Men, we all have scars. Some are visible. Some are not. Some are physical. And, some are mental and emotional. Regardless of the scars you carry around, the stories behind them have the ability to shape you, for better or worse. My guest today, 101st Airborne Division Combat Veteran, J.R. Martinez, has easily-seen external scars. But rather than use those scars as an excuse to self-destruct, Martinez has, instead, decided to use the stories and the lessons he’s learned on the road to recovery to make himself a better man. Today, J.R. and I talk about deliberately changing your perspective on life, what he calls, “God Winks,” and how to use them effectively in your life, how to get over perceived emasculation and make yourself into more, crafting a new identity for yourself when the old one is ripped from you, and how a man effectively deals with persecution from others. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS (00:00) Episode Intro (00:40) Relationship Challenges and Parenthood Success   (04:21) Journey to Parenthood and Self-Discovery   (09:31) Setting Boundaries With Overprotective Mothers   (14:04) Breaking Generational Patterns   (26:33) Recognizing Signs and Seizing Opportunities   (36:15) Navigating Life's Challenges and Opportunities   (40:32) Perspective Shift Through Life's Challenges   (50:58) Surviving a Traumatic Military Incident   (58:02) Embracing Hope and Optimism   (01:09:26) Overcoming Challenges in Public Eye   (01:15:05) Finding Hope Through Unexpected Interactions   (01:24:43) Embracing Vulnerability and Healing   (01:29:32) Navigating Relationships and Overcoming Trauma   (01:33:30) Embracing Imperfections and Growth Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready