Bless This Child: A Comprehensive Guide to Creating Baby Blessing Ceremonies
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Congratulations on the birth of your baby!
In this child, you see in?nite potential and you place great hope. And now youre preparing to celebrate what is perhaps the most joyous rite of passagethe baby blessing ceremony. Like many parents, you may wish to plan a personalized ceremony that re?ects who you are as a family and what you believe.
In Bless This Child, author Susanna Stefanachi Macomb presents a comprehensive selection of ceremonial elements for baby blessings. She has culled from the best traditions around the world and developed new ones, combining spiritual as well as humanist aspects. This guide includes poetry, prose, scripture, prayers, vows, opening words, and closing blessings; moving rituals including candle-lighting, naming, and anointing; suggestions on embracing grandparents, godparents, and siblings; practical advice for working with of?ciants and locales; language appropriate for an interfaith, intercultural assembly of family and guests; sample ceremonies that demonstrate how creative alternatives and traditional aspects can blend to create a memorable event.
Warm and encouraging, Bless This Child provides a guidebook for parents who wish to create a special way of welcoming their child into the world. Bless This Child is also an excellent resource for clergy and humanist of?ciants who perform interfaith baby blessing ceremonies.
Rev. Susanna Stefanachi Macomb
Susanna Stefanachi Macomb is a licensed, ordained minister who has performed hundreds of personalized baby blessing ceremonies. Her work has been featured on television, radio and various print publications including Pregnancy magazine. She lives in New York City with her husband and son. Andrea Thompson is a New York–based free-lance writer and editor. They have previously collaborated on Joining Hands and Hearts Interfaith, Intercultural Wedding Celebrations.
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Bless This Child - Rev. Susanna Stefanachi Macomb
Bless
This
Child
A Comprehensive Guide
to Creating Baby Blessing Ceremonies
Rev. Susanna Stefanachi Macomb
with
Andrea Thompson
iUniverse, Inc.
Bloomington
A Comprehensive Guide to Creating Baby Blessing Ceremonies
Copyright © 2011 Rev. Susanna Stefanachi Macomb with Andrea Th ompson
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Contents
Acknowledgments
Preface
Introduction: About This Book
Part I
First Steps
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3t
Chapter 4
Part II
The Baby Blessing Ceremony:
A Menu of Elements
Part III
Mothers, Fathers, Babies
Part IV
Down the Years
A Final Word
A Resource Directory
Permissions
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Dedicated to my son, Adam, and all the blessed children and their parents
Acknowledgments
I am inspired by the families that generously opened their hearts and shared their stories. It has been a privilege to walk beside your marriages, your births—your transformation. A joy! Thank you for your greatness of spirit.
I am so grateful for the magic of the children. They bring us back to purity, innocence and glee. There is so much God in them.
I especially want to thank my collaborator, Andrea Thompson. To quote scripture, She is worth far more than rubies. I am honored to call her friend, a sister.
Thank you to Elaine Zervos, my organizing angel and keeper of the calendar, for her unwavering faith and support. You are a gift.
Thank you to Fred Courtright, our permissions expert, for his help.
Three souls left the earth not long ago: the late Rabbi Joseph Gelberman, my spiritual and practical teacher and founder of the first interfaith seminary; the late Pir Vilayat Inayat Khan, the man who brought Sufism to America, who touched me on a mystical level; the late Very Reverend Forrest Church, former pastor of All Souls Unitarian Church in New York, where I have had the privilege of conducting ceremonies. These three lights each contributed to interfaith, intercultural peace. Thank you.
Finally, with tears in my eyes and a heart full of love, my thanks to my husband of 25 years, Edward, and my son, Adam, who will always be my beautiful, beautiful boy. None of this would be possible without you.
Preface
When my first book, Joining Hands and Hearts: Interfaith, Intercultural Celebrations, A Practical Guide for Couples, was published, Publishers Weekly called it cutting edge.
It was the first of its kind. Bless This Child is also cutting edge. To my knowledge, this is the first book that deals in depth with the subject of creating personalized baby blessing ceremonies. It is also the first book that really addresses the needs of interfaith families wanting to combine their traditions, along with the various issues that arise.
Of all ceremonies, baby blessings are my favorite because of the babies themselves. The energy babies exude and bring forth from others is magical! People transform to their more innocent, gleeful selves around the youngest members of our society. So it is with great joy that we give you Bless This Child. May it help you create a ceremony that reflects the wonder and magic that is your child.
Introduction: About This Book
Every baby born is unique. An astonishing miracle. And when that son or daughter finally arrives, after the months of preparations and planning and anticipation, parents naturally want to gather family and friends for a joyous occasion. Even more than the birth day itself, a baby-naming ceremony celebrates new beginnings, the reconfiguration of the planets! This is a time parents say to their child:
• We welcome you.
• We are beside ourselves with joy because you are here.
• We name you.
• We introduce you to the people you will come to know and who will know you, watch over you, and love you as we do.
• We share with all here today our promises and hopes for you for the years ahead.
So many wish to express those sentiments in a one-of-a-kind ceremony, to celebrate their one-of-a-kind child. They want an unforgettable event that not only acknowledges the solemnity of the occasion, but that moves all gathered to moments of laughter and to happy tears.
Bless This Child is for those parents and their families.
Bless This Child is for the clergy and humanist officiants who conduct these ceremonies.
In this book, you will learn:
• how to arrange and design a personalized baby blessing ceremony, including who, what, when, and where suggestions;
• how to give a loving role to siblings, grandparents, and godparents;
• how to honor a mix of family religions, traditions, and cultures.
In this book, you will find:
• a lengthy menu of suggested readings, blessings, prayers, and quotes selected from the world’s most eloquent and most eternal writings;
• elegant and heart-touching rituals that can be incorporated into any ceremony, here explained and fully scripted;
• tender counsel for the interfaith family, to help ensure that grandparents and others will feel comfortable and included;
• real-life stories and examples of ceremonies that demonstrate the many possibilities in design and content;
• a resource directory that will help you locate a celebrant and/or a chapel, arrange for baptismal and baby naming certificates or documents, and more.
In Bless This Child, you will find information that has not previously been gathered in any other one book or resource.
Consider this a workbook. Read through it, mark it up, dog-ear the pages if you want. You will see that in some sections blank spaces have been left for you to write directly onto the pages. I suggest that in the Menu section you take a pencil and circle your preferences. Use a pencil with an eraser, so you will be able to go back and rethink and perhaps change your choices. So many couples I have worked with have been so moved and excited by the wonderful collection of readings, they have a hard time picking their favorites! You may find that one part of a reading is exactly right for you, while the remainder of it is not. Simply cross out the lines you would like to omit. Feel free to adapt.
Throughout the following pages, in the margins here and there, you will also find brief quotes, snippets of written wisdom from a variety of sources. If you read one that speaks to you, by all means incorporate it into your ceremony. Or you might feature it on your birth announcement, your baby’s blessing invitation, or your thank-you notes.
Consider this a guidebook. It will lead you step-by-step through the process of putting together a celebration that is just what you want. But you will find here something more as well. As an interfaith minister who has officiated at countless ceremonies, I have been blessed to be privy to these couples’ deepest thoughts and feelings about becoming parents. With their approval, I include some of their informal remarks from their ceremonies—their feelings about their children, their thoughts about how they want to raise them, their dreams for their families. This is what brings it all home, up front and personal. This is what makes a personalized baby naming ceremony so special. Throughout the following pages, I have quoted the words of many of these happy parents, again with their approval, as they planned for and celebrated the welcoming of their child.
Let yourself be inspired. For there is an invisible parents’ club to which you now belong, a common bond you share. That bond in a nutshell is this: our children come first. We love them more than life itself. We would give our lives for them if need be. This we would do without hesitancy, unconditionally. Is there any greater love?
Part I
First Steps
Chapter 1
With Each Child, the World Begins Anew!
A child enters into our midst, and face to face, hand to hand with this perfect creation, we are compelled to whisper, It’s a miracle.
In this child we see infinite potential and we place our greatest hopes.
A baby reminds us from where we came. A baby takes us back to who we really are, before we accumulated all the layers of life. A child points to our innocence, to purity, and to glee, for only a baby has the capacity to laugh like that, at the sheer joy of being alive. When we witness a child’s indescribable belly laugh, we rediscover who we are. As Christianity teaches: Verily I say unto you, unless you become as little children, you shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven … for of such is the kingdom of God.
Simply put, children are closer to heaven.
Babies even smell like heaven! What parent does not rush home, perhaps from a hard day at work, yearning for the sweet smell of her newborn? With our noses nuzzled into the top of our babies’ heads or in the crooks of our toddlers’ necks, we feel we are home, right where the heart is. Embracing a child brings us back to what is truly important in life, and our day falls again into perspective. We experience a sense of inner peace and belonging.
When a child is born, all else in our lives seems to pale in comparison. Often we wonder what we did before having children that was really important. Life seems permanently divided into two parts: prebaby and postbaby. As one parent wrote to me, I wish I could tell you how she has changed our lives, but I honestly can’t remember what life was like before her. It is like all the questions have been answered.
Can there be anything more life transforming?
And so, my heartfelt congratulations on the birth of your new baby! You have embarked on an exciting journey, one that will take you to places that you cannot even imagine at this point. For such a momentous rite of passage, many families feel a need to welcome and bless their children with a ceremony. With our hearts filled with gratitude for the gift of this newly arrived soul, it is a time to celebrate. Among the first questions on the minds of new parents is this one: How do we introduce our baby to our world and our world to our baby? If you are reading this book, this is probably the question on your mind right now. A baby welcoming, after all, is truly one of the handful of great and grand memorable events that span a lifetime, the passages that mark major family transitions.
I have led hundreds of such baby blessings, and these are absolutely my favorite ceremonies to perform because to me they represent pure and boundless joy. The grace I meet upon these children’s faces, the presence of their families in my life, are the great gifts of my work. This is a work that makes the heart sing! As an ordained interfaith minister, I serve families from an amazing variety of backgrounds. They are nondenominational, interfaith, intercultural, multicultural, interracial, interdenominational, same faith, and humanist. Among them are traditionalists and nontraditionalists, the religious and nonreligious, liberals and conservatives. I spend time getting to know each of my families. And I have learned a great deal about the needs and wishes of modern-day parents.
Some are seeking ideas on how to plan and carry out a welcoming ceremony for their child that is nonreligious but spiritual in nature. Some wonder if it’s possible to incorporate individualized elements within the traditional services and practices of the church, the synagogue, or the mosque. Others are faced with the need to honor and acknowledge different faiths and family traditions.
Many new parents looking for just such advice and suggestions have found me through my website and my previous book, Joining Hands and Hearts, about designing interfaith wedding ceremonies. Here is a small sampling from the e-mails I have received:
What my husband and I know for sure is that we want our child to be honored and welcomed into this world properly and that we would like a ceremony based on love and life and in celebration of both families and our new joy.
When we were married, we had a wonderful, inclusive wedding ceremony attended by my parish priest and a rabbi. We were really pleased with the nature of our ceremony, but we have not been able to find local resources in terms of raising an interfaith child or even how to conduct a naming ceremony that might be inclusive like our wedding.
I’ve been trying to think ahead about a ceremonial celebration of the birth of our first baby. We are no longer affiliated with any church, but we believe in the sacred event of life and want to honor that somehow, in a powerful, connecting way that brings our families and friends together to celebrate the life of our child.
This is our first child and we wish to create a ceremony for him that welcomes him into this world and celebrates his uniqueness. We particularly liked the idea you mention of a ceremony that honors family members and friends. You also state that your ceremonies have a universal context. This is especially important to us.
Do you hear echoes of your own hopes and concerns in those words?
Bless This Child is for you if you and your spouse are in a same-faith marriage, or if you are in an interfaith marriage, or if you and your partner are parents with no faith-based inclinations whatsoever. Our emphasis is on fashioning a personal, meaningful occasion that feels uniquely right to the people involved and that completely reflects your beliefs and wishes.
I call this a spiritual ceremony. Love is the key. We begin by focusing on the heart, on love, on that which is common to you and me and all life. Then we bring it up a notch—or two or three—to that which points to something greater than ourselves yet is in ourselves, to something sacred. Certainly, the birth of a child, and the ceremony that celebrates it, touches the sacred. After all, we are dealing with the miracle of life. Family is honored and embraced. Traditional aspects of baptisms and baby namings are celebrated in a universal context. All language is