This paper proposes relay selection techniques for XOR physical layer network coding with MMSE based non-linear precoding in MIMO bi-directional wireless relaying networks. The proposed selection techniques are derived on the different assumption about characteristics of the MMSE based non-linear precoding in the wireless network. We show that the signal to noise power ratio (SNR) is dependent on the product of all the eigenvalues in the channels from the terminals to relays. This paper shows that the best selection techniques in all the proposed techniques is to select a group of the relays that maximizes the product. Therefore, the selection technique is called “product of all eigenvalues (PAE)” in this paper. The performance of the proposed relay selection techniques is evaluated in a MIMO bi-directional wireless relaying network where two terminals with 2 antennas exchange their information via relays. When the PAE is applied to select a group of the 2 relays out of the 10 relays where an antenna is placed, the PAE attains a gain of more than 13dB at the BER of 10^-3.