The Art Of Loving Quotes

“The faculty to think objectively is reason; the emotional attitude behind reason is that of humility. To be objective, to use one's reason, is possible only if one has achieved an attitude of humility, if one has emerged from the dreams of omniscience and omnipotence which one has as a child. Love, being dependent on the relative absence of narcissism, requires the developement of humility, objectivity and reason.

I must try to see the difference between my picture of a person and his behavior, as it is narcissistically distorted, and the person's reality as it exists regardless of my interests, needs and fears.”
― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

“In spite of the deep-seated craving for love, almost everything else is considered to be more important than love: success, prestige, money, power-almost all our energy is used for the learning of how to achieve these aims, and almost none to learn the art of loving.
Could it be that only those things are considered worthy of being learned with which one can earn money or prestige, and that love, which "only" profits the soul, but is profitless in the modern sense, is a luxury we have no right to spend energy on?”
― Erich Fromm

“Also in contemporary Western society the union with the group is the prevalent way of overcoming separateness. It is a union which the individual self disappears to a large extent, and where the aim is to belong to the heard. If I am like everybody else, if I have no feeling or thoughts which make me different, if I conform in custom, dress, ideas, to the pattern of the group, I am saved: saved from the frightening experience of aloneness.”
― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving

“When times are tough we need to look deep down and remember who we are. We need to remember what matters most. It doesn’t matter what’s happening in the world, or how far away we are or feel, or even what we disagree upon — because what matters most doesn’t change. What matters most is our hearts and our higher purposes. Our kindness, our service to others, our family, and how we each use our precious time. Really, this is all just another way to say that what matters most — is love.”
― Drue Grit

“Life should be a daring, loving, laughing adventure — or it is nothing at all. If you don’t start choosing, life and circumstance will choose for you. You can change or stay the same. You can grow or never leave the nest. All of life becomes about our choices. We choose our people, we choose our ways, we choose our thoughts, and we choose how we seize or surrender our days. Every day, every moment, and every thought is about choice. So everyday you must make your choices. Life isn’t ever really about what happens to us, but how we respond to life.

My way of life is simple; I want to be the most loving, inspiring, and true man I can be. Everyday, I want to be the man that I truly am. But I am consciously and constantly working on that and my choices. So, instead of choosing fear, I am choosing courage. Instead of choosing pain, I am choosing compassion. Instead of choosing hurt, I am choosing kindness. I choose to forgive more, to laugh more, and to listen more. Even cry more. Because I have learned that the truest act of living is no different from the act of loving — it’s all about what you give, not what you think you’ll receive. And what you should give to your life and love — is everything.”
― Drue Grit

“Life can be the scariest thing in the world. It can also be the most incredible thing in the world. The difference is you. The difference is in you. In your attitude. That means how you live. That means how you fear. That means how you love.

There is a power within these elements to both change and guide your entire life. They are always at war and they are always present. Learn to make life through your attitude. Learn to live your life in love. Learn to love your life through your attitude. To be the change you wish to see. It begins and ends with you. Choose to be your best you.”
― Drue Grit

“I’m that man and I know it. I’m shamelessly all heart. Lover and a fighter. Last of a dying breed. I’m at peace with it. I have pride with it. Because the best thing I can be — is me. I know this, I own this, and I want to help others become the best them. The way is kindness, the way is compassion. To see see one for who they are and to see them become all they can be. That is the way. The way is love.”
― Drue Grit

“I’m that man and I know it. I’m shamelessly all heart. Lover and a fighter. Last of a dying breed. I’m at peace with it. I have pride with it. Because the best thing I can be — is me. I know this, I own this, and I want to help others become the best them. The way is kindness, the way is compassion. To see one for who they are and to see them become all they can be. That is the way. The way is love.”
― Drue Grit

“Everything in life is your interpretation of things. People, places, and things. It’s a hard thing to do in this day and age, but try to assume positive intent with people and of your world. If we are going to make this world look more beautiful, feel more beautiful and be more beautiful, then we must treat it beautiful. This way starts with ourselves and continues with others. And the only way to be beautiful, to see beautiful, and to feel truly beautiful — is to love and be loving.”
― Drue Grit

“[Silent Messages 2]
She was rearranging her messy handbag at the crowded bus station
When she lifted her head for a short interval,
Her eyes caught a young couple kissing, touching, and hugging
In an exaggerated and performative manner
When the couple noticed her,
The young woman gave her a mean and malicious look as if asking:
Are you jealous of all the love I am surrounded by?
She returned the look with a sly one as if responding:
The love that exaggerates in displaying itself in public
Is either new and inexperienced, dead, or dying…

[[Original poem published in Arabic on December 5, 2022 at ahewar.org]”
― Louis Yako

“Love heals what time cannot. Love heals what reason cannot. Love is the reason. Love is the healing. Love is the way. It is also the why. When all else fails, and we fall — Love rises. After the fight is over, Love is what wins. It is the light. It is our light. It is our wings at the bottom of a well, in the depths of our darkest caves. It is our courage to get back up. To do what scares us. To face what hurts us.

The will to love is courage, kindness, tenacity, and knowledge. Love is life’s greatest wisdom. It is most overlooked, easily misunderstood, and always manipulated by industries. Or pain. But love is always and forever within you. Study love and you study yourself. Give love and you give back to God and to the universe and to our ancestors with everything you got.

Love is more than a feeling, it is the greatest art of doing, giving, being. It is sacred knowledge. It is our growth, maturity, and kindness set forth into service. It is selflessly serving unto others, and yet paradoxically, how we best serve unto ourselves.

So I say it again for those down in our caves and for those atop: Learn the love, be the love, go and give your love. All of it.

We’ll all be better for it.

Love,

Drue Grit”
― Drue Grit