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Married People: What Are The Everyday Realities Of Marriage That Were Much Harder Than You Thought They'd Be?

Nobody ever said marriage is easy — so we want to hear about the hard parts that genuinely surprised you.

Oftentimes, when married couples share the reasons why marriage is a challenge, you hear similar responses: Sharing EVERYTHING you own with a person, being an independent adult who now has to run things by another person, etc. But we want to know what marital challenges SURPRISED you after you came home from the tropical honeymoon with the bling on your finger and thawed out your frozen wedding cake slice a year later.

Will Smith speaking seriously. Overlaid text reads, I was not going to fail in this marriage

So I want to know: Married people, what are the everyday realities of marriage that were much harder than you thought they'd be?

A woman looks pensive; a man sits in the background

You could reflect on your first fight with your spouse. How did you handle it? Maybe you realized later that you were actually in the wrong.

A couple argues in a bedroom

It could be about how you handle in-laws who are blind to boundaries, and your spouse is blind to their blindness.

A couple and a mother-in-law sitting at a table. The wife looks frustrated while the mother-in-law lectures her with a hand on her son's shoulder
A couple and a mother-in-law sitting at a table. The wife looks frustrated while the mother-in-law lectures her with a hand on her son's shoulder

It could also be about the challenges of combining your finances. Maybe you're the avid Amazon shopper who should consider cutting back, but your spouse has a bunch of debt that you're now taking on as a household.

A man and woman stand in a kitchen, discussing documents
A man and woman stand in a kitchen, discussing documents

Whatever your lessons are, I want to know about them. Comment below about the everyday realities of marriage that were waaay harder than you thought they would be. You can also fill out this form if you prefer to remain anonymous. Your response may be featured in a BuzzFeed Community post!

A man and a woman sit on a couch, engaged in a serious conversation
A man and a woman sit on a couch, engaged in a serious conversation
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