Ann Without An E

“When someone ignores you, it's an intentional display of power. They're essentially acting like you don't exist, and they do it because they can. They believe that nothing will happen to them. Ignoring silences people. It intentionally avoids resolution or compromise. It ignites your worst fears of unworthiness because it makes you feel that you deserve to be ignored. Inevitably, being ignored puts you in the position of having to choose between making a fuss or accepting the silent treatment. If you stand up to the ignorer and get in their face, you break the norms of polite behavior and end up feeling worse, diminished, demeaned.”
― Judith Heumann, Being Heumann: An Unrepentant Memoir of a Disability Rights Activist

“And so the days pass. I keep waiting for something to happen, for the ease I feel to end, but each day follows on much like the one before.”
― Claire Keegan, Foster

“1. Identify the meaning you give to a situation. 2. Express using the following: “When _____________________________ (insert the situation) happened, I interpreted it to mean ______________________________ (insert the meaning you gave to it), and I felt ___________________________________ (insert the emotion you experienced).” 3. Identify what you need from your loved one and the strategy they can use to meet that need better. 4. Express using the following: “I need you to _____________________________ (insert what you need). You can do this by ___________________________________ (insert the “how”/strategy they can use).”
― Thais Gibson, Attachment Theory: A Guide to Strengthening the Relationships in Your Life

“The problem is that everyone wants to talk about language entirely independent of any violence that the existence of that language has accumulated over time.”
― Hanif Abdurraqib, They Can't Kill Us Until They Kill Us