Stand Up to Stigma: How We Reject Fear and Shame
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“Stigma” is a simple two-syllable word, yet it carries the weight of negative and often unfair beliefs that we hold about those who are different from us. Stigmas lock people into stereotyped boxes and deny us all the right to be our authentic and whole selves. Public health activist Dr. Pernessa Seele, one of Time Magazine’s 100 Most Influential Persons in the World in 2006, has crafted a proven method to address stigma. This powerful book confronts stereotype development, shows how to undo the processes and effects of stigma, and explains how we can radically change cultural thinking on the individual, interpersonal, and societal levels to put an end to stigmatization once and for all.
“Pernessa’s book can make a difference in your life. In a powerful way, it gets to the heart of a complex issue. Many people stigmatize others without realizing it, and Seele helps readers understand what they can do to change their attitudes and actions.” —Jeff Pegues, Justice and Homeland Security Correspondent, CBS News
“In sharing cogent reflections based upon her pioneering experiences as a courageous health advocate, Pernessa Seele squarely identifies the societal toll taken by stigma and stereotyping—and delineates the steps we can take to reaffirm the dignity we each innately possess by virtue of our humanity.” —Natalia Kanem, MD, Acting Executive Director, United Nations Population Fund
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Stand Up to Stigma - Pernessa C. Seele
Praise for Stand Up to Stigma
Pernessa’s book can make a difference in your life. In a powerful way, it gets to the heart of a complex issue. Many people stigmatize others without realizing it, and Seele helps readers understand what they can do to change their attitudes and actions.
—Jeff Pegues, Justice and Homeland Security Correspondent, CBS News, and author of Black and Blue
We all dream of living in a world without stigma and bias, but a quick glance at the news proves that this is a dream deferred. Pernessa Seele pulls no punches in identifying the cost of stigma and steps to take away the power of stigma and bias.
—Rev. Dr. W. Franklyn Richardson, Chairman, Conference of National Black Churches, Inc.
Dr. Pernessa Seele’s tireless efforts to remove disparities in health care—and wherever we need more understanding and acceptance—is nothing short of inspirational. I will gladly share this book with anyone who questions the toll that stigma takes on our human community—or the path we can take to escape it.
—John Hope Bryant, Chairman, Operation HOPE
In sharing cogent reflections based upon her pioneering experiences as a courageous health advocate, Pernessa Seele squarely identifies the societal toll taken by stigma and stereotyping—and delineates the steps we can take to reaffirm the dignity we each innately possess by virtue of our humanity.
—Natalia Kanem, MD, Acting Executive Director, United Nations Population Fund
Dr. Seele puts a human face on the consequences of stigma, shows the need to examine our biases, and gives me the uneasy personal reminder that as a public health official and researcher, I must drive outside my lane of numbers and statistics.
—Willi McFarland, MD, PhD, MPH&TM, Professor of Epidemiology and Biostatistics, University of California, San Francisco, and Director, Center for Public Health Research, San Francisco Department of Public Health
The Balm In Gilead, founded by Dr. Pernessa Seele, has saved lives in the United States, Africa, and beyond. Through education, treatment, and prevention, Pernessa has enabled tens of thousands to walk the earth with health, hope, and wholeness. We are blessed to have Dr. Seele’s narrative of healthcare and wellness in a wounded world.
—Rev. Dr. Otis Moss Jr., international pastor, theologian, speaker, author, and activist
Stand Up to Stigma
STAND UP
TO
STIGMA
How We Reject Fear and Shame
PERNESSA C. SEELE
Stand Up to Stigma
Copyright © 2017 by Pernessa C. Seele
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Paperback print edition ISBN 978-1-62656-937-9
PDF e-book ISBN 978-1-62656-938-6
IDPF e-book ISBN 978-1-62656-939-3
2017-1
Cover design: Paula Goldstein.
Book interior production and design: VJB/Scribe.
Copyediting: John Pierce. Proofreader: Nancy Bell. Index: Theresa Duran.
This book is dedicated to three little boys who are growing into GREAT MEN. Each of them have moved me far away from my comfort zone in areas of stigma, fear, and shame. As I continuously watch them STAND UP to Stigma every day within their young lives, I am becoming a better human being.
I Love You Dearly!
Desmond Maurice Dease
(13 years old)
Richard Milton Smith, Jr.
(27 years old)
Darius James Dease
(41 years old)
I wish to thank Rev. Dr. Renita J. Weems for her Just a Sister Way
love and support, which always flows freely and tells you just how it is — straight up; and to Dr. Marsha A. Martin for her friendship and lifelong commitment and dedication to end the AIDS pandemic on planet Earth. I have been truly blessed by many great individuals over the years, who answered the call to give their time and energy to The Balm In Gilead Inc. Each of them, past and present, in their own unique way, have been the wind beneath my wings and a healing balm of courage and strength.
God Is.
Blessed are they that hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they shall be filled.
The Gospel of Matthew 5:6
CONTENTS
Preface
Introduction
1. The Venom of Stigma
2. The Audacity of Stigma
3. The Process of Stigmatization
4. The Outcome of Stigma: Stereotypes and Prejudices
5. Stigma and Health
6. Levels of Intervention
7. Changing How We Think about Stigmatized Diseases
8. Practical Stigma Management
Notes
Index
About the Author
PREFACE
Lionel and I became dear friends in the early 1980s. I met this extraordinary, world-renown baritone through a New York City artistic magazine in which he was featured. I had just been given permission to establish the Cultural Arts Institute (CAI) within the Brooklyn Truth Center. This was a dream that I shared with my pastor at the time, The Reverend Don Nedd, who allowed me to use the space of the well-over fifteen thousand square foot church building. Over a short period of time, the CAI became a hallmark for music and dance classes, with a slate of acclaimed professional instructors. Within a few months of Lionel becoming the piano instructor, the pastor invited him to be the director of music for the Brooklyn Truth Center. With both of us living in Manhattan, we looked forward to our journey together to Brooklyn on Sunday mornings.
Over time it became very noticeable that Lionel was not well, and his condition, which he would not speak about, was worsening. All of us, including the pastor, other members, and I, became concerned about his obvious silent
illness.
Lionel did not show up for choir rehearsal one Thursday night, and we all knew something was very wrong. A few choir members quickly decided to drive up to Harlem to Lionel’s apartment to see about him. They found him slumped over in his chair. Deceased.
The pastor fully supported Lionel’s mom, who arrived from Texas having just lost another son several months earlier. I also visited with his mom while she was attending to the business of her deceased son. There was never any mention of Lionel’s illness or what became of his body. There was no funeral or memorial service in NYC that I knew of. Our church, however, did recognize his transition and spoke of his greatness. I can still hear my friend singing, I Surrender All.
Lionel’s voice captured the writer’s soul when penning that song.
Perhaps two weeks after Lionel’s death, the CAI’s violin teacher, another world-renown artist who lived in Harlem, called me to inquire about the cause of Lionel’s death. I remained clueless.
GRID! I bet Lionel had GRID.
I had never heard that word and remained clueless to what it meant. Gay-related immune deficiency (GRID) would become a word I would learn much about in the years to come. I will never forget the next statement Jerry made. It would be the last time we spoke. If I got that, I would kill myself.
A few weeks later, Jerry found out he had GRID, now known as AIDS, and committed suicide.
In 1989, working at Harlem Hospital, I became tormented by the lack of family and spiritual support for people who were, at that time, dying of AIDS. These were the dark days of AIDS. I was and remain baffled about the absence of compassion for people who suffer from AIDS or any disease or devastating situation in life. The results of my good intentions and neophyte understanding about HIV and AIDS was the creation of the Harlem Week of Prayer for the Healing of AIDS, which gave birth to The Balm In Gilead, now an international nongovernment organization working to strengthen the capacity of faith communities in the United States and around the globe to become a beacon of light in areas of health promotion and disease prevention — and to serve all of God’s people with compassion and knowledge, not with hatred and ignorance.
This book is not about HIV and stigma. It is about the inherited social disease of stigma that continues to infect each of us in some way and is passed on continuously from one generation to the next.
I am a child of stigma, shame, and fear. I grew up a colored child with congressional rulings that mandated that I drink from most often dirty, Colored Only
water fountains. White Only
signs stated with cruel punishment that I could not try on any shoes or clothes in the department stores in Charleston, South Carolina. I could not walk the shores of Folly or Myrtle Beaches. In fact, I was allowed only on the colored Atlantic Beach, passing all the white only
beaches along the 116-mile drive. My mom had to pack a big lunch for the almost three-hour drive in both directions because colored people could not eat in any of the restaurants along the way. (There were no interstate highways.) During the long ride to the beach, once a year, the bus made at least two stops near the woods so that we could relieve our bodily functions behind a tree. Coloreds were not allowed in bathrooms.
I was also an obese child. Fatty
and Porky Pig
were my nicknames growing up. My father was an alcoholic. I grew up living