Old Enough to Know - updated edition
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This best-selling book from Michael W. Smith has sold over 150,000 copies. As relevant today as when Michasel first wrote it, Old Enough to Know gives straight, Biblical answers to the struggles of growing up: sex, drugs, alcohol, peer pressure, parental conflict, friendship, goals, responsibilities and materialism. Calling it "a book for my friends," the author assures teens that he knows they are old enough to know the difference between the phony and the genuine, and attempts to show how he - and other adults! - have genuinely "been there" and can help.
Michael W. Smith
Michael W. Smith is a successful recording artist who has recorded more than 25 albums and had numerous hit radio songs in the Christian and General markets. He’s won numerous Grammy and Dove Awards and is the founder of Rocketown, an outreach to teenagers in a 38,000 square-foot facility in downtown Nashville, Tennessee. He is involved in mission work around the world. He has also written several bestselling books, including Old Enough To Know and Friends Are Friends Forever. He and his wife, Debbie, have five children and live in Nashville.
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Old Enough to Know - updated edition - Michael W. Smith
OLD ENOUGH
TO KNOW
What Teenagers Need to Know
About Life and Relationships
Michael W. Smith
& Fritz Ridenour
Old_Enough_fnl_qxp_final_0001_001Copyright © 1987, 1988, 2000 by Tommy Nelson.
All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced in any form without written permission from the publisher, with the exception of brief excerpts in reviews.
Published in Nashville, Tennessee, by Tommy Nelson™, a division of Thomas Nelson, Inc.
Scripture references are from the following sources:
The Holy Bible, New International Version (NIV). Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers.
The Holy Bible, New Living Translation (NLT). Copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois.
The Living Bible (TLB). Copyright © 1971 by Tyndale House Publishers, Wheaton, Illinois. Used by permission.
The New King James Version (NKJV). Copyright © 1979, 1980, 1982, Thomas Nelson, Inc., Publisher. All rights reserved.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Smith, Michael W. (Michael Whitaker)
Old enough to know.
Summary: Discusses critical adolescent issues such as drugs, sexuality, peer pressure, and independence, with some autobiographical material from the author’s life and letters he has received.
1. Teenagers—Religious life. 2. Smith, Michael W. (Michael Whitaker)—Juvenile literature [1. Adolescence. 2. Conduct of life.
3. Christian life. 4. Smith, Michael W. (Michael Whitaker)]
1. Ridenour, Fritz. II. Title.
BV4531.2.S59 1988 248.8’3 89-5276
ISBN 0-8499-7604-9 (previously 0-8499-3162-2, 0-8344-0153-3)
Printed in the U.S.A.
00 01 02 03 04 05 PHX 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
Dedicated to my mom and dad,
who not only brought me into this life
but have taught me how to end it
in His glory.
Introduction:
This Book Is for My Friends
I’ve never written a book before. It’s kind of weird—trying to put down on paper why I write my songs. It’s a lot easier to sit down at a piano and just tinker with a tune that keeps flirting with my mind, and finally work it out. Writing books is a lot harder.
It reminds me of a question a reporter for a Christian TV station asked one night in the dressing room before a concert. With his mini-cam rolling, he said, Tell me, Michael, what’s God been doing in your life?
At first, I wasn’t sure how to answer. What did this guy want? A full rundown? Was he checking me out? I decided to do what I’ve always done—be up front and just say it: He’s doing all kinds of things. We’re out here on this tour with a high-energy rock-’n’-roll show, and our number one priority is to encourage kids and let them know God thinks they’re OK.
These days I find a lot of kids—not to mention quite a few adults—who really don’t believe they’re OK. And the pressure’s coming from every direction to try all kinds of things. I get letters every week from kids who are struggling with heavy questions and problems. I’ve always tried to read as many letters as I can and answer them personally, if possible. Then I had an idea: Why not do an entire album that talks about these problems? And so we did The Big Picture to let kids know we hear them and care.
For this book I’ve taken lyrics from twelve of my songs, most of them right off The Big Picture album. I want to tell you what’s behind these lyrics and to share parts of my life that might help you realize that I’ve been there,
and I know how it feels.
Another reason I’m writing this book is that I believe you’re old enough to know the difference between the phony and the genuine, that you won’t be fooled into confusing real love with what some very mixed-up people say love should be.
One of the most important parts of this book will be excerpts from letters written by teenagers and young adults telling me what’s happening in their lives. Their letters say it better than I ever could, and I know they won’t mind my sharing them with as many people as possible. Where necessary, I’ve changed names, places, and ages to protect privacy. But I can tell you that every letter I quote is from someone who lives where you live—in the real world where life is tough and friends are very hard to find.
This book is my letter to you as I share what is important to me. I am not a psychologist, and I don’t suggest that I have all the answers to life. I am simply telling my struggles and my victories. If you have serious problems, I urge you to seek professional help. Some excellent sources of help are listed in the back of this book.
I really mean it when I say this book is for my friends—friends I’ve already made and friends I don’t know yet but want very much to meet. My best friend on this planet, my wife, Debbie, wrote the words to a song called Friends,
and everywhere we play, the kids sing it with us.
Friends
is the high point of every concert for me because we are really singing about Someone who is the Ultimate Friend. He’s the One who made it all. He’s the real reason we’re out there pounding the highways, playing in gyms, hockey rinks, and audi toriums—everywhere we can—to let people know He’s their friend. He’s the real reason you and I can be friends and stay friends. Friends are friends forever when the Lord’s the Lord of them!
Contents
Introduction: This Book Is for My Friends
1 Can You Believe You’re Worth It?
2 Are You Who You Say You Are?
3 You Can’t Run Away
4 Don’t Believe Everything You Hear
5 Go for It!
6 The Hardest Word You’ll Ever Say
7 You’ve Gotta Serve Somebody
8 Who’s Your Friend?
9 Is Feeling Good, Good Enough?
10 Goin’ Nowhere Fast
11 What’s Life for, Anyway?
12 You’re Never All Alone
Notes
Hottest Hotlines
My Letter to Michael
Acknowledgments
1 chapter one
Can You
Believe You’re
Worth It?
Kids ask me all the time, in one way or another, Can God really think much of me? Nobody else does!
For example, I got a letter from Jill, who said, I’m really going through some tough times now. I guess the main reason is my real lack of self-esteem. I don’t like myself and neither does anyone else, it seems.
I can’t help but think we did the song You’re Alright
for someone just like Jill. As the first verse says:
You take a look inside . . . but you don't like what you see . . . And so you choose to look away . . . It doesn't coincide . . . with how you'd like to be . . . And each glimpse of hope can easily fade.
According to Jill’s letter, lots of things are going wrong. Some are no big deal, but they still hurt. Her older sister gets straight A’s and all the praise and encouragement. Jill is lucky to pull C’s and a few D’s. But she says a far bigger problem is this:
I'm bulimic and I've tried and tried and tried to lose this weight but I can't. And I've talked to God about it, and He wants me to lose it and get my self-esteem back. I know He does. But I'm hitting such a depression. What's wrong with me? What am I going to do after I graduate? When am I going to lose this weight? When am I going to have such a wonderful, peaceful energetic life with Christ?
Jill Needs More than Easy Answers
You know, it’s real easy to think, I’ve got all the answers for people with problems. Why, all I have to do is quote the chorus of You’re Alright
for Jill. That should take care of everything, shouldn’t it?
Down on your confidence . . . it’s a fight that won't let go . . . But you’ve got to realize that you're alright . . . ’Cause under your rubble . . . lies a heart the Father holds . . . And when you see your life through His eyes . . . you’re alright.
But as Jill’s letter goes on to say: "‘You’re Alright’ is really a great song and I want to believe it, but I can’t. I get so lonely and I tell God my fears, my dislikes, the things I love . . . I want to have a great relationship with God and be loving and caring naturally, not just a put-on."
Have you ever felt like Jill? I have. I know what it’s like to want to believe something but not to be able to put it together. I grew up in a good Christian home
and went to church most of my life, but then in late high school and during a couple of years of college I thought I had to try a few things.
Music had always been my thing, and I left home at twenty to make it big
as a musician. But all I seemed to make it into was a lot of confusion and trouble.
Just What Is Self-Esteem?
When Jill talks about losing her self-esteem, I understand. There are all kinds of definitions for self-esteem or self-image.
I like the one that explains it as the deep-down feeling you have about what you are worth.
In other words, it’s simply your own opinion of yourself and your personal value. It boils down to saying, I like myself,
or I can’t stand myself!
One way to look at your self-esteem is to compare it to a three-legged stool. The three legs
that hold up your self-esteem are all statements that begin with I am
:
1. I am accepted. I feel loved, wanted, and needed.
2. I am important. I feel worthwhile and valuable—to myself as well as others.
3. I am capable. I can handle things. I can do it!¹
Two major influences that work to build up or tear down anyone’s self-esteem are parents and peer group. A lot of high school kids and college-age people write to me, longing for family or friends who could just give them an even break. Instead, their parents are destroying their self-esteem with accusations like You don’t try hard enough
or You’re a slob
or You’re worthless.
When things at home are tense, it’s bad enough, but when they are bad at school, too, it can be murder. Pete wrote to tell me he gets up every morning to go to school, but he hates it.
His letter said: "I’ve got no real friends there. I get teased, tormented, and pushed around. It’s a living hell . . . I got no ambition left . . . All I want is a friend, but is there such a thing? . . .
I pray and talk to the Lord and try to convince myself I’m an all right person, but I’m sick of playing that game."
God Has Good News for You
The good news for Pete is that he doesn’t have to convince God he’s all right because God already thinks so! God does not play games with anyone’s self-esteem. He gave us our self-esteem in the first place. No matter how tough things may get at home or at school, or anywhere else, you can hang on to this:
God just plain likes you, no matter who you are, where you are, or what kind of