The More Love Grows

This is already one of my favorite films.

It had a really strong theme of growth, among several of the characters, in some surprising ways. And there were opportunities to take the easy way out for a lot of the characters, and it was interesting what each ultimately chose.

Rachel Boston and Warren Christie were natural together, and it good to see them each growing and maturing as actors. And we certainly saw a new side of Linda Boyd.

There were some characters that seemed like they were going to be important that got lost in the shuffle for a while, but that really is how life goes sometimes.

Yes, there are a lot of weak spots in this movie, but the longer I watched it, I appreciated how it delved into the important issues that the first minutes of it made you think were going to handled lightly. Though I was put off by many of the tropes that were introduced in the beginning, I appreciated the deft way they handled them as the movie unfolded, and how they reflected real world experiences for many of us.

I actually would love to see a sequel. Maybe this is just a transitional relationship and they end up finding other loves, but remain friends. Maybe they take that trip to Paris they both want to take and realize they aren't meant to be together. Maybe their kids end up in a relationship that causes all sorts of complications. Maybe Elmer becomes a dad. So many possibilities for this fine cast to explore further.

As a fan of "Heartland," I loved seeing Alisha Newton's character being a less than positive influence, as opposed to her Heartland character, Georgie.

Outside of the dog in this movie there really isn't much to like about it. The main story lines for the human characters are just too depressing that they really don't capture the viewer's attention or interests. So much so that you find yourself wondering if they would have just made this totally about the dog in a sort of Benji way - would that have made the movie more interesting for the viewer? Given the actor an actress in this movie and knowing their ability based on past performances I just couldn't get into this one at all and I wanted to. Should have been happy for the final outcome for the dog but the rest was hard to watch.

This movie makes a divorce after 20 years of marriage seem like a minor inconvenience. It also suffers from a common problem in some of the weaker Hallmark entries- too much is packed into too short a time frame. One day, Helen and Paul are dropping off their daughter at college (after which Paul wants to talk to Helen about their next "adventure"). The next day Paul drops the "adventure" talk and announces he's moving to Denver and ending their marriage. Then Helen gets a dog (for the first time) and, in what seems like the same couple of days, and without any grieving period following the end of her 20 year marriage, Helen meets a handsome vet played by Warren Christie, goes on a series of dates, and falls for him. And it's all tied up neatly and quickly with no yelling or crying.

As someone who lived through the end of a 25 year marriage, I was bothered by how the movie glossed over the hard and often brutal realities of divorce. And the economic consequences of divorce were completely ignored (how will Helen pay for that beautiful house by herself?). Given how some reviewers still found the movie depressing, I suppose there was a conscious decision to hire the usually smiling Rachel Boston to help take the edge off a story that starts off with a couple getting divorced. That is, admittedly, a very depressing subject. But this is one of the rosiest movies about divorce you'll ever see.

Rachel Boston highlighted the sunny kumbaya approach of the writer and director to divorce. Other reviewers noted her tendency to giggle during any lapse in dialogue and how it often seemed inappropriate to the moment in the script. That's fair. One such moment came during a highly unlikely scene of Helen changing her car's oil by herself ("look at me- I'm suddenly a strong independent woman who can change her own oil"). Setting aside the fact that most people have their oil changed at places like Jiffy Lube for $50, laughing is not the reaction one would expect after getting covered in oil just as the ex walks up. Still, I've liked Rachel Boston in other movies and her laughing and giggling is on the director and writer, not her.

There's a valid point to be made about friends being defined by whether they are supportive during a divorce. But the scene in this movie where Helen's "friends" acknowledge they knew about the divorce but failed to reach out takes place, loudly, in the middle of a yoga class. That simply wouldn't happen and, the next time we see Helen's "besties", there's a sunny kumbaya unrealistic resolution of that conflict too.

Helen does find a new friend in Cindy played by a talented 57 year old actress named Linda Boyd. Unfortunately, Cindy is written as a bit of a caricature. She's a "punk rocker" who wears garish eye makeup and dresses and acts like her onstage persona even when she's offstage. It feels forced and unnatural. But some of my favorite exchanges came between Helen and Cindy.

Cindy: "My ex burned my life to the ground and I rose from the ashes rocking. How are you going to take your power back?" Helen: "I could get new throw pillows. Paul always hated them."

Cindy: " You need to call a lawyer." Helen: "I'm not ready for that." Cindy: " Ready or not, you can either stand up for yourself or get run over."

Great words of advice. But then the movie suggests that their only legal dilemma is how to split up the "things" inside the house. There's not a word about who pays the mortgage, how Paul will pay for wherever he lives in Denver, whether the house will need to be sold, whether there's alimony, who pays for their daughter's college, etc. In other word The Big Divorce Questions are ignored.

Roan Curtis played Aly, the daughter who just started college. She's a beautiful actress and Aly seemed really sweet but stressed. I thought that subplot, of Aly navigating her way through her first semester at college, was quite realistic and I would have preferred a movie that focused more on her.

Helen's mother was an interesting character. She represented the traditional view on marriage- and essentially urged her daughter to save her marriage at any cost which, for her, meant inviting Paul over for a home cooked meal. She also seemed to be clueless about boundaries. But she seemed like the only person advocating for the couple to make an effort to save their marriage. Helen and Paul hopped on the express train to divorce and never even bothered to go to couples' counseling or therapy. That was a pretty disposable marriage. At one point, Helen tells her mother a line by Cindy about how "marriage is an outdated social construct and Paul is holding me back from living my best life." That may be true, but I suspect most Hallmark viewers would disagree and would have liked the characters to have made some effort to save the marriage.

Note to screenwriters, flashing the words "One Year Later" (still not enough time to truly recover from the end of a 20 year marriage) is a perfectly acceptable transition.

And, on a final positive note,, "Tubthumping" may be the perfect song for people going through a divorce.

I wanted to like this movie because the dog is so cute. Unfortunately the main character Helen is so annoying that I wanted something really bad to happen so she would stop being so bloody perky and show some authentic emotions. She giggles in almost every scene! Even after hearing that the dog's owner had been found. She doesn't seem to have any emotional intelligence..she is surprised by her husband leaving, that the new boyfriend had 'feelings' for her, that her daughter might have been over mothered!

The characters also seem to be thrown in and stereotypical rather than developed. The mother is intrusive , the new friend a bit 'out there', and the new boyfriend terribly supportive.

And speaking of dogs, they are not 'pack' animals...the training advice was so 1990s. They really could have used the opportunity to promote force free training techniques and best practices like microchipping.