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Showing posts with label fall-out of love. Show all posts
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Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Marriage Jinks

I'm about to sleep when I received a call 12 midnight last night from a close friend, I said hello worried why she called in odd hours of the night, few seconds of silence.... then she replied to me with a cry, she had a fight again with her husband....oh my I am quite surrounded with friends dealing with maritial issues which in some point had threatened their "I Do Promises"  Sometimes I dwell into thinking that marriage is the end of romantic romance couple shared during the BFGF stage... a lot of culprits were identified but of course this is case to case basis... I just pick some based on my married friends experiences and my thoughts about them..

         

Individual differences. Different goals and dreams, sometimes they have the same but the strategy to achieve their goals and dreams are different...Normally women are dreamers they do have concrete and back-up plans plus tons of guts that they will achieve it. Men are commonly laid back either because they think they still have plenty of time or the guts they have is not as strong as women...plus normally they are easily contented comapare to women...

In-Laws. There should be one Queen in a Kingdom. I insist couples planning to get married should take note of this carefully..to preserve your relationship with your in-laws...start to live on your own from the start..don't test the water low probability that oil and water will get along...few might succeed with agents but millions probability failed...

Financial. This should be clear  from day one of marriage..expenses should be detailed out..who will safe keep the money and both should be aware of every little expenses you will have..

Fall out of Love = Infidelity. it ruins the relationship for sure..but how do husband and wife end to this state...I think both parties should maintain romantic relationship, intimacy moments and time alone like BFGF era...normally when you get married you become relaxed... efforts to make your better half happy are lesser coz you think you have a lifetime to do it...but days...months and years passed you tend to forget and focus on other areas...like saving for future, welfare of the family specially the kids, and individual careers..and in some point you will long for romance and if both of you don't meet on the same point...that's the time you'll go for fishing illegally...you'll feel again the thrill of BFGF unfolding new experience...at first your intension is not to replace your better half but to have something/someone to fill the void...lucky you if you realize sooner that smoke hurts the eyes but what if you late realize that you are on fire with 3rd degree burns...i think couples should continue to nurture their relationship it's healthy not only to the couple but for the whole family...kids will grow up seeing their parents happy and in love...which serves as a good role model when it's their turn...
I pray and hope I would not go thru with all of these...coz honestly I do not know how to deal it with speacially on the last one...My friend once says that premonitions are given duirng the BFGF stage that should not be ignored if positive you should rejoice, if negative and you ignore it... it will hunt you once your married...

For my single friends...pray that you'll end up with someone you love and loves you back....someone who can laugh with you aloud :) Ensure that you are compatible in many ways (in all ways is not feasible..hehe)

For my married friends...stay happy, in-love and intimate!!! AJA!

                             

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