and that you would miss.
5. Your ability to experience pleasurable emotions is equal to your ability to experience
distressing emotions.
If you are unable to think of solutions other than suicide, it is not that other solutions don’t
exist, but rather that you are currently unable to see them. The intense emotional pain that
you’re experiencing right now can distort your thinking so it becomes harder to see possible
solutions to problems—or to connect with those who can offer support.
Therapists, counselors, friends, or loved ones can help you to see solutions that otherwise
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may not be apparent to you. Please give them a chance to help.
Although it might seem as if your pain and unhappiness will never end, it is important to
realize that crises are usually temporary. Solutions are often found, feelings change,
unexpected positive events occur. Remember: suicide is a permanent solution to a
temporary problem. Give yourself the time necessary for things to change and the pain to
subside.
Mental health conditions such as depression, schizophrenia, and bipolar disorder are all
treatable with changes in lifestyle, therapy, and medication. Most people who seek help can
improve their situation and recover.
Even if you have received treatment for a disorder before, or if you’ve already made
attempts to solve your problems, know that it’s often necessary to try different approaches
before finding the right solution or combination of solutions. When medication is prescribed,
for example, finding the right dosage often requires an ongoing process of adjustment.
Don’t give up before you’ve found the solution that works for you. Virtually all problems can
be treated or resolved.
Even though you’re in a lot of pain right now, give yourself some distance between thoughts
and action. Make a promise to yourself: “I will wait 24 hours and won’t do anything drastic
during that time.” Or, wait a week.
Thoughts and actions are two different things—your suicidal thoughts do not have to
become a reality. There is no deadline, no one’s pushing you to act on these thoughts
immediately. Wait. Wait and put some distance between your suicidal thoughts and suicidal
action.
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Step #2: Avoid drugs and alcohol
Suicidal thoughts can become even stronger if you have taken drugs or alcohol. It is
important to not use nonprescription drugs or alcohol when you feel hopeless or are
thinking about suicide.
Remove things you could use to hurt yourself, such as pills, knives, razors, or firearms. If
you are unable to do so, go to a place where you can feel safe. If you are thinking of taking
an overdose, give your medicines to someone who can return them to you one day at a time
as you need them.
Many of us have found that the first step to coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings is to
share them with someone we trust. It may be a family member, friend, therapist, member of
the clergy, teacher, family doctor, coach, or an experienced counselor at the end of a
helpline.
Find someone you trust and let them know how bad things are. Don’t let fear, shame, or
embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. And if the first person you reach out to
doesn’t seem to understand, try someone else. Just talking about how you got to this point in
your life can release a lot of the pressure that’s building up and help you find a way to cope.
Even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now manage to survive these feelings. Take
hope in this. There is a very good chance that you are going to live through these feelings,
no matter how much self-loathing, hopelessness, or isolation you are currently experiencing.
Just give yourself the time needed and don’t try to go it alone.
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“snap out of it.” Find someone who will simply listen and be there for you.
It doesn’t matter who it is, as long as it’s someone you trust and who is likely to listen with
compassion and acceptance.
Even when you’ve decided who you can trust to talk to, admitting your suicidal thoughts to
another person can be difficult.
Tell the person exactly what you are telling yourself. If you have a suicide plan, explain
it to them.
Phrases such as, ‘I can’t take it anymore’ or ‘I’m done’ are vague and do not illustrate
how serious things really are. Tell the person you trust that you are thinking about
suicide.
If it is too difficult for you to talk about, try writing it down and handing a note to the
person you trust. Or send them an email or text and sit with them while they read it.
If the first person you reached out to doesn’t seem to understand, tell someone else or call a
suicide crisis helpline. Don’t let a bad experience stop you from finding someone who can
help.
In the U.S. – Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or
IMAlive at 1-800-784-2433.
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How to cope with suicidal thoughts
Remember that while it may seem as if these suicidal thoughts and feelings will never end,
this is never a permanent condition. You WILL feel better again. In the meantime, there
are some ways to help cope with your suicidal thoughts and feelings.
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Recovering from suicidal thoughts
Even if your suicidal thoughts and feelings have subsided, get help for yourself.
Experiencing that sort of emotional pain is itself a traumatizing experience. Finding a
support group or therapist can be very helpful in decreasing the chances that you will feel
suicidal again in the future.
You can get help and referrals from your doctor or from the crisis lines listed below.
5 steps to recovery
The Trevor Project offers suicide prevention services for LGBTQ youth at 1-866-488-7386.
SAMHSA’s National Helpline offers referrals for substance abuse and mental health
treatment at 1-800-662-4357.
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Suicide crisis lines worldwide:
Authors: Jaelline Jaffe, Ph.D., Lawrence Robinson, and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D.
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If you are thinking about suicide, read this first – Tips for getting you through when you’re
feeling suicidal. (Metanoia.org)
About Suicide – Information for those considering suicide or have attempted suicide in the
past. (NHS)
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Coping with Suicidal Thoughts (PDF) – How to understand your suicidal feelings and how to
develop a safety plan. (Consortium for Organizational Mental Health)
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