The Pocket Mentor: Insider Tips from America's Most Successful People
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What path are you on? Where are you going in your life? These are questions I ask myself regularly. And they are questions you should ask too, if for no other reason than mild curiosity about your eventual destination. Yes, you will wind up somewhere.
Lewis Carroll famously said, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.” But I don’t believe you want to be on just any road. You want to be on the road that gets you to your destination as quickly and painlessly as possible.
As a college professor and mentor in a high school mentorship program, I speak with many young adults who don’t know where they want to go, much less how to get there. I was no different at their age.
A part of the problem today is the disruption from the Great Recession of 2009. Many Americans, especially Millennials, who range in age from 18 to 33, feel disconnected from the traditional anchors of society—career, marriage, family, and religious and political affiliations.
Another part of the problem is their youth. Lacking experience and surrounded by myriad career choices, many Millennials lapse into a cocoon of indifference (I don’t have to decide yet) or magical thinking (I can do anything I want) about the future.
Still, I believe all people—young, middle-aged, and seniors—who have a direction and a destination achieve much more in life than those who don’t. In the past five years, I’ve reached out to 101 high achievers—not celebrities, but men and women who have made a difference in the lives of others—and posed one question: “What one piece of advice do you wish you had received when you were graduating from college or starting out in life?”
The Pocket Mentor captures these invaluable tips and life lessons for you. This practical wisdom tend to fall into five recurring themes: 1) be yourself, 2) be for others, 3) be a learner, 4) be persistent, and 5) be a risk-taker.
Be Yourself
Becoming yourself is a top priority of many Pocket Mentor contributors. Repeatedly, you are urged not to fall in line, not to follow the crowd, not to settle for the fashion of the day. Instead, you are counseled to become the person you were meant to be.
Be for Others
Love of neighbor, including the stranger, is the second most frequent theme in The Pocket Mentor. For many contributors, service to others is not optional; it is essential to living the good life.
Be a Learner
Lifetime learning is critical to Pocket Mentor contributors. If they aren’t learning something new and sharing it with others, life almost isn’t worth living. Again and again you are encouraged to leave your comfort zone, examine, and explore the world around you.
Be Persistent
There’s not one quitter in The Pocket Mentor. In fact, one might be tempted to say many are downright stubborn. But people who set big goals and achieve great things can be obstinate.
Be a Risk-Taker
The Pocket Mentor contributors remind you that playing it safe doesn’t get you very far. Still, many of us are paralyzed by the mere thought of taking a risk. The incomparable Peter Drucker said this about risk-taking: “People who don't take risks generally make about two big mistakes a year. People who do take risks generally make about two big mistakes a year.” So why hesitate?
Three final thoughts about The Pocket Mentor: first, the contributors aren’t out-of-touch sages serving up spiritual comfort food. They are field-tested guides, mentors—Sherpas, if you will—who will help you find a path to the mountaintop. Second, each offers a word or two of advice, but you still must chop wood, haul water, and do the work. Third, despite their counsel, you will meet obstacles and fall on your face from time to time. This is a good sign. As Frank A. Clark once said, “If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.”
Enjoy the journey. It’s the only way to appreciate the destination.
Vince Reardon
Vince Reardon is an adjunct professor of Communications, a noted author, a professional speaker, a mentor, a husband, and a father.Vince is a storyteller of vision and craft. He offers glimpses into the lives of leaders who stand at the crossroads of a life-altering decision – from a NASA Flight Director struggling to help the crew of Apollo 13 return safely to Earth to a former street thug turned "violence interrupter" mediating a potentially explosive conflict between rival gangs. Continually, he reminds listeners of their abiding need for integrity, courage, audacity and grit in both their business and personal lives.In addition, for more than 30 years as an award-winning communications professional, Vince has taught more than 10,000 people the art of public speaking. His friendly, practical coaching prepares workshop attendees to speak more clearly, comfortably and confidently in both small- and large-group settings.Whether it’s a keynote or a workshop, Vince performs with energy, conviction, and humor, sure to entertain but more so engage your audience.Vince is an experienced speechwriter and journalist. He has ghostwritten numerous keynotes for CEOs and other senior executives. He also has written numerous bylined and ghostwritten articles in newspapers and magazines, including the San Diego Union-Tribune, the San Diego Business Journal, San Diego Magazine, the Los Angeles Times, the Sacramento Bee, and the Arizona-Republic in Phoenix. In addition, he was a producer, on-air reporter, and radio personality at KJQY-FM 104 in San Diego.He is a board member and Secretary of I Love A Clean San Diego and a mentor at the Preuss School, a charter school for low-income students whose parents never graduated from college. Vince is a longtime member and Distinguished Toastmaster (DTM) of Toastmasters International and a member of the National Speakers Association.He has a master’s degree in Strategic Communications from National University in San Diego and a bachelor’s degree in English from Queen’s College (CUNY) in New York.The Pocket Mentor is his second book.To retain Vince for a keynote speech on finding your path in life or your career or a public speaking workshop, contact him at vincereardon@yahoo.com.
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The Pocket Mentor - Vince Reardon
Foreword
There are hundreds of paths up the mountain, all leading in the same direction, so it doesn't matter which path you take. The only one wasting time is the one who runs around and around the mountain, telling everyone else that their path is wrong.
Hindu Proverb
Preface
Let me be honest: when I was younger, I didn’t take advice well. My mother never offered any and my father did nothing but tell me what to do. As I grew into manhood I didn’t seek out advice, and if some well-meaning person offered it, I usually didn’t listen. I learned to rely on my own counsel.
So here I am offering you advice—advice for finding your place in life—from 101 notable individuals. Why? When I look back on my life, I realize what a mistake I made. I should have listened more. I would have sidestepped more pitfalls and seized more opportunities.
It took years for me to turn this around. It took years to understand what the Greek philosopher Zeno meant when he said, We have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen more than we say.
But you may wonder, Can this advice really change my life?
Yes, it can. One piece of good advice can turn a life around. One piece of good advice can set a life on a never-dreamed-of course. The person one becomes and the path one pursues in life often pivot on a chance encounter, a fortuitous word, a gratuitous helping hand. As a character in a Philip Roth novel says, It's so fickle, isn't it, who you wind up, how you wind up?
Finally, the practical wisdom offered in this small book is time-tested and tear-stained. You can trust it; it has good bones. Some of it may be relevant now and some later. But don’t just take my word for it. See for yourself.
On Finding Your Path
What path are you on? Where are you going in your life? These are questions I ask myself regularly. And they are questions you should ask too, if for no other reason than mild curiosity about your eventual destination. Yes, you will wind up somewhere.
Lewis Carroll famously said, If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.
But I don’t believe you want to be on just any road. You want to be on the road that gets you to your destination as quickly and painlessly as possible.
As a college professor and mentor in a high school mentorship program, I speak with many young adults who don’t know where they want to go, much less how to get there. I was no different at their age.
A part of the problem today is the disruption from the Great Recession of 2009. Many Americans, especially Millennials, who range in age from 18 to 33, feel disconnected from the traditional anchors of society—career, marriage, family, and religious and political affiliations.
Another part of the problem is their youth. Lacking experience and surrounded by myriad career choices, many Millennials lapse into a cocoon of indifference (I don’t have to decide yet) or magical thinking (I can do anything I want) about the future.
Who can blame them? According to Millennials in Adulthood,
a 2014 study by the Pew Research Center, "Millennials are…the first in the modern era to have higher levels of student loan debt, poverty and unemployment, and lower levels of wealth and personal income than their two immediate predecessor generations (Gen Xers and Boomers) had at the same stage of their life cycles."
Still, I believe all people—young, middle-aged, and seniors—who have a direction and a destination achieve much more in life than those who don’t. In the past five years, I’ve reached out to 101 high achievers—not celebrities, but men and women who have made a difference in the lives of others—and posed one question: What one piece of advice do you wish you had received when you were graduating from college or starting out in life?
The Pocket Mentor captures these invaluable tips and life lessons for you.
A word cloud analysis revealed that the five most common words in the book are: life, people, learn, good, and think. Interestingly, the four idols worshipped in our culture—money, fame, image, and consumption—appeared nowhere in the word cloud. However, five themes appear repeatedly in rich variety. They are: 1) be yourself, 2) be for others, 3) be a learner, 4) be persistent, and 5) be a risk-taker.
Be Yourself
Becoming yourself is a top priority of many Pocket Mentor contributors. Repeatedly, you are urged not to fall in line, not to follow the crowd, not to settle for the fashion of the day. Instead, you are counseled to become the person you were meant to be.
Be for Others
Love of neighbor, including the stranger, is the second most frequent theme in The Pocket Mentor. For many contributors, service to others is not optional; it is essential to living the good life.
Be a Learner
Lifetime learning is critical to Pocket Mentor contributors. If they aren’t learning something new and sharing it with others, life almost isn’t worth living. Again and again you are encouraged to leave your comfort zone, examine, and explore the world around you.
Be Persistent
There’s not one quitter in The Pocket Mentor. In fact, one might be tempted to say many are downright stubborn. But people who set big goals and achieve great things can be obstinate.
Be a Risk-Taker
Pocket Mentor contributors remind you that playing it safe doesn’t get you very far. Still, many of us are paralyzed by the mere thought of taking a risk. The incomparable Peter Drucker said this about risk-taking: People who don't take risks generally make about two big mistakes a year. People who do take risks generally make about two big mistakes a year.
So why hesitate?
A word of caution: some tips overlap. A few could fit as