Exceptional Talent
By Frans Corten
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Gifted adults and other birds of a rare feather often have difficulty finding their way in life and work. Despite their talents, they get into conflicts with management, feel misunderstood or are unable to discover what it is they really want.
Frans Corten coaches gifted people and other exceptional talents in their careers. He
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Exceptional Talent - Frans Corten
introduction
BY COLLEAGUE WILLEM KUIPERS
Career coach and counsellor, Ximension
Frans is a cherished colleague of mine, with a distinct style and a profound involvement with the subject matter of this book. With his sharp observation skills and caring nature, he writes about all that he has seen, discovered, learned and applied in his practice and his life during the last twenty years.
He embodies the title of his book: an exceptional talent, a guide, gifted, an inventor and a bird of a rare feather. He knows what he’s talking about but does not instruct his readers as to what they should or should not do. They would be too autonomous to accept such directives. He does, however, offer good arguments and a manual with which you acknowledge yourself and take yourself seriously. And to help you put into practice whatever intrigues and inspires you. The stories of five special ‘birds’ tie in perfectly with the previous chapters.
For me, Frans is the biologist and collector who for years has allowed himself to be amazed by all he came across, beautiful or ugly. Sometimes determinedly searching for something specific, at other times only concerned with peace and space, but always with respect for the environment in which he found himself. Always fully aware that however much you might encourage growth and blossoming, everything will grow and blossom at its own speed. This book, his proverbial vasculum, offers a rich and heterogeneous collection of herbs and invites you to use them as you see fit.
You might start with a selection and come back later for more. You might read it from cover to cover immediately: the choice is yours.
One of his exceptional talents is the ability to make a passing remark that immediately makes visible those implicit convictions of his audience. He enjoys the commotion that follows, all the while simultaneously creating room for awareness and personal growth. In light of this, I recommend you find out for yourself whether you feel that what is in this book is true for you, or why it intrigues you. You, Frans and the book are completely and emphatically worth that.
by mentor rinke visser
Founder of the Instituut voor Biografiek and pioneer in the field of biographics.
This preface is an impression of my reading experience and an expression of my respect for the author, through the many treasured contacts we have been privileged to have, friendly and professional. A guide is someone who knows the paths and the potholes, the panoramas and the unfathomable pits. Frans Corten is one such guide: he is an experience expert, partly due to his own path in life, and partly due to the many conversations he has had with his peers.
Being gifted, just as being individual, is in itself not a problem, as this book shows. It can become problematic due to the context in which you have to find your raison d’etre. This book is a biographical guide for the gifted and those who have discovered the bird of a rare feather in themselves. Gifted people may be surprised to learn that they need not feel alone in finding it difficult ‘being special’. And the book calls on all those who think they are average to realise that the average person does not exist.
Your life is unique, and therefore by definition lonely. Experiencing that loneliness can be just as important as feeling commonality and connectedness. I must confess that I was immediately moved by the attention paid to the Bird of a Rare Feather in this book. What a find, and what a beautiful introduction to a completely different category of potential readers: all those who feel that they have to walk alone!
The awareness of being alone, of uniqueness, can make people impotent, helpless and even desperate. In my forty years as a pedagogue and biographics consultant, conversation partner for students and professors, I have been able to determine that these ‘Alone ones’ label themselves in a thousand terms, as Birds of a Rare Feather. They had forgotten they could fly. All I had to do was point to their wings. For these people too, Frans wrote this wonderful book, even if that was initially unintentional. Alone. After all, aren’t we all alone? All on our way, and Frans offers us a handy guide for the journey, and a hand on our shoulders.
To summarise, I would like to describe the tone of the book as: ‘Gifted person, I have recognised you, in you I see myself; I have an invitation for you but I will dictate nothing.’ This empathic-critical attitude is the pinnacle of balancing on the cutting edge: simultaneously creating closeness and distance.
You are regarded as being privileged but you see yourself as needing help. You search for yourself and find the other person. Living with paradoxes: the path of the gifted and other birds of a rare feather.
The author put his heart and soul into this book: I wish for him and his readers that they may feel that heart beating.
1 why this guide?
I have been coaching gifted people and other exceptional talents in their careers for twenty years now. In retrospect, it turns out I am one of the pioneers in that field: I was one of the first to focus explicitly on adults.
I have written this guide to help exceptional talents find their way in their lives and work. The insights are based on the experiences of clients and professional peers, and on the contents of a couple of hundred biographies of exceptional talents: in the form of both books and articles in newspapers and journals. The many conversations conducted in my broad networks of friends, acquaintances, colleagues and former colleagues also served as the basis for this book.
Is this book meant for you? Certainly if you know, or suspect, that you are highly intelligent or gifted. And also if you have noticed that you are often too quick with your ideas and inventions or too far ahead of others. Or if you know that you are talented but have not yet succeeded in capitalising on that talent, because you don’t fit well in existing structures. This book is meant for all clever, versatile and sensitive people who would like to get more out of their lives and work. Those who sometimes get horribly bored, or who waste a lot of energy adapting to the demands of society.
Exceptional talents often suffer from alienating feelings. My clients describe it as follows:
•I don’t understand much about social processes: why do people interact the way they do?
•Things that are preached often don’t happen in practice. Am I the only one who has a problem with that?
•I often miss the clue of an explanation or work method because I believe it could be done much more quickly.
•Why am I often the first to notice dangerous situations, smell toxic substances, to be susceptible to noise nuisance or clothing that irritates the skin?
•I understand complex matters, but I sometimes need help understanding seemingly simple things.
The realisation that you may be gifted, or exceptionally talented, offers new prospects. It shines a more inspiring and hopeful light on your life, because this realisation enables you to better distinguish between what is and is not good for you, and to position yourself better in your career and in your life. This book helps you to make choices which are right for you.
The illustrations in this book are also exceptional talents. They are constructed from forgotten or lost objects which in their original form had little or no appeal or significance. They were brought to life and animated by artists Marije van der Sande and Gérard Schiphorst of TAMTAM Objektentheater. They developed the birds of a rare feather into true personalities.
I hope that many exceptional talents will benefit from this book. I also hope that this book will contribute to a more positive social climate for exceptional talents. In word and deed. Not because they are such special or eminent people, or because we should respect or admire them more than others. No, just because we as a society could benefit greatly from them, and because it’s a shame not to use talent. It’s simply a waste if the least use is made of the most exceptional talents. All of society will benefit if we learn to interact better with exceptional talents.
my own story
I skipped two years of primary school. First year, because I had already taught myself to read, count and write in block letters at kindergarten. The somewhat serious teacher, Miss Heetwinkel, dealt with that very well. She reminded me a little of my grandmother. I skipped the sixth year because I had completed all my ‘tasks’ at the Jena Plan School and had already spent a couple of months helping the first-year pupils with their word puzzles.
Although I felt that there was some talk about my performance, I personally found the subject less than interesting. I didn’t see any merit whatsoever in being good at learning if learning was so easy. I still don’t see any merit in being highly intelligent. It’s what you do with that intelligence that counts.
Being gifted was a kind of norm in our family and was never talked about. But I personally found things like respect and a friendly atmosphere more important. I paid little attention to high intelligence. At secondary school, I became very good at estimating exactly how to get a passing grade with a minimum of effort. Here too, I had the feeling that there was sometimes talk about my intelligence. I didn’t like that.
During my biology study, I occasionally impressed with a worthy performance or sharp observation, but there didn’t seem to be any continuity in it. I could do lots of things, but who was interested in that? Subsequently, my career seemed to be a succession of coincidences. One thing led to another. I did gradually manage to attract a few interesting assignments and resolve problems for the organisations for which I worked (three years for a green contractor and ten years for an innovative environment agency, in positions such as head of personnel and organisation). The vague terms ‘multidisciplinary’ and ‘generalist’ suited me well.
In response to a mini advert in the weekly Intermediair journal, I applied to take the Mensa IQ test in 1994 ¹. I was somewhat surprised to find I’d passed,
and I became a member. I didn’t think of myself as being particularly smart, since I knew a number of people who were clearly smarter. But apparently, my level of intelligence fell within the category of highly gifted. I wasn’t really impressed with it all, so I cancelled my membership. I rejoined in 2001,